New here - Didnt know where else to vent ! (Long)

SCogs18 · February 2012

[QUOTE]I'm presuming your FI and his brother have the same family. Your FMIL can just make one list for both of your weddings. Now that both her sons need it, it might put a fire under her bum to get it done. That's a win for you.
Posted by KindaSparkly[/QUOTE]

As a girl who has struggled to get a guest list from her FI's dad's family, I feel your pain. I didn't get a final head count until the date I sent out Save the Dates (I did have a rought list). FI litereally called his dad and said "SCogs has addressed STDs for every other guest at the wedding. If you want to invite anyone to this wedding I need to know by tomorrow." 6 hours later I had names and addresses. It was a beautiful thing. Our wedding is SO not a priority to them, but that's okay because they aren't paying and it just means I don't have to worry about their opinion as much.

Your FILs may care about their other son's wedding more, but in the long run, it might make your life easier now that they have wedding on the brain. As long as they don't suggest a double wedding (which would be a really bad idea and totally unreasonable) you will still get your day and you and your FI WILL be the center of attention...for that one day.

morenachica110 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_new-here-didnt-else-vent-long?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:07e4f3c5-0db5-4334-a2dc-784191ff2639Post:2a762631-44f9-47a7-87cd-1f626f8fab6d">Re: New here - Didnt know where else to vent ! (Long)</a>:
[QUOTE]As a girl who has struggled to get a guest list from her FI's dad's family, I feel your pain. I didn't get a final head count until the date I sent out Save the Dates (I did have a rought list). FI litereally called his dad and said "SCogs has addressed STDs for every other guest at the wedding. If you want to invite anyone to this wedding I need to know by tomorrow." 6 hours later I had names and addresses. It was a beautiful thing. Our wedding is SO not a priority to them, but that's okay because they aren't paying and it just means I don't have to worry about their opinion as much. <strong>Your FILs may care about their other son's wedding more, but in the long run, it might make your life easier now that they have wedding on the brain. As long as they don't suggest a double wedding (which would be a really bad idea and totally unreasonable) you will still get your day and you and your FI WILL be the center of attention...for that one day.</strong>
Posted by SCogs18[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>This. And you also have to remember that it's not just his family there. You'll have your friends and your family. They probably don't car about the twin. lol Just breathe and try to remember that what you're doing is what's best for you and FI. Enjoy your engagement =)

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Starmusica · February 2012

not sure if this thread is really dead or not...

OP: Honestly- I think given the fact that you've been engaged a YEAR and you are not getting married until 2013- you are being a little unfair. Did you really expect them to wait another year and a HALF. That seems a little crazy to me.

While yes- I see your point about the family attention being divided- I think you are looking at this the wrong way. There is twice the joy now.

focus on yourself and be happy for you. Everything else shouldn't matter.

HannahK15 · February 2012

Sorry but buck up and get over it. My FI brother is getting married the week before us and they announced about 2 weeks after we announced our date. I bucked it up and am living with it. Sorry just my opinion

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