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christathomas1 · March 2010

My wedding colors are black and white. Are there any suggestions as to what color of flowers would pop other than red?

gottahavashorti · March 2010

I'll help you out here to make this legible. Sorry the breaks are in awkward places.
Malphabet - good call on spell check.

I do not get along with my fiancés family very well to say the least. I have tried everything to get along with them since day one, but nothing has seemed to work.

Fortunately, everyone is sane enough and has the common courtesy to "fake" that they like me, meaning they say hello and goodbye to me. However, he has a sister that absolutely hates me, and is beyond ignorant. She does not even acknowledge my existence, no lie.

My fiancé is fed up with her and has tried talking to her many times. I have also tried talking to her but that just turns into a screaming match. Her mother tried talking to her, still... No dice.

This girl is in my wedding, and she will not even say hello to me when I walk in the room!! I have kept my mouth shut thus far as much as I could, but this brat is not going to ruin my wedding day.

I am on the verge on snapping and telling her how I really feel and my fiancé said to go right ahead but just to wait until after the wedding to do so. But who does she think she is? Who is that ignorant and self-centered that they won't accept the person their sibling is marrying!

We barely even go around his family because she spoils every occasion just by being rude and ignorant. I always say "hello" just to be the bigger person but that just makes me more angry that I am speaking to this girl and she still gets away with being mean.

So, after battling over this for 3 years, I have come to the conclusion that this will never change, and I accept it. But how do I make it so it doesn’t bother me? How do I act towards her? If she can be a complete snob to me, why shouldn’t I be able to back?

I have tried to be this girl’s friend; I have tried to be civil, nothing! She goes out of her way to ignore me. So since I can’t do what I really would like to do, what should I do? I should be enjoying my engagement. Instead I am stressing over this brat!!

gottahavashorti · March 2010

Again christa, turn off the caps lock please. Even if you don't want to capitalize a single character it will be much easier to read.

tidetravel · March 2010

Thank you Shorti!

have come to the conclusion that this will never change, and i accept it. But how do i make it so it doesnt bother me? How do i act towards her. If she can be a complete snob to me, why shouldnt i be able to back?

You have your answer. The only person's actions that you can control are your's. Someone can only bother you if you let them. Continue to be cordial. If she ignores you, it's really not the end of the world. Move on with your life and enjoy your engagement.

MyNameIsNot · March 2010

Please look up the word ignorant in the dictionary.

Licia&Wayne · March 2010

ugh, this delete is total lame-osity.

Thankfully gottahave was uber-nice and kept the drama neat and translated. *sigh* silly Internet...deletes are for kids.

lalap69 · March 2010

Hahaha WOW. I have to give points for creativity on the DD. I was all set to answer the new question until I read down a bit.

So I'm going to do you a favour. From dictionary.com:

ig·no·rant/ˈɪgnərənt/ Show Spelled [ig-ner-uhnt]

–adjective

1. lacking in knowledge or training; unlearned: an ignorant man.

2. lacking knowledge or information as to a particular subject or fact: ignorant of quantum physics.

3. uninformed; unaware.

4. due to or showing lack of knowledge or training: an ignorant statement.

YOUR WELCOME.

trix1223 · March 2010

At first I was thinking WTH? But then realized that this was one of the funniest DDs I think I've seen here.

Anyway for the original OP: Keep remembering that you can't control the actions of others. You can only control how you respond to those actions. Don't lower yourself. Continue to be cordial. What really would be the result of you giving back what you're getting?

If she really doesn't like you, you'll just be adding fuel to the fire. And you think that will make things better? Be the bigger person. You'll be glad someday.

aerinpegadrak · March 2010

That's probably the best DD I've seen. I was all set to answer the original question too (and it's such a silly one: it's black and white, any color will pop).

People don't generally just hate you without reason. It may be a stupid reason, but there's almost always some rationale. If FI's entire family couldn't stand me, I'd be trying to figure out what it was I was doing wrong.

This girl is going to be in your life FOREVER. Telling her off is only going to make things worse, it doesn't matter when you do it.

jenn.daniel · March 2010

I was really confused at first...

From gottahave's conventient quotation of OP:
Fortunately, everyone is sane enough and has the common courtesy to "fake" that they like me, meaning they say hello and goodbye to me. However, he has a sister that absolutely hates me, and is beyond ignorant. She does not even acknowledge my existence, no lie.

FBIL pretty much just says hello and goodbye to me, if that. He's not being fake, he just doesn't talk much. It's just who he is. Some people are like that. Have you tried actually asking her a question? Showing interest in someone instead of expecting them to fawn over makes a big difference.

PS Bright blue.

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