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For those of you who are 30 something brides

LADY324LADY324
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How long do you want to wait to have kids once you are married?

I will be 30 when we get married FI will turn 31 the sept after we get married.  We had a talk last night and decided that we are going to go on one more vacation after our honeymoon.  We are getting married July 2012 then we want to go away for 1 more trip that December then we want to start trying to have some babies :)

I was just curious how long the other 30 something brides will wait since everyone talks about the biological clock ticking!
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  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    We waited just under a year to start trying and I got pregnant right away.  It will be just over a year and half after the wedding when I have this baby any day now!!!!
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  • MissButtersMissButters
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    edited December 2011
    It will be at least a year before we have the kid.  We probably will start TTC this spring/summer - so about 6-9 months after the wedding.
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  • altimat873altimat873 member
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    edited December 2011
    I will be 29 and FI will be 30, we want to start having kids right away. We bought our house over 3 years ago and I have an MBA, steady job and hes finishing school and should be done next spring, also has a steady job (as steady as one can get in this economy) so we are ready. The whole family is hoping for a HM baby.
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:e06115d1-349f-485d-a642-029be9673ec3">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]I will be 29 and FI will be 30, we want to start having kids right away. We bought our house over 3 years ago and I have an MBA, steady job and hes finishing school and should be done next spring, also has a steady job (as steady as one can get in this economy) so we are ready. The whole family is hoping for a HM baby.
    Posted by altimat873[/QUOTE]

    Awesome we are in the same boat we will have owned our house for 3 years by the time we are married.  I have a steady good paying job but FI is looking for a permanent teaching job!  Hopefully he will find one for next Sept.  Right now he is a permanent sub.
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  • NJhousewife22NJhousewife22 member
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    edited December 2011
    I want to wait a bit (but not too long). I think we'll try in 2 years or so. I want to get that first one in under the 35 mark. LOL

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  • LADY324LADY324
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:cc5c5fc5-0bbf-42f6-9123-9cc3c9a23c04">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]We waited just under a year to start trying and I got pregnant right away.  It will be just over a year and half after the wedding when I have this baby any day now!!!!
    Posted by goaliegirl[/QUOTE]

    Ah you must be so excited!
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  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:beb68479-eeb6-47dd-a4a7-dc29b9e4a12c">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides : Ah you must be so excited!
    Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]


    You have no idea!!! I can't wait...every day now I wake up and wonder if today is going to be the day he arrives!! It is a crazy feeling!!!
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:7a869b12-f9c4-4dad-9f8a-686779c12012">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides : You have no idea!!! I can't wait...every day now I wake up and wonder if today is going to be the day he arrives!! It is a crazy feeling!!!
    Posted by goaliegirl[/QUOTE]

    awh so exciting!!!!  Do you have a name picked out? 
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  • maddie7maddie7 member
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    edited December 2011

    We waited about 6 months. We are trying hopefully now. We are planning a big trip to Hawaii this summer. Hopefully I will be pregnant. I feel safer staying state-side. Originally we were going to do Europe again. I definitely feel like this Hawaii trip will be our last big trip for 18 years!!! ha ha Thats why we are going all out!

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  • GolfChick78GolfChick78 member
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    edited December 2011
    We'll going to start trying pretty soon.  We've already been together for a long time so we've had the vacations and the time alone.  Now I want to start a family.
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  • K&J64K&J64 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm 30 now, J is only 27, she'll be 28 this November. We'll probably wait 2 years at which point I will attempt to become pregnant. She wants to mother a child at some point too, but since she's almost 3 years younger I'd like to give it a go first.

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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:518b4da3-e1c5-404d-abb4-ba963d332b66">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm 30 now, J is only 27, she'll be 28 this November. We'll probably wait 2 years at which point I will attempt to become pregnant. She wants to mother a child at some point too, but since she's almost 3 years younger I'd like to give it a go first.
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    Are you the one in the brown or the black sweatshirt? (Just curious!)
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:628040bb-0d03-4346-881c-a34425517ba9">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]We waited about 6 months. We are trying hopefully now. We are planning a big trip to Hawaii this summer. Hopefully I will be pregnant. I feel safer staying state-side. Originally we were going to do Europe again. I definitely feel like this Hawaii trip will be our last big trip for 18 years!!! ha ha Thats why we are going all out!
    Posted by maddie7[/QUOTE]

    This is why my FI wants to wait until the december after we get married.  He said he wants to go on 2 more trips before we have kids so the honeymoon in July and somewhere warm during his winter break that december. 
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  • kasabbykasabby
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    edited December 2011
    I am 33 and FI is 35. We would love to have kids right away but we rent right now and would like to get a house first. We plan on house hunting right after the wedding. It is too much for me planning an out of town wedding to start looking now!
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  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:9380fc6d-575b-4be6-8df9-cda5ad679d8b">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides : awh so exciting!!!!  Do you have a name picked out? 
    Posted by LADY324[/QUOTE]

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  • KristinathebrideKristinathebride member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:f2b3dfda-badf-48ef-af77-31dbff261837">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides : He will be Austin Jack!   
    Posted by goaliegirl[/QUOTE]

    ADORABLE name!!!  Congrats :)
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  • KristinathebrideKristinathebride member
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    edited December 2011
    Well, I'll be 30 when we marry in October and my fiance will be 37.  We have our honeymoon, a cruise we are planning for Spring 2012 and are now planning a trip to Italy for our one year anniversary and would like to start trying AFTER we get back..I'd rather not be pregnant on our trip to Italy but you never know, lol.  We'd like to be at least expecting our first by the time I am 33 and he is 40 :)
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  • JoBell123JoBell123
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    edited December 2011
    I'll be a few months shy of 30 at the wedding and FI will be 36.  We're going to wait a year before we try.  We want more than one kid (at least that's the thinking now) so we don't want to wait too long or else he'll be well into his 40's when we've had our last child.  Maybe an anniversary baby?

    We also are planning on renting for a year or two before buying a house, so we'll hopefully be homeowners by the time our first comes.
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  • K&J64K&J64 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:26b6848d-d091-4245-ba61-ca3adcd34b10">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides : Are you the one in the brown or the black sweatshirt? (Just curious!)
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    I'm in brown on the right :)

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  • cindyn9178cindyn9178 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'll be 33 when we get married... I didn't vote... because we don't want any kids!
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  • ffbride_0813ffbride_0813
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    edited December 2011
    I thought that we would try within a year.  Now we have decided to go to Oktoberfest and we still are unsure.  I thought this would be an easy decision but now that we have been married a while and have to actually act instead of think we just keep pushing it off.  We have been married 8 months and are 30.  I started a new job this year so that is somewhat preventing us from saying yes.  We also finally have money in the bank and can be a little frivolous and I dont think we want to give that up yet either. 
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  • nmeirosenmeirose
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    edited December 2011
    I already have a 6 year old daugher from my previous marriage, and I am 34.  We are pretty much going off birth control in a month or so, and letting the chips fall where they may.  I really wanted to be pregnant again before I turn 35- I know it is just a number but it's how I feel, so we are going with it and seeing what fate brings us!

    Let me just tell you ladies though, since I've been there done that, you can still have big vacations after you have kids- I brought my daughter everywhere and our lives are richer for it!  Babies are very portable.  :p
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  • ginabean82ginabean82 member
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    edited December 2011
    I didn't vote either because honestly I'm not 100% sure I want kids.  I kinda feel like it's something that's expected of me after I get married, and I do feel I will be pressured into it.  My FI isn't sure he wants kids either so it does work out for the both of us.  I'm still kinda young, just turned 28, so who knows.  Part of me is selfish, I dont want to have to do without my vacations/shopping trips/hair cuts ect.  But the other part of me thinks it might be rewarding...sigh...
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:836e72da-0472-4ff9-91e0-609f2ecfd556">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]I already have a 6 year old daugher from my previous marriage, and I am 34.  We are pretty much going off birth control in a month or so, and letting the chips fall where they may.  I really wanted to be pregnant again before I turn 35- I know it is just a number but it's how I feel, so we are going with it and seeing what fate brings us! Let me just tell you ladies though, since I've been there done that, you can still have big vacations after you have kids- I brought my daughter everywhere and our lives are richer for it!  Babies are very portable.  :p
    Posted by nmeirose[/QUOTE]

    Lol you know what that is a great point!!
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  • LADY324LADY324
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:f2b3dfda-badf-48ef-af77-31dbff261837">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides : He will be Austin Jack!   
    Posted by goaliegirl[/QUOTE]

    Super cute good luck and post pics once you are back home and settled in!!  I wish you a very quick and easy delivery :)
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  • JoBell123JoBell123
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_those-of-30-something-brides?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:bb4002bc-fd80-47b4-81e7-fe363f67e770Post:836e72da-0472-4ff9-91e0-609f2ecfd556">Re: For those of you who are 30 something brides</a>:
    [QUOTE] Let me just tell you ladies though, since I've been there done that, you can still have big vacations after you have kids- I brought my daughter everywhere and our lives are richer for it!  Babies are very portable.  :p
    Posted by nmeirose[/QUOTE]

    That's my plan!  Or leave them with the grandparents!
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  • Reilly626Reilly626 member
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    edited December 2011
    We are trying now, about 6 mo. passed our wedding. Planning a big vacation this summer also! Once you have kids you have the "guilt" leaving them home, and kids at a romantic resort just dont make it romantic... I look forward to family vacations with kids like Yellowstone, but will enjoy the romantic ones now!
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  • hcer0708hcer0708 member
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    edited December 2011
    I am 30 and Fi is 34.. We will prob start trying right after our 1yr anniversary
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  • Just JenJust Jen
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    edited December 2011
    I'll be 35 in a month, and my 1-year wedding anniversary is Sunday.

    We're not trying yet, but probably later this year. It still scares the crap outta me, though :)
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  • nmeirosenmeirose
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    edited December 2011
    Don't be scared!  Are you scared about possibly not being able to get pregnant, or scared of how your life changes?

    I was scared about not being able to get pregnant w #1, and it happened right away.  Now, with FI, I love him so much, and our relationship is so good, that I know that even if there are any issues with TTC we will get through it together.  I know that is probably easier for me to say though since I already have dd! 

    As for being scared about how your life will change, oh your life will change, big time!  I get a little scared about that with FI because right now, we have every other weekend and every wed night to ourselves bc DD is with her dad.  Losing that "Us" time with suck, and honestly if I was a little younger I would probably wait.  But this is where I am at and the age I am, so I know god will guide us to the right thing happening at the right time.

    My ex and I took dd on vacations to St Martin, St. Thomas and Lake Tahoe, besides more traditional 'kid' things like Disney World, and I can honestly say that yes the vacations were not the same romantically as they had been, but they were even better in a different way.  Since I have been divorced, I've been on a short 4 night vacation without dd with FI, and it was great, but I did miss her!  I know FI and I's honeymoon is going to be fantastic, but that will be the longest I have ever been away from DD and I know it is going to be a little hard. 

    Sorry I got off on a tangent there!  :)  Happy weddings, babymaking, and deliveries to all!
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