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June 2013 Weddings
Klyn1983
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Sisterly drama
Welp, it's my turn with some drama with my sister. Curious as to whether I have the right to be upset or not.
This sister is also the one who stepped out of my bridal party due to "financial issues" and the very next day got two more tattoos. She became engaged a few months after I did and immediately said her wedding was going to be a few weeks before ours, her fiance spoke up and said he didn't want to get married so soon and he wanted to push it back to 2014-2015.
Today I find out from her that their date is: June 14, 2014. o.O Exactly one year from my wedding.
WTF.
I'm furious. I understand that it's a year away and everything. But really? The 14th of June?! Out of alllll the freaking days in the year?!?!
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Re: Sisterly drama
lol your not being a bridezilla...at all
Hopefully she does end up changing the date!
I personally don't understand why someone can't get married before or after you, or on a certain day. You don't really own anything, and no matter what they are going to be different. I guarantee that if this would have festered a little bit, she would be the one realizing that she doesn't want to share her date either, and it would likely change anyway.
Competitiveness between siblings is natural, but one day you both will be able to look back on the time you both were engaged together, and it would be nice to remember doing things together instead of how you spent the time trying to one-up the other. Honestly, I can't get Bride Wars out of my head lol. Do your best to just let her TRY to one-up you, but take it with class and once she sees that it doesn't impact you, she will actually start planning with her FI (since it's clear she is making decisions without him right now lol).
I wish I had a sister, or even a best girl friend I could share my excitement with (my best friends are guys) so do your best to not let those petty things bother you. Even if her goal in life might be to drive you nuts lol... But seriously, does it REALLY matter what day she gets married?
Again, so sorry to play devil's advocate, but I am generally pretty nonchalant about these things. If FI's bro gets engaged before our wedding (entirely possible, theyve been talking about it) I wouldn't care if theirs was the day before mine, I would have fun planning the both of them together.
My sister isnt married yet but I really hope things don't get competitve between us (And I don't think she will be getting married before me to be honest as I know they are saving up for a home which is awesome!)
Yes it is a year away but in my family/ close circle of friends we have a little bbq or party (depending on time of the year) for the 1st anniversary so that would have to be postponed or cancelled (not THAT big of a deal but it's something I've grown used to and look forward to on our anni.)
Also, yes anyone can get married whenever they want and where-ever. Buttt I think in this case where it's your sister possibly trying to 'spite' you just for the heck of it, I would be peeved. Do you think showing her it doesn't bother you at all would make her less inclined to drive you up the wall?
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[QUOTE]Things are calm now, she changed the date to the end of June. FI was pretty upset about the whole situation though. @ ashlidie, I could care less if she has it on the 13th, 15th or any other day of any other month...<strong>but to choose June 14th when she knew we picked it was just plain rude</strong>. We aren't very close to begin with, it's a complicated story but basically I didn't even know she existed until we were both adults. There is a level of competition coming from her which I never expected. I wish we could plan our weddings together, but sadly that won't ever happen. <strong>Too much has happened now to think we can have those bonding moments.</strong> When she stepped down from the bridal party, I realized our relationship meant nothing to her.
Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]
<div>First, breathe. Also, in a previous post you said your sister did NOT know your date so her and her FI picked a date. Whether she 'forgot' or legit forgot, she did eventually apologize and felt bad about it. You get one day, but that's not one recurring day every year, just one. My mom and one of her brothers share a wedding date (yrs apart), but still, nobody flipped out over it.</div><div>
</div><div>From a personal note (in reference to the 2nd bolded part): I'm the oldest of 4 girls, there are LOADS of competitive bs and drama that have occurred between the 4 of us. There is one sister I'm not as close to, but we're mending fences. Please don't have this attitude that it's too late for these bonding moments, it's not too late for you to be on better terms w/ your sister (idk if this date situation is the tip of the iceburg or just a small glitch in your otherwise ok relationship) so please don't give up. It would be very sad, though, if you decide to not include your sister as you wanted to, over just this. Also, if you trully feel like you don't want to include your sister in the wedding planning, reframe it as a way to include other ppl who are important to you in your plans.</div>
[QUOTE]Uh oh, so here I go against the grain... but the good news is it seems the issue has come and gone. <div><strong>I personally don't understand why someone can't get married before or after you, or on a certain day. You don't really own anything, and no matter what they are going to be different.</strong> I guarantee that if this would have festered a little bit, she would be the one realizing that she doesn't want to share her date either, and it would likely change anyway. Competitiveness between siblings is natural, but one day you both will be able to look back on the time you both were engaged together, and it would be nice to remember doing things together instead of how you spent the time trying to one-up the other. Honestly, I can't get Bride Wars out of my head lol. Do your best to just let her TRY to one-up you, but take it with class and once she sees that it doesn't impact you, she will actually start planning with her FI (since it's clear she is making decisions without him right now lol). I wish I had a sister, or even a best girl friend I could share my excitement with (my best friends are guys) so do your best to not let those petty things bother you. Even if her goal in life might be to drive you nuts lol... But seriously, does it REALLY matter what day she gets married? Again, so sorry to play devil's advocate, but I am generally pretty nonchalant about these things. If FI's bro gets engaged before our wedding (entirely possible, theyve been talking about it) I wouldn't care if theirs was the day before mine, I would have fun planning the both of them together.
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</div><div>Same.
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