this is the code for the render ad
Destination Weddings Discussions

Slight Panic... (kind of long, sorry)

Good morning! Has anyone else's FI been kind of flaky about helping with planning? My guy has been really good at throwing curve balls my way as I'm about to finalize any detail for the wedding. So of course, last week - as I'm days away from putting 50% down on our reception location - he announces that there are certain things he wants his reception to be and now won't budge. To clarify, he and I have discussed the pros and cons over and over in the past couple months and he agreed on reception place #1. 

With his announcement last week, I told him he needed to take over the research and calling places. To my surprise he actually found a decent place that offers pretty much everything we both want for the reception - and at almost 1/2 the cost! The problem is they cannot book their function room on Wednesdays because it's the only day of the week they host their public luau. They can, however, accommodate us the day before. 

My dilemma. Our  officiant is not available the day before our original wedding date. The other dates she offered are not feasible due to travel days of my VIPs. My MUA is available and willing to switch dates. What would you do? Would you eat the cost of a small deposit made for the officiant and book someone that could accommodate the day that works for the reception location?  
Wedding Countdown Ticker

Re: Slight Panic... (kind of long, sorry)

  • TerriHuggTerriHugg member
    Fifth Anniversary 500 Comments 100 Love Its First Answer
    edited January 2013
    If the budget allows for it, I would ditch the officiant and book a different to accomodate the new date since you both seem to love the reception site. Decide if you love the officiant or the new reception site more. 

    If not, I would tell FI that we need to stick with the original one and see if there are other ways to incorporate his ideas into the reception. 


    By the way, kudos to your FI for finding a great place. Thumbs down on his terrible timing. LOL Atleast he is involved now. 

    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • I agree with Terri!
  • I agree too.  It sounds like you are saving a little bit of money by switching venues anyway, so if it makes your FI happier I would go ahead and switch. 
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • Thanks ladies. Man, the more I talk to vendors in Hawaii, the happier I am we are having our DW there. Everyone's so nice. My coordinator/officiant realized her services were probably not going to work for us and started helping me find plan Bs. We haven't officially cancelled her or changed our date, but she's making this easy for us. Whew.
    Wedding Countdown Ticker
  • I agree with everyone you want your day to be perfect and on top of that you can put the money you save from switching venues to your new officiant!
    Anniversary
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards