FMIL and I are completely different. She is the kind of "lady" that likes to sit under a tree drinking tea while letting the men handle everything. I'm more of a do it myself, Harley riding, has all guy friends kind of girl. She doesn't realize this at all. There have been numerous situations where we clash but I just let it go or continue to be completely fake because I want us to get along for FI's sake.
At my shower this past Saturday she kept telling my BM, who through the shower, that there was "too much food and it was inappropriate." I told them both, together, that I thought it was great and everybody loved the shower and it seemed to shut FMIL up (for a little bit). She told the same BM that she needed to lose some weight to look better in her dress. This wasn't around me, but around my mother who said the BM was fine. This was also as the BM was trying on the newly altered dress. She pulled my mom to the side and told her that tons of things will go wrong with the wedding day so she should expect it and not freak out. Turns out my FMIL was referring to how she thought my mom would react when seeing my dad at the wedding. FMIL thinks she knows all about the situation but has no clue because we haven't shared that info with her.
Ugh! It's not like I can mention this stuff to FI because I don't want him to think I hate his mother...you never want to bash someone's mom. I did tell him that she made my BM feel bad. He sympathized because she knows how she is. She really was trying to be "nice" in her way. She is just one of those oblivious people that says something hurtful and doesn't realize it to be hurtful. I'm not really asking for advice. I just wanted to get some of that off my chest to my WP girls. I'm just so tired of being fake around her and putting up this front. It is beginning to take more and more strength to hold my tongue around her. The wedding should be fun.
