Hair, Nails, & Makeup + Gift?!!

Re: Hair, Nails, & Makeup + Gift?!!

• monkeysip member

  

  October 2012

  You only need to pay for the hair, nails, and make-up IF you are asking them to have it done a certain way.
  
  Otherwise, just have them do their own hair/make-up/nails, or pay for it themselves only if they want to.
  
  You SHOULD get them a gift, however, but it doesn't need to be really expensive.  Something meaningful and from the heart.

  
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• heroeswearbrown member

  

  October 2012

  You only have to pay for their hair, makeup and nails if you are requiring them to have these things professionally done. If you aren't requiring it, then it's up to them.
  
  We have gifts for our BMs, GMs, and FGs. I will also be doing small tokens of appreciation like a bottle of local wine for our reader and Cantor. I'm also writing a lovely note to each of them to go along with it.
  
  Gifts don't have to be a big expense. Something heartfelt can go a long way farther than an expensive gift.

  

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• QueerFemme member

  

  October 2012

  if you are requiring hair, makeup, nails, etc. (like, I want ALL of you to have an up-do!), then you have to pay for it.  If you tell them they can have their hair and makeup however they want, but, you are making the hair and makeup person available in the even THEY want it done, then no, you don't have to pay for it.
  
  Either way though, you should get them a gift. It doesn't have to be big.  Shop for each person like you would their birthday.  Something personal and heartfelt with a sweet note. 
  
  The makeup, hair and nails is in no way related to their gift.

  

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• KaitheyMartin member

  

  October 2012

  You don't necessiraly have to pay for their hair, nails and make-up... Or you may ask them while discussing things. See, what they want. And a gift would do... You can give something personalized, like this... having some of your cute pics on them

  http://www.thepersonalizedmall.com/custom-contemporary-photo-makeup-bag

  Heartfelt personalized gifts to show you care

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• itzMS member

  

  October 2012

  In my circle, getting your hair professionally done is never "required" but it is just something we do. It just becomes an unspoken requirement/tradition.
  
  So, the BM's would be paying $60 for it anyways...why WOULDN'T I pay for it...even if I'm not "requiring" it? Trust me, my bridesmaids far appreciated the savings by having their hair, makeup, and dress paid for by me than they would any "shop like it's their birthday" gift. I already get them gifts like that for their actual birthday & Christmas...
  
  Saving $200+ on hair, makeup, and the dress is certainly a treat for them! Anyone who says otherwise is just being petty.
  
  
  I think it honestly depends, to a certain extent, on local customs. And practicality.

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• itzMS member

  

  October 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_attire-accessories_hair-nails-makeup-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:15Discussion:653a893c-c1b3-42d1-937a-c16ee4c9cd32Post:8b4f1e04-2884-420a-8632-dcd70463f4fc">Re: Hair, Nails, & Makeup + Gift?!!</a>:
  [QUOTE]They wouldn't be getting their hair, nails and makeup done UNLESS it was for your wedding.  It is therefore NOT a treat for them.  Does this make sense? No, it is NOT "petty" to feel that getting a day at the salon as a "gift" when the bride wants this done to my body for HER big day isn't a real gift. Don't assume it's local custom. It's just something that a bride with bad taste did.
  Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
  
  Oh, sheesh.
  
  OP, ultimately you know your friends. My bridal party would not have wanted some physical gift. I wrote them all nice notes and paid for the hairstyles, makeup, and dresses <em>of their choosing</em>. My friends and I agree that we don't need "stuff" to show we're appreciated in a bridal party. This was discussed beforehand, and it's not bad taste. Being in a wedding is expensive, and choosing as a bride to make it a no-cost experience for your bridal party absolutely not bad taste.

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• jennylee813 member

  

  October 2012

  As PPs have said, unless you're requiring a certain style you do not have to pay, nor is it expected. If you want them to have updos, for example, then yes, you do.
  
  Bridesmaids buy the dress and show up. They can choose to do their own hair and makeup OR can choose to have it professionally done. I've noticed that salons have been promoting spa days for bridal parties lately but guess what???
  
  They're in it to make money.
  
  It's the wedding industry.
  
  Give them a thoughtful gift and a personal note to thank them, and don't micromanage the hair.

  

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• hhaas44

  

  December 2012

  After giving it much thought and talking to many people... I think paying for either hair, nails, or makeup (or all if the bride chooses to do so), can constitute as part of their gift. I've worked weddings for 5 years and NEVER seen the bridesmaids without their hair done. I think it's pretty well known if you ACCEPT to be a bridesmaid there's a good chance you are going to have to pay to have your hair done. Of course, they won't have it all done the same way ladies. My hair is thick and long. My sisters is fine and short. But professional, classy, and "done" are the key words. So, yes, if you CHOOSE to be a bridesmaid and you think the bride is going to buy you a gift, pay for your nails, makeup, and hair you're living in dream land. Most bridesmaids do have their nails and hair done (I think makeup is choice) as you have many closeups with their nails. But when you're doing a wedding and paying for everything - from invitations to a decorator for lighting to photography and everything in between, you don't have 50 dollars to spend on a bridesmaid for her hair updo times 5 and have someone tell you it's not a gift, or at least PART of the gift. Not saying so is very selfish on the bridesmaid's end.

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• hhaas44

  

  December 2012

  Let me add to a few specific of you that quote "a treat for the bridesmaids" that you ask those ladies to stand up there with you at the alter when you make the biggest promise of your life. You're asking them to stand beside you in support and out of love and if they are true friends and sisters and family, they will do so willingly (not to get some "treat" out of it). Now, when they say yes and are paying for a dress and shoes, I think every girl out there would appreciate her gift as part of helping her complete "her look" and having her feel beautiful up there beside you in your gorgeous wedding gown without having to spend a fortune after already purchasing a dress and shoes. So, with this being said, let's remember WHY we ask these ladies to stand up there with us and WHY they say YES. I am giving my girls a little white clutch (because how often do you get dressed up... not much, but when you do I remember many a time searching my closet for a decent enough purse to go with the rest of me dressed to the nines) filled with things they can use for the wedding day and after like bobby pins, breath mints, hand lotion, a lipstick, and so forth. and then I'm paying for their nails. Thanks to the comments girls. I've decided!

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