WTF?!?

MinM · February 2012

And if your relatives can't get weed in Jamaica, they aren't trying hard enough. Nice resort =/= inability to get weed. Nice resort = ability to get GOOD weed.

SarahSvrjcek · February 2012

TIP of the iceburg! The TIP!!! GOD!!!

*Hangs head in shame*

SarahSvrjcek · February 2012

No, I can't have a wedding without my family!

It's just that I can only feel okay about this MYSELF if it was something normal, like a destination wedding. Then, oops! Ran outta money! Y'all understand, doncha'? And I don't have to feel like a bad person.

But if I make everybody do something they don't want to do just because MY family is a bunch of mess-ups.

...but I don't want to spend 10k just to have my aunt ruin my day like she did at my Christening (Swear.). And if she doesn't ruin it, someone else will. Just thinking about them interacting with Richard's family makes me cringe.

...the thought of telling my family not to come makes me cringe, too. And my Mom would roll over in her grave. No way.

SarahSvrjcek · February 2012

Thank you guys for trying to help me figure this out, btw. I've gotten nothing done today, lol. I really gotta go soon.

Sh%t! What should I do! Man, I hate my effen family! They make everything so difficult! Even my wedding! F&ckers! >:(

redheadfsu · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wtf-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:9e8f96c1-b671-486d-a720-1cfbd8d7f90fPost:24bbd047-75cf-4571-8c67-6977bee633bc">Re: WTF?!?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF?!? : also, you're going to need to be legally married in the states, anyways, so you could always have a lowkey dinner for your preferred guests after the courthouse wedding.
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]

This is incorrect.

The USA recognizes legal marriages* outside the country. <strong>Do not give legal advice especially when it is 100% wrong</strong>.

SarahSvrjcek · February 2012

Right. We're being married in Jamaica furreals. (She might have been wrong, but you didn't have to be so snippy, though, geez...) *eskimo kiss*

*Barbie* · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wtf-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:9e8f96c1-b671-486d-a720-1cfbd8d7f90fPost:4efa2e7d-b875-457c-9140-7430fdffc22e">Re: WTF?!?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF?!? : This is incorrect. The USA recognizes legal marriages* outside the country. Do not give legal advice especially when it is 100% wrong .
Posted by redheadfsu[/QUOTE]

i have friends who got married in Aruba at a Sandals, and had to have a courthouse wedding in the states to be legally married here. i do not know if the same applies to Jamaica. this is something that Sarah will need to research - and discuss with the coordinator at the resort.

are you a lawyer? if so, maybe you shouldn't be giving legal advice.

redheadfsu · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wtf-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:9e8f96c1-b671-486d-a720-1cfbd8d7f90fPost:966f8eeb-1ae1-40cb-a50f-1fc359b0c458">Re: WTF?!?</a>:
[QUOTE]Right. We're being married in Jamaica furreals. (She might have been wrong, but you didn't have to be so snippy, though, geez...) *eskimo kiss*
Posted by SarahSvrjcek[/QUOTE]

It is a common misconception that people spread about DWs.

Plus, non-lawyers should never give out legal advice, it cause tons of headaches for everyone involved.

*Barbie* · February 2012

i'm not a lawyer, but i play one on TV.

redheadfsu · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wtf-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:9e8f96c1-b671-486d-a720-1cfbd8d7f90fPost:e96ee4fb-3043-4c01-a097-0bf98686aaa9">Re: WTF?!?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF?!? : i have friends who got married in Aruba at a Sandals, and had to have a courthouse wedding in the states to be legally married here. i do not know if the same applies to Jamaica. this is something that Sarah will need to research - and discuss with the coordinator at the resort. are you a lawyer? if so, maybe you shouldn't be giving legal advice.
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]

Their Aruba marriage was legal if they actually followed the law. Your friends didn't do it right. They didn't need a courthouse wedding. But they might have had a vow renewal because they didn't want to wait for the residency requirements (usually a few days). People don't get really married in Mexico because they don't want to do the blood test. <strong>But they can get legally married there, they just choose not to.</strong>

SarahSvrjcek · February 2012

We thought the same thing. Planned on the same 8 people to be at the courthouse, but then we talked to our wedding coordinator and...paid the deposit for the ceremony and honeymoon.

So what should I do? I can't have a party back home and not invite my family.

But I don't want to spend all that money and have them ruin the reception.

And I don't want to piss the people that are closest to me off by making the deal with the travel time.

redheadfsu · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wtf-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:9e8f96c1-b671-486d-a720-1cfbd8d7f90fPost:e96ee4fb-3043-4c01-a097-0bf98686aaa9">Re: WTF?!?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: WTF?!? : are you a lawyer? if so, maybe you shouldn't be giving legal advice.
Posted by *Barbie*[/QUOTE]

Telling people that a legal marriage out of the country is valid in the USA won't get my bar license suspended, promise.

ReturnOfKuus · February 2012

I still vote stop making life so easy and consequence-free for them. After all, you know damn well that they wouldn't make life easy for you, because, well, they don't.

SarahSvrjcek · February 2012

"...because, well, they don't." Ha! No, they don't.

But I learned a lot from what happened with my mom and biology and stuff, and when it comes down to it, you just have to accept people.

Oh God -- did I just talk myself back into the reception idea? Richard did mention once or twice that he's horrified by thinking about how the two families would interact. I don't want to waste his money, either. *sigh* *shakes head*

I hate 'em...

And anyways, it's not like nobody's talked to these people about their behavior...that is until Pissy Pant's phone got shut off. But she'lln go to rehab if it's court-ordered and we talk to her about it and my grandparents cut back a ton on how much money they give her. What else can we do? Crush her by telling her that she's an embarassment and that she's not welcome at my wedding...and then she dies? This is the same woman who went on a shopping spree at the dollar store a couple years after my mom died, because she knew that Christmas was hard for us back then. The dollar store was all she could afford, but we opened so many presents. It was so sweet...

I have to get back to work. Doing a presentation on the efficiency of using baculovirus as a vehicle for gene expression in mammalian cell lines. Yay.

L_Woods · February 2012

Have the DW you want. Realize not everyone will a) be as excited as you and b) want to go even though you're paying. So, it sounds like you can now invite the Best Man! Yippee!

Wzz · February 2012

some islands have a residency requirement, which means that the couple must stay on the island for XX amount of days before they can be legally married. if they are only able to fly in the day before, they may want to get a JOP ceremony to make it legal just in case. lots of people will do the JOP wedding in case their flights get delayed or cancelled and they don't want to risk not having the legalities taken care of.

each island has different requirements, though.

*Barbie* · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wtf-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9e8f96c1-b671-486d-a720-1cfbd8d7f90fPost:38dcb97a-d269-44e1-beca-ce83eec0b371">Re: WTF?!?</a>:
[QUOTE]some islands have a residency requirement, which means that the couple must stay on the island for XX amount of days before they can be legally married. if they are only able to fly in the day before, they may want to get a JOP ceremony to make it legal just in case. lots of people will do the JOP wedding in case their flights get delayed or cancelled and they don't want to risk not having the legalities taken care of. each island has different requirements, though.
Posted by Wzz[/QUOTE]
...and you're not even a TV lawyer!

redheadfsu · February 2012

Wzz is correct. But having a destination vow renewal isn't the same as a destination wedding.

DG1 · February 2012

On the one hand, I'm sorry I missed this today.

On the other hand, I get to read all 3 pages at once and just laugh and laugh.

soontobemrsep · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_wtf-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:9e8f96c1-b671-486d-a720-1cfbd8d7f90fPost:5e5a30ed-88f7-4844-99e7-8fd10de95e05">Re: WTF?!?</a>:
[QUOTE]On the one hand,<strong> I'm sorry I missed this today.</strong> On the other hand, I get to read all 3 pages at once and just laugh and laugh.
Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]
<div>I was thinking the SAME thing.</div><div>
</div>

ReturnOfKuus · February 2012

"Crush her by telling her that she's an embarassment and that she's not welcome at my wedding...and then she dies?"

I vote for this option. I'm not saying she's without her redeeming points, but you're not doing her or yourself any favors by making sure the consequences for her drinking fall on you. And really, if you died after the wedding, would she be all torn up with guilt that she drank and made an ass of herself and ruined your reception? I'm betting not.

SarahSvrjcek · February 2012

Aunt Pissy Pants would feel bad about causing a scene at my wedding. She feels bad when she hears what she did while she was trashed; she just isn't genetically programmed and hasn't been taught how to live otherwise. It's like a sickness...

Anyway, I broke it to Richard that I didn't want to do the reception in Jamaica after he got home last night. We found out that my friend was correct -- the airfare will cost too much since both flights would have been scheduled for the weekend.

So we are having the reception at home. I should YouTube it for you guys. It's probably going to be crazy.

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