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Bridezilla moment or reasonable request?
Three weeks to the wedding and I have to give head-counts to some of the vendors tomorrow. I've spent all weekend tracking down the dozen people who failed to RSVP on time, and I'm burnt out! I seriously do not have time to make airline reservations for you today, wtf were you thinking??
Anyhow, FI just messages me to ask if his friend's niece can come. I'm like, "No. Why?" Because, of course, he already said she could. Apparently she's having a hard time so she's flying out to stay with her uncle. I'm so sorry to hear that she's struggling, I think this is a great plan because her uncle will be able help her get her life back on track if anyone can, but we don't even know this girl! I've already added people his parents decided a few weeks ago "had" to come, even though we'd asked them every week for nine months who they wanted to invite and they're not paying for anything, so I'm not feeling generous.
We're doing a foodie seated dinner and have really stretched our budget in order to give everyone a memorable meal, from growing our own flowers to diy everything, and adding another person costs us ~$100 we don't have.
Am I a jerk for making FI revoke his verbal invite? I'm not making a decision about this until tonight, hopefully I can stop being angry and start being rational by then
Anyhow, FI just messages me to ask if his friend's niece can come. I'm like, "No. Why?" Because, of course, he already said she could. Apparently she's having a hard time so she's flying out to stay with her uncle. I'm so sorry to hear that she's struggling, I think this is a great plan because her uncle will be able help her get her life back on track if anyone can, but we don't even know this girl! I've already added people his parents decided a few weeks ago "had" to come, even though we'd asked them every week for nine months who they wanted to invite and they're not paying for anything, so I'm not feeling generous.
We're doing a foodie seated dinner and have really stretched our budget in order to give everyone a memorable meal, from growing our own flowers to diy everything, and adding another person costs us ~$100 we don't have.
Am I a jerk for making FI revoke his verbal invite? I'm not making a decision about this until tonight, hopefully I can stop being angry and start being rational by then
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Re: Bridezilla moment or reasonable request?
Then again, I am a biitch and I know how annoying tracking down those RSVPs can be at this stage of the game.
[QUOTE]FI says "Oh I am soo sorry. I just spoke with Mango and we are already at our maximum capacity, so we cannot accommodate anyone else. I should have talked to her before saying anything." Then again, I am a biitch and I know how annoying tracking down those RSVPs can be at this stage of the game.
Posted by **Mutley**[/QUOTE]
When I read that I thought of this and chuckled:
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That is probably the best way it could be put without hurting anyones feelings or coming off like a beotch.
That is unless your FI has said directly to her or your uncle that she's invited.
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Been there.
I agree with Mutley. It sounds like your FI is unaware of your budget limits. Maybe you need to break it down for him.
I don't envy you. Our final count was a total bitch to work out because SO MANY people didn't RSVP, and we couldn't get in touch with everyone. We had to make educated guesses, and we ended up with a count of 100.
85 showed up. So my dad paid for 15 extra people who either didn't RSVP or said they'd be attending and didn't.
Off the top of my head, I can think of 7 people who were supposed to come and just never showed. No, wait..... 8.
At some point, it's just out of your hands. Do the best you can and pour yourself an alcoholic beverage. Have a bubble bath. Just chillax. Other people screw things up, and that's just the nature of weddings (according to Jeana).
You're 3 weeks out and she knows she wasn't invited. You're at your maximum.
In the name of maintaining family relations, though, you could always try "blaming" the venue/caterer/etc, as in, "I'm so sorry, but we just turned in our final number to (whoever) and they won't allow us to accomodate another guest." That way you don't seem like the ungracious one.
And we're here to get you through these weeks. Please feel free to complain to us.
Edit-- For the other morons, it's called kayak.com, use it.
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I soo agree with you. First off when you budget, it is by the head and cost you. These people do not uinderstand. I would make a seating chart, post it by the door with assigned seating. If theye did not RSVP, then they are SOL. i PLAN ON HAVING 1 MISC table at my wedding. Worst case scenario, flip the script and tell them that it cost you extra and you have over spent. MAKE THEM CHIP IN.
[QUOTE]I soo agree with you. First off when you budget, it is by the head and cost you. These people do not uinderstand. I would make a seating chart, post it by the door with assigned seating. If theye did not RSVP, then they are SOL. i PLAN ON HAVING 1 MISC table at my wedding. Worst case scenario, flip the script and tell them that it cost you extra and you have over spent. MAKE THEM CHIP IN.
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Your advice would have been OH SO useful if she hadn't already gotten married a few weeks ago. Read thread titled "Joiner521"
THIS IS ANNOYING.
[QUOTE]JOINER - STOP IT. THIS IS ANNOYING.
Posted by katanne9[/QUOTE]
<div>OMG! I've never seen you yell *hides* </div>
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