Christmas Engagement Poll

pumpkinpumpkin · December 2009

So, we had 5, yes, 5 friends get engaged over Xmas.

1. Did you get engaged for Christmas?
2. What are your thoughts on Christmas engagements?

We didn't get engaged on Xmas, I always told Mark I would say no. I think Christmas engagements are silly and I dunno...stupid. Don't know why.

goheels05 · December 2009

1. No, we got engaged on our anniversary.

2. I think it's fine. Some of my friends think that it's "cheating," and by cheating, they mean since you typically give presents at Christmas time anyway, giving a ring at Christmas-time is a cop out? I dunno. I don't really care. But then again Mr. Heels already spends a lot of money on me, so I'm not really one to keep tabs.

Brie2010 · December 2009

We got engaged on New Year's Eve, but it wasn't the "as the ball drops get down on one knee" kind of thing. It was really casual, and he was kind of a, "well, the new year is here and I want to start it out this way" decision. There was little to no planning involved.

I think most overly-orchestrated proposals are silly regardless of the time of year. It just seems forced. I believe in waiting for when the moment is right, rather than creating some artificial romance scenario.

WildRumpus · December 2009

It's just really unoriginal..but still better than Valentine's Day.

sarabellam · December 2009

Christmas engagements seem like a total cop-out to me. I'm all about a thoughtful gift, and giving a diamond ring seems like a real no-brainer. The guy gives something that presumably his girlfriend wants, and he doesn't have to put much thought into the proposal, either.

bbyckes · December 2009

1. I got engaged on Christmas Day.

2. While I think that Christmas engagements are not original and it wouldn't have been my first choice - my proposal turned out to be a very sweet and intimate moment. FI is not the most creative, but his intentions were all in the right place. I couldn't have asked for anything more.

crfische · December 2009

1) No. We got engaged on groundhogs day/candelaria. No significance, that just happened to be the day.

2) I think it's lame just because it's kind of expected. It kind of takes the suprise out of it. BUT I wouldn't have said no if he proposed on Christmas.

salt78 · December 2009

1. We got engaged on a random Tuesday.

2. I think they are unoriginal. Last year something ridic like 7 couples we know got engaged. This year there isn't really anyone in a relationship left aside from my one friend keeps getting really expensive diamond jewelry from her boyfriend as presents, but still not "the ring". I think that's kind of douchey of him considering that he knows how much she wants to get married. They've been together a long time.

salt78 · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_christmas-engagement-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:37052fe2-b92c-4a40-af54-a4eabbd2e911Post:63ed684d-0785-4336-9c41-35b8b35dc51f">Re: Christmas Engagement Poll</a>:
[QUOTE]1) No. We got engaged on groundhogs day/candelaria.
Posted by crfische[/QUOTE]

We got engaged on Feb 3rd! But a year after you I think. :)

[Deleted User] · December 2009

1. no, it was just a regular day.

2. I think it's kind of lame because it just seems cheesy to me.

pumpkinpumpkin · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_christmas-engagement-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:37052fe2-b92c-4a40-af54-a4eabbd2e911Post:eca889ae-e642-403d-abee-fbe8d3986c42">Re: Christmas Engagement Poll</a>:
[QUOTE]It's just really unoriginal..but still better than Valentine's Day.
Posted by Jill9288[/QUOTE]

HA, yes, I agree.

mandapanda78 · December 2009

It's unoriginal for sure. I got engaged on that other unoriginal holiday, Valentine's. Creativity not being my husband's forte, I really didn't mind. He was sincere and it was sweet and he put a lot of thought into it. That's all that mattered in the end.

momofayden · December 2009

I got engaged last Christmas. He chose Christmas because it is a time for all of his family to get together and he wanted them there to share in our moment and for me to know how important I was to him. Proposing infront of all of his family was his way of showing me that. I thought it was very thoughtful of him and it was important to him so it was a perfect moment. I don't think it lessens my moment or engagement because it was Christmas. I had no idea it was coming either. I was 100% surprised.

Kindof crappy to rain all over someone's engagement becuase you think it's stupid to get engaged on Christmas.

opalsky007 · December 2009

1. We got engaged on my birthday. It was important to him to make the whole day amazing and memorable, and my birthday was one day that he could make a lot of special things happen and still surprise me with the ring at the end of it.

2. I don't really have an issue with it. Maybe it's a little cliche, but every proposal is different and special in some way.

pumpkinpumpkin · December 2009

I wouldn't have actually said no, btw.

I think for me...the issue was that I only ever wanted the engagement to be about Mark & I. And on Xmas, we're never alone on Christas day. We always, always spend the night Xmas eve at my mom and dad's and we usually spend the entire day there, then go straight to FILs on Boxing day from my mom and dad's. And I never wanted it to be a "show".

[Deleted User] · December 2009

1. We did get engaged on Christmas Eve.
2. I loved it, because he knows me so well. I wasn't suspecting anything and he knows how much I love Christmas time so it meant something special to us.

To me, getting engaged over Christmas or Valentine's day isn't any worse than the girl knowing it's coming, girl picking it out herself, and actually waiting for the engagement. At least he caught me by surprise even if it was a holiday.

brookelynpaisley · December 2009

1. No, we got engaged on a random day

2. They can be sweet, I suppose, but a whole group of cousins (three brothers) got engaged on Christmas Eve three years in a row. I'd want something more original.

Stackeye210 · December 2009

We got engaged on May 1st, it was a random Thursday. He had planned to propose 3 weeks later on formal night of our cruise, but he couldn't wait. It ended up being more of our style just happening in our living room and then going to a nice dinner just the two of us afterwards.

salt78 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]Kindof crappy to rain all over someone's engagement becuase you think it's stupid to get engaged on Christmas.
Posted by momofayden[/QUOTE]

No one rained all over your engagement. We are all entitled to our own opinions.

FutureMrsDudley55 · December 2009

1. Nope, we got engaged on a random day.

2. FI always told me that he would never propose on a holiday. But I don't really have an opinion about it either way really.

crfische · December 2009

Hey momo, quitcherwhining. No one's raining here.

salt78 · December 2009

By the way, I'm just waiting for the onslaught of Christmas newbs.

sarahmk5 · December 2009

1. Did you get engaged for Christmas? Nope

2. What are your thoughts on Christmas engagements? They're OK. I would have like it, just because I love Christmas, but I don't think they're necessarily overdone or cheesy.

Brie2010 · December 2009

I don't really get my undies in a bunch about the originality of it. I don't think everyone needs to be super unique about proposing, and if you like Christmas and it feels good go for it.

The proposals I hate are the ones that just seem so forced, like "I'm going to hang a ring on the tree for her to find after leaving her a trail of gingerbread men leading her to it" or "I'm going to wait until everyone's here and have Santa give a box to her in front of everyone". I just don't think engagements should be overly planned in general. Too much planning to me seems artificial.

[Deleted User] · December 2009

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[QUOTE]Christmas engagements seem like a total cop-out to me. I'm all about a thoughtful gift, and giving a diamond ring seems like a real no-brainer. The guy gives something that presumably his girlfriend wants, and he doesn't have to put much thought into the proposal, either.
Posted by sarabellam[/QUOTE]

H put my ring in my last Christmas gift, he didn't even think of making it my entire gift but he very well could have. I see what you mean though.

momofayden · December 2009

Whatev! I can have my own opinion too. Let's start a thread about how random day proposals are stupid

. Your opinion is fine, telling people their proposals are stupid is rude. Just sayin'.

salt78 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]Whatev! I can have my own opinion too. Let's start a thread about how random day proposals are stupid :). Your opinion is fine, telling people their proposals are stupid is rude. Just sayin'.
Posted by momofayden[/QUOTE]

Sure go ahead and start that thread. I can assure you that none of us would whine about it.

PS:

Unoriginal, lame, cheesy =/= stupid. You seem awfully testy about your proposal.

mandapanda78 · December 2009

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[QUOTE]By the way, I'm just waiting for the onslaught of Christmas newbs.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

<div>For some reason I am imagining you waiting behind the door with a cudgel. </div>

squirrly · December 2009

I like Christmas-time proposals, because they can be done a myriad of ways involving snow, which I love. I don't like proposals in front of the Christmas tree with the family watching, because I don't like for the family to be watching. Actually, I don't like any "public" proposal story.

FI proposed in public, but literally not one of the thousands of people noticed. And we didn't know them, so they didn't care. It was at a night racing event on the hottest day of the year so between the excitement and crying and sweatting, there are no pictures of us that night. We did get a cool pro pic of the event, though.

salt78 · December 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_christmas-engagement-poll?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:37052fe2-b92c-4a40-af54-a4eabbd2e911Post:cc7b3998-1118-479d-ac8b-a3a34ceec940">Re: Christmas Engagement Poll</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Christmas Engagement Poll : For some reason I am imagining you waiting behind the door with a cudgel.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

How can you see me right now?? Where the hell are you hiding!?

[Deleted User] · December 2009

Oh momo, get over yourself.

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