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Not Invited Guests Want to Throw a Party - HELP!
Ladies, I need your advice on how to best handle this sticky situation. I am getting married in the city where I have lived for 8 years now and not my home town. As a matter of fact, I'm not really inviting many people from my home town at all.
However, many of my neighbors from growing up and some of my school-aged friends parent's have reached out to my mom saying that they would like to have a party or shower for me. I am not inviting them (nor the school-aged friends as I have lost touch with most of them) to the wedding and feel a little uncomfortable about allowing them to throw me a party. I'm starting to feel obligated to invite them and I just can't...I am at my site's capacity as is.
One other thing to mention is that my home town is a 4 hour drive from where I currently live, so it would be a full weekend commitment for me and I'm just about out of available weekends.
Anyone else have a similar situation happen or advice on how to handle? I'd love to hear your perspective. Thanks in advance!!
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Re: Not Invited Guests Want to Throw a Party - HELP!
I would politely decline this.
Buit since it seems they care about you, why not tell them you'd love to have a get-together back home once all the wedding craziness has subsided?
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[QUOTE]I never say no to a party.
Posted by LovinLong11[/QUOTE]
Ugh. Go away.
Ditto the other (sane & polite) PP's - you're free to decline the party, but thank them graciously for offering.
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[QUOTE]It sounds like you really need to decline this -- both from an etiquette and a time perspective. Buit since it seems they care about you, why not tell them you'd love to have a get-together back home once all the wedding craziness has subsided?
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]
I was thinking the same thing. Tell them you would love to get together after the wedding but you are tied up until then.
I would have to say decline and mention that you are grateful but can't. Sorry, good luck!
[QUOTE]I remember my sister's fellow employees threw her a shower. She was really uncomfortable with it since only about 2 of them were invited (two that she went to school w/). But that may be a little different. I would have to say decline and mention that you are grateful but can't. Sorry, good luck!
Posted by hcontreras3@yahoo.com[/QUOTE]
I agree, I do think that is a little different. I think most work places do some kind of shower/acknowledgement. I've worked at 2 different elementary schools and both always have done wedding showers, but I think everyone knows there is no way the whole staff could ever be invited to the wedding.