Limited seating at ceremony...

TaraKeeley · July 2012

Just how short on seating will you be? If you really don't want to change the venue and can't find a way to provide some more seating, I would definitely reserve spots. Maybe take the first two rows and put signs on them that say "reserved" and then put a sign on each seat with the persons name. Also, I'd make sure ushers or signs communciate that seating is limited, so that super small children are seated in laps or sharing seats.

TheSlowskys · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-seating-at-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d80cf9d0-a21d-4b04-b250-74910d49f5caPost:6b3bfc70-b2c8-4ba9-aaa9-03d402cbf26a">Re: Limited seating at ceremony...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Limited seating at ceremony... : Where did any of us say that we expected/were okay with no seating at the cocktail hour specifically? Or that we were okay with a TWO HOUR cocktail hour (the real problem), which is ridiculous? Any bride who came in and told us about a plan like that would be getting the exact same reaction. For the record, my whole reception was cocktail/appetizers and we had a seat for every butt and THEN some. <strong>Even for a short cocktail hour, I would not expect less than</strong> <strong>70% seating</strong>, unless it was somewhere like a museum or art gallery.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt="Surprised" title="Surprised" /> Thinking back to the past 2 dozen weddings I've been to, I don't think any have had more than 15% seating during cocktail hour unless the cocktail hour was in the same room as the reception.

I hadn't even given it any thought for my venue yet but was just going to do whatever my caterer suggested. I guess I get a free pass since cocktails are in a gallery ;)

Viczaesar · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-seating-at-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d80cf9d0-a21d-4b04-b250-74910d49f5caPost:3aac59d5-1328-41fa-ac45-f1c6b77ee5fb">Re: Limited seating at ceremony...</a>:
[QUOTE]While OP should definitely get seating for the ceremony, I think it's ridiculous that everyone here expects no seating for a cocktail hour, but against no seating for a ceremony. I was at a wedding with a 20 minute ceremony that I would have had no problem standing during, but then they had a two hour long cocktail hour with maybe 20 chairs. I got to choose between a concrete ledge with plants sticking in my ear and blocking a staircase because I can't stand that long. FI and I would have left early if we hadn't come with his parents.
Posted by Chloeagh[/QUOTE]
Who said we expect no seating for a cocktail hour? I absolutely do expect that.

ootmother2 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-seating-at-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d80cf9d0-a21d-4b04-b250-74910d49f5caPost:08015b26-b122-438b-984a-49ec5900e460">Re: Limited seating at ceremony...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Limited seating at ceremony... : Thanks everyone, frankly I expected those responses. Unfortunately it's too late to change the venue. My fiance and my family thought "no big deal" - it's on the deck of a large boat on the Delaware River in Phila (THe Moshulu) so their thoughts were, it's spacious/scenic/etc. But I never fully agreed on this. There is an option to rent more seats, I was trying to avoid having to allocate money there. But I agree with all of you. I think it's something we just need to work into the budget. Thanks again.
Posted by cbradeis[/QUOTE]

Great!

ootmother2 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-seating-at-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d80cf9d0-a21d-4b04-b250-74910d49f5caPost:9e164808-0898-4264-87f0-0b52cf2303f2">Re: Limited seating at ceremony...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Limited seating at ceremony... : Well, your post came across as "suck it up, you worthless whiney b!tch", so I guess it's a push. If you'd displace grandma from her seat, or someone else who likely has a good reason for being sat while others are standing, or wait in the hot car for an hour or more by yourself in the summer heat, more power to ya. But I'm not going to. Also, you're assuming that I'm the only guest like this at these weddings. What happens when 10 of the guests all start speaking up that they need chairs that don't exist? Or what about those who don't "need" them, but are still incredibly uncomfortable and suffering because they wore the wrong shoes to stand for that long? Put on a pair of heels and stand in one spot in your living room for an hour. You'll find that even though your knee doesn't give out and cause you excrutiating pain, you're probably still pretty dang grumpy at the end of that hour. The point isn't that the bride should make special arrangements for my condition. The point is that seating is a basic comfort and NO ONE should have to stand for that long at a hosted event. That's just basic etiquette and good manners. The fact that there are many people who physically cannot endure that suffering was the reason I said to make sure and let people know beforehand that they will have to stand. It still doesn't make the offense any less awful for the guests who can and do stay and suffer.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Sorry but I agree with PP. You do tend to jump on posters without knowing the whole story

NOLAbridealmost · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_limited-seating-at-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d80cf9d0-a21d-4b04-b250-74910d49f5caPost:429724f0-bf77-4714-91ca-59116ce5fbe3">Re:Limited seating at ceremony...</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re:Limited seating at ceremony...:In Response to Re: Limited seating at ceremony...:In Response to Re: Limited seating at ceremony... : Sorry but I agree with PP.nbsp; You do tend to jump on posters without knowing the whole story Posted by ootmother2 Where the hell did I jump on ANYONE in my first to responses. They weren't directed at anyone but OP and simply answered her question without attacking her at all. I'm the one who was "attacked", though I don't really consider exchanges with internet strangers attacks. Your post makes no sense in the context of this thread. ETA: just realized that I cannot fully tell who your post is directed at. If it is directed at Slow, my sincerest apologies.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>I think she was quoting you and agreeing with you as the "PP" she referred to? That's the only way that makes sense. </div><div>
</div><div>OP, I am SO glad you came around. You'll be glad you did. </div><div>
</div><div>And the difference between no seating a cocktail hour and no seating at the ceremony:</div><div>
</div><div>1) Ceremony is kind of, like, <em>the</em> reason for the entire event and guests are expected to (and usually want to) attend. Cocktail hours are typically something optional held between the ceremony (with chairs) and the reception (with chairs) to entertain guests while pictures are taken etc. </div><div>2) During cocktail hours you can walk around, mingle, find a ledge or something to sit on if you wish. You can also skip it without being disrespectful or rude in any way, shape or form. During the ceremony you are literally stuck in one spot; finding somewhere more comfortable is not an option unless you want to miss the ceremony and you'll likely upset the bride and groom if they knew you didn't attend.</div><div>
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