Update on BM issue

slpankuch · March 2012

Here is the link to my previous post:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bridesmaid-issue-4

So I wrote a letter to my BM telling her that I think we should go our seperate ways..yadda yadda. (See my linked post to see why.)

Anyway It's been about a week now since I wrote that e-mail. And I never got a response. I don't know if that is a good or bad thing. I kind of want some type of indication that she recieved the e-mail because I don't want to end up getting an invitation or her not getting the e-mail and expecting me to be a BM or my BM.
Should I e-mail her again to say can you please respond or confirm you go this e-mail? Should I copy the e-mail into a facebook message?
Any ideas?

mbody · March 2012

Hmmm.. it would seem weird to call/text/email her asking if she got it. So, I don't think I would do that. Do you have any mutual friends that she miiiight have mentioned it to? (Now, I'm not saying to involve someone else by putting them in the middle and having someone go out of their way to find out, but maybe if there is a mutual friend who might know of the situation you could ask if she mentioned the email to her?)

Otherwise, honestly, I'd just let it be. Whose wedding is first? If she tries contacting you with dress info, then you could at that time tell her you've stepped down and then say what you said in the e-mail again.

Maggie0829 · March 2012

Just leave it be. I find it hard that she didn't receive the email...but if I received an email from a friend that basically told me that they no longer wanted any type of relationship with me I wouldn't be jumping to call them to find out what is going on.

slpankuch · March 2012

I proabbly should've originally sent it through facebook. She seems like she doesn't check her e-mail to often. If she's like me with her home e-mail. I have a lot of spam (mostly wedding ads) and only check it on a weekly basis.
I guess I will just let her find it. Her wedding is first in June and mine is July.

jemmini6 · March 2012

Considering how difficult she was to get a hold of while you were still officially in each other's weddings, it doesn't surprise me at all that she wouldn't respond to you about this. I'd just leave it be and consider this 'friendship' wrapped up, you said your peace, if she wants to be childish and not even respond, oh well.

OliveOilsMom · March 2012

I wouldn't respond. It's almost like rubbing it in, that you don't want to be friends with her anymore. As crazy as she has been, she may have had her feelings hurt. So she may not have had a need to respond.

If she does try to contact you, I would just apologize and say, did you not receive my email that I sent to you a couple of weeks ago? And then reiterate all that you wrote in your email.

abertolatu · March 2012

I have a differnet opinion than most. Since you had agreed to be in her wedding and she has no other attendants, you need to confirm that she knows you are no longer going to be in hwe wedding. Facebook is too public for something like that. You need to call her or at least send an e-mail where you get a notice that the e-mail has been read. Probably a telephone call is the best.

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