Uninvited Date

Re: Uninvited Date

• TurtlesAllTheWayDown member

  

  March 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_uninvited-date?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cc658bcd-4fdd-4472-a581-9af22660e366Post:d63853c4-06f8-44f7-80c6-45ea1a0ec3ca">Re: Uninvited Date</a>:
  [QUOTE]What's the protocol for someone who was truly single when invites go out, but happens to enter into a relationship between when the invite is received and the RSVP is due?  Do you automatically invite the SO? 
  Posted by SB1512[/QUOTE]
  
  If you have sent an invitation to that person alone, since they are single when the invitation goes out, that's fine. However, if you hear about the new SO or they contact you and say they've been in a relationship for a few weeks, it's best to let them attend. Giving someone the option is always the right thing to do. However, a few weeks before the wedding, it's also understandable if budgets and headcounts are already in place and it might not be possible.

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• afink07 member

  

  March 2012

  We're planning to invite everyone with a plus 1 even though we're on a tight budget. It's just plain rude to not invite people that way. You should never judge a person's relationship. Also, to the person who posted about the 13 year old in a relationship, obviously a line is drawn there. It is not legal in most states for them to get married at that age. And most 13 year olds aren't even in relationships to begin with. 

  

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• mfeingold112

  

  March 2012

  i dont know y all these ppl r saying u shouldnt split up couples or that u have to invite him at all... if u start doing that, it gets expensive.. u invite people who live together or who are engaged (unless ur friends with the other person and would invite them anyway), period.

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• Chloeagh member

  

  March 2012

  Yes, but you are all yelling about judging the relationship's seriousness, not whether the couple is going to get married tomorrow. My 60-year-old professor is still with his junior high girlfriend. I know way more people who are still with their high school SO than who are still with a person they started a relationship with 6 months ago. It's rude to judge a relationship's seriousness, only the couple can know that, remember? And just because most of your friends aren't in relationships doesn't mean you don't have to invite the SOs of the ones who are.

  

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