Dear Amy: Our daughter wants her father to give his blessing to her boyfriend "Jack," when the man tells us in a couple of weeks that he wants to marry her, and we need your advice on what Dad should say."Jill" is in her early 20s; Jack is 38. They have known each other maybe three months and moved in together quickly. This is the third time in recent years Jill has been in love and gotten a ring.Jill is beautiful, sexy, smart and fun. However, she is irresponsible, mercenary and manipulative with money.One year ago she lied to a childhood friend serving in Iraq and told him she needed a lot of money to pay medical bills because she had cancer. The money really was for a car.In spring of this year she lied to our family and begged for thousands of dollars to keep this car from being repossessed.Jill has a history of not meeting her financial obligations and of stiffing people for services rendered.Her credit rating is in the toilet and she has spent some brief stints in jail.We have gotten hundreds of calls from creditors and collection agencies because she shielded herself by giving out our home address.So, Amy, when Dad sees Jack (whom he has met twice for a total of maybe two hours), should he simply give his blessing and leave it at that?— Third Degree Burns
