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Judge worthy pearl clutching behavior

nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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I has it.

I have taken up with my pre-xH fuckbuddy on occasion now that I am moved out.  He keeps me occupied when I am bored and DD is with xH.  I am on medication right now and ended up having to consult medical professionals from our gtg 10 days ago.  It was wildly fantastic, and the injuries were purely accidental.  However, I think my GYN would frown on us getting together again until I'm 100% healed.  I saw him on Thursday and he said, "I would have liked to put at least one stitch in that, but you waited too long to come in."  Ooops.

It has been the most fun I have had since before xH.  And I plan on continuing such shenanigans from time to time until such time I am bored/irritated with him, one of us finds a relationship-worthy person, or he officially breaks me beyond repair.

There you go.  There's something to talk about - either to my "face" or behind my back.

Good news, Kuus - I'm not upping my number at all by circling back to an old flame.  ;)

Also, this is a post and run.  We can discuss more tomorrow.
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I am fascinated by said injuries.

    As an aside, I have trouble judging you for this.  I mean, yeah, on paper it looks like something I would judge, but the specifics... no.
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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    edited December 2011
    I wanted to ask if you've had the relations with your X since the breakup. So, this kinda answers that for me without having to ask.
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  • nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    Um, no.  The stbx can keep whatever it is he thinks he has going on.
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  • NOLABridesmaidNOLABridesmaid member
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    Now I'm side eyeing injuries cause you did birth a baby, so I'm not sure what Mr. Man was doing, but OH MY.

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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    :: claps and laughs and claps some more ::
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  • Cant_wait!Cant_wait!
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    edited December 2011
    Oh MY!
    ::clutches pearls::
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    edited December 2011
    I had been wondering the same thing as Nola. I mean, unless H did something really, really, really terrible, I would have a difficult time not wanting to sleep with him once a while even if I didn't want to be married to him anymore.

    I will not judge you for this, either.  Just be careful with the "I'm free!  I'm free!" shenanigans.  Careful = no stiches OR diseases
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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I suspect the ex-Mr. Leg was none too skilled in the bedroom.
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh dear God. That must hurt.

    But good for you! I hope your meatcurtains heal beautifully, Skankenstein, so you may continue your escapades.
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  • **O-Face****O-Face** member
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    edited December 2011
    I think it's awesome Nico.  A good way to blow off some steam<<<dirty.
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    edited December 2011
    Why would we judge? I don't find this pearl-clutchy at all. 

    And I can't imagine wanting to be divorced, but still wanting to sleep with someone. If I got to the point of divorce, my  bits would be closed for business to him. 
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  • nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_judge-worthy-pearl-clutching-behavior?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cdc68a4e-4479-4d93-a742-2623ccc8297dPost:00d2b574-713e-418a-ae11-39bbff7a153f">Re: Judge worthy pearl clutching behavior</a>:
    [QUOTE] If I got to the point of divorce, my  bits would be closed for business to him. 
    Posted by baconsmom[/QUOTE]

    <div>Exactly.  Which is why I have those needs met elsewhere.  There comes a point where you'd rather do anything (jam a rusty nail through your eye, tear your nipple off, or even voluntarily break a bone) but be with your spouse on any level, so sex is way off the chart.  And really, it boils down to hope.  When there's hope of reconciliation and that things will get better, sex isn't such a far-fetched idea.  When the hope is gone, there is absolutely no desire at all.</div>
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  • arbolitaarbolita
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    edited December 2011
    (let him ) DO YOU, GIRL.  DO YOU.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm also very curious about this injury.

    But as for getting booty, YAY you!!  You need to make yourself happy after being unhappy for so long.   Divorced =/= going sexless  Enjoy!! (once you're healed!)
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  • 6fsn6fsn member
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    edited December 2011
    It's not my pearls I'm clutching.
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  • thatgrrrrlthatgrrrrl member
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    edited December 2011
    Wow... sounds like you birthed a peen. That's pretty freakin' awesome.

    Congrats on the getting your groove on. Keep it up but next time use more lube.
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  • hmonkeyhmonkey member
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    edited December 2011
    baconsmom, i thought you would judge because i thought you said people with kids are undateworthy and should be alone for the rest of their lives.  because that's what those people get when they decide to break a home.  probably because they are jerks.  jerk with kids.
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  • nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    The injury is a result of a simultaneous slip, fall and thrust.  Not intentional and lube was not an issue.  Despite the injury and subsequent pain, TONS of fun.
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  • nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_judge-worthy-pearl-clutching-behavior?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cdc68a4e-4479-4d93-a742-2623ccc8297dPost:ccc48e90-235d-405f-96ac-abe71dcfd132">Re: Judge worthy pearl clutching behavior</a>:
    [QUOTE]baconsmom, i thought you would judge because i thought you said people with kids are undateworthy and should be alone for the rest of their lives.  because that's what those people get when they decide to break a home.  probably because they are jerks.  jerk with kids.
    Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]

    <div>To be fair, I'm not dating anyone.  I'm just fuckinghim.</div>
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  • baconsmombaconsmom member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_judge-worthy-pearl-clutching-behavior?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:cdc68a4e-4479-4d93-a742-2623ccc8297dPost:ccc48e90-235d-405f-96ac-abe71dcfd132">Re: Judge worthy pearl clutching behavior</a>:
    [QUOTE]baconsmom, i thought you would judge because i thought you said people with kids are undateworthy and should be alone for the rest of their lives.  because that's what those people get when they decide to break a home.  probably because they are jerks.  jerk with kids.
    Posted by hmonkey[/QUOTE]
    I said they shouldn't *date* until their kids were older. IE, bring the guy around the kids, let the kids get all attached, then break up and traumatize them all over again.  <div>
    </div><div>I never said anything about sex. </div>
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  • nicoleg1982nicoleg1982 member
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    edited December 2011
    This guy has never met stbx or DD, and it will probably remain that way until the end of time.
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    edited December 2011
    Needing a stitch for a slip & fall??  where you on a trampoline?  holy hell.
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  • AuntFloAuntFlo member
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    edited December 2011
    I am so intrigued by how you got the injury.   I miss the days when injuries were imminent.
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