MOM WANTS TO GO ON HONEYMOON WITH ME =/

briwms0221 · December 2011

I am from Georgia.My wedding /honeymoon is going to be with the carvinal cruise line in TAMPA,FLORIDA.My plan was to have our families(at most 20 ppl ) come down two days before the wedding day for fun in sun and for bonding time.We would probably go to busch gardens ,the aquarium,and there is this movie theater that serves italian food.These are things that I would really like to try it out.I am still working out what the activities would be.The wedding would be on the boat before the ships leaves.My family would have to get off of the ship before the ship leaves.Here's where the problem comes in.My mother feels that people are not going to be happy driving down from Georgia to florida (6 hours) and not get on the cruise ship.Did I miss something?Am I am wrong for not wanting her to come "because the ship is so big and we probably wont even see one another." I think it is weird and i dont want for family even close to the ship on my honeymoon.

melfacto · December 2011

I was just in Costa Rica for a destination wedding from Monday to Monday - the couple was married on wednesday - other than a thank you and goodbye dinner on Sunday night we did not see the couple - and there was over 60 people there for there wedding. I do agree it is somewhat weird but I agree it is a lot to ask guest to drive 6 hours for the wedding and not have the option of them purchasing themselves the cruise. Goodluck with planning! It is a tough situation to be in!

cgyvhu · December 2011

wait... you are getting married on the cruise ship (ceremony) but not having a reception for your guests that night? And then don't want any of them to take the cruise with you? Just want to make sure I understand...

I wouldn't drive 6hrs just to watch a ceremony on a boat and then have to leave. Why can you have a ceremony/simple reception the night before the cruise?

hboo2011 · December 2011

Your post was a little hard to read with paragraphs.

So you are inviting your Georgia family to Floriday for 2 days of fun, then a ceremony on a cruise ship.

1) Will the reception take place on the cruise ship as well?
2) Where is your family staying for the two days before the wedding? Another hotel in Florida?

briwms0221 · December 2011

Thats what i wanted.I wanted to have the guest come down two days before the wedding to go to the beach/aquarium/busch gardens or something of that nature one day.Then the night before the wedding we would have a family dinner.The day of the wedding would consist of a ceremony and a reception the overall wedding would be about two and half hours.so it would be like that came down for one day for an hour event just to leave.

AllyG303 · December 2011

I think that if you're getting married on a cruise ship, it's only natural that people may want the option to have a little vacation for themselves on the cruise as well. The last cruise I went on, there was a ceremony/mini reception before the ship left, and some of the people got off the boat, but some did stay.

Same cruise, a couple got married on the ship while it was docked at one of the islands and they had over 100 people on the cruise with them for their wedding and honeymoon.

I don't see the problem with your family choosing to take a vacation on the cruise that you're getting married on. It's not like you have to sit with them at dinners or go on excursions with them. Are most of your guests interested in going on it, or just your mom?

Another option you could look into depending on how much time you two have off is getting married during the first week of the cruise, and then staying on the cruise for the next week while your fam gets off. They usually have alternating itineraries from week to week (Eastern/Western Caribbean)

briwms0221 · December 2011

The two days before the wedding guest will be staying in a hotel in florida.The wedding would take place before any of the other passengers board the ship .My family would be able to attend the wedding.

hboo2011 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_mom-wants-honeymoon-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:11Discussion:f36376ab-975d-4b32-a1b9-afd4291f4bcfPost:24d0e69e-b0ad-45fd-8917-186a4622766b">Re: MOM WANTS TO GO ON HONEYMOON WITH ME =/</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>I think that if you're getting married on a cruise ship, it's only natural that people may want the option to have a little vacation for themselves on the cruise as well. </strong> The last cruise I went on, there was a ceremony/mini reception before the ship left, and some of the people got off the boat, but some did stay. Same cruise, a couple got married on the ship while it was docked at one of the islands and they had over 100 people on the cruise with them for their wedding and honeymoon. <strong> I don't see the problem with your family choosing to take a vacation on the cruise that you're getting married on. It's not like you have to sit with them at dinners or go on excursions with them</strong>. Are most of your guests interested in going on it, or just your mom? Another option you could look into depending on how much time you two have off is getting married during the first week of the cruise, and then staying on the cruise for the next week while your fam gets off. They usually have alternating itineraries from week to week (Eastern/Western Caribbean)
Posted by AllyG303[/QUOTE]

This was my first thought, I agree. I almost think that's what's expected for any sort of destination wedding. We have a destination wedding in July, and we are using that as our family vacation, and yes, we will still be there for about 3 days after the wedding. Maybe the bride and groom are staying longer, I have no clue. But you invite me on a a 'vacation', and I plan on utilizing the vacation.

hz80408 · December 2011

Honestly, I think you're in gray area. Typically (although you can do as you please), when there's a DW on a cruise ship, guests are invited to cruise as well. I think it'd odd not to extend the invitation.

MNVegas · December 2011

How is getting married on a cruise ship any different than inviting people to a destination wedding some place else. I mean if you were getting married in say Jamaica, would you expect your guests to leave the hotel after your wedding?

I think it is a little odd that you expect your guests to spend money to come to FL 2 days ahead of the wedding to hang out with you and then just basically kick them off the ship after the wedding. You can't dictate what people can do with their time and money. If they want to book on the same cruise then that is their choice.

You seem to assume that people will want to stay on the cruise to be with you as opposed to staying on board so they can have a fun vacation.

bridetobemo · December 2011

I think if you're expecting them to drive for your wedding they will take it as a vacation time, like PPs said the cruise ship is huge you could definitely still have time to yourselves even with them on the same boat. I mean if they come knocking on your door all the time I'd be a little worried but other than that I think you should definitely give them the option

alithebride · December 2011

you know what? if you're having your wedding on a cruise ship it's the guests decision to take that cruise-not yours. if they have to drive down to FL, spend the day at theme parks, have a dinner and then go to a 2.5 hour wedding (not long) and then get of of the ship and go home i can see the reason some of them want to take the cruise-they've already been away from home for a few days and may turn it into a vacay. in this case-since your wedding reception is the last of your wedding for the guests they are, in fact, entitiled to take the same cruise.
if you dont want anyone fromy our wedding on the HM with you have it elsewhere.

rlavach · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_mom-wants-honeymoon-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:f36376ab-975d-4b32-a1b9-afd4291f4bcfPost:ded571f8-33ec-4f0f-aa36-b435415b9460">Re: MOM WANTS TO GO ON HONEYMOON WITH ME =/</a>:
[QUOTE]Thats what i wanted.I wanted to have the guest come down two days before the wedding to go to the beach/aquarium/busch gardens or something of that nature one day.Then the night before the wedding we would have a family dinner.The day of the wedding would consist of <strong>a ceremony and a reception the overall wedding would be about two and half hours</strong>.so it would be like that came down for one day for an hour event just to leave.
Posted by briwms0221[/QUOTE]
2.5 hours! That's short! <div>
</div><div>Anyway, this is definitely a gray area. While I would feel a little weird staying on the cruise because I'd feel that I was encroaching on the honeymoon, if I'm on a cruise ship, why should I leave!?! DW are an excuse for a vaca. If it was any other DW, I'd just stay somewhere else, other than where I know the B&G are staying, to respect their privacy. Since you can't do that on a ship, you're stuck.</div><div>
</div><div>It's not that big of a deal.</div>

lyndausvi · December 2011

It think it's a grey area.

On one hand I 100% agree with your mom. Asking your guests to take time and money to drive 6 hours one-way to your wedding only to be kicked-out after 2.5 hours is asking a lot of them. The fact you are 'inviting' them down a few days before is moot point to me.

On the other hand if Mom is the only one going I would think that is strange.

adktd2boots · December 2011

Do I think it's rude for someone to invite themselves on your honeymoon- yes.

Do I think that's the situation here- No.

If this were a private thing where no one else was around and you would be left to your own for everything, I would say it was rude of her. But being you want to go on a ship with appx. 3000+ people, you're really not getting a private event and it's ok for her to go, as long as there are boundaries set.

Tell her you want to be left to do your own thing. If you want to do anything with them, you will- but otherwise this is YOUR honeymoon, therefore you want to be left to celebrate with the 2 of you.

annakb8 · December 2011

This is why I think getting married on a cruise ship is a bad idea. Either you don't want people to go on your honeymoon with you and you want to kick them off a boat they have every right to be on, or you DO want your guests to go on your honeymoon with you and they might feel put out because they don't want to spend the time and money on a cruise.

Just have a DW in Tampa NOT on a boat.

pzavecz · December 2011

Personally, I think it would be totally weird to have friends and family around with me on my honeymoon...however, like others have said, I don't believe you can tell them what they can or can't do with their time. If they want to have a vacation on the cruise ship you're on, you can't forbid them from doing that, unfortunately. I mean, I guess you can try to tell them no..but you would come off as rude and I'm sure you don't want to.

People say that the cruise ship is huge and you won't even see them but I disagree. I was just on a Carnival cruise a couple weeks ago (and it was on one of their largest ships) and I kept seeing the same people multiple times throughout the cruise. And these were complete strangers that I kept recognizing. With that said, I would bet you would see your family around. To me, I would not like that on my honeymoon, because I would feel like I'd need to talk to them and hang out with them and it would feel more like a family vacation rather than my honeymoon.

I would actually try and find a different place to honeymoon, maybe a different cruise ship? I don't know if that's an option for you or not? Otherwise, I think you might just have to deal if they end up going on the cruise with you guys.

J&K10910 · December 2011

I don't understand why you can't just find a different place in Tampa to have the wedding and reception.

jemmini6 · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_mom-wants-honeymoon-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:f36376ab-975d-4b32-a1b9-afd4291f4bcfPost:f9559252-ac77-46c7-8527-435905a4a4d9">MOM WANTS TO GO ON HONEYMOON WITH ME =/</a>:
[QUOTE]I am from Georgia.My wedding /honeymoon is going to be with the carvinal cruise line in TAMPA,FLORIDA.My plan was to have our families(at most 20 ppl ) come down two days before the wedding day for fun in sun and for bonding time.We would probably go to busch gardens ,the aquarium,and there is this movie theater that serves italian food.These are things that I would really like to try it out.I am still working out what the activities would be.The wedding would be on the boat before the ships leaves.My family would have to get off of the ship before the ship leaves.Here's where the problem comes in.My mother feels that people are not going to be happy driving down from Georgia to florida (6 hours) and not get on the cruise ship.Did I miss something?Am I am wrong for not wanting her to come "because the ship is so big and we probably wont even see one another." I think it is weird and i dont want for family even close to the ship on my honeymoon.
Posted by briwms0221[/QUOTE]

I didn't vote because it was too much work to read your post. Have you never taken a typing class (or ever typed anything, ever) before? There are supposed to be TWO spaces after a period. This isn't some BS rule made up to annoy you, it's because it's too damn hard to read when you don't space after punctuation. Hell, I'd even settle for one space.

So when you take the time to make sure people can read your post, I will take the time to answer it. But until then, I assume you don't care, so why should I?

celticmyss · December 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_honeymoon_mom-wants-honeymoon-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:11Discussion:f36376ab-975d-4b32-a1b9-afd4291f4bcfPost:6a5d35ec-835c-4b3d-8a74-600b83fe0bb3">Re: MOM WANTS TO GO ON HONEYMOON WITH ME =/</a>:
[QUOTE] So when you take the time to make sure people can read your post, I will take the time to answer it. But until then, I assume you don't care, so why should I?
Posted by jemmini6[/QUOTE]

<div>I think I love you in the non-sexy way. </div><div>
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</div><div>To OP:</div><div>A. Wall-o-texts hurt my soul.</div><div>B. You're mother isn't out of line at all. As PP said you can't really tell people to come get on a cruise ship and then gtfo of said ship at your convenience. </div><div>
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2012FutureMrsB · December 2011

I posted on the other thread, but I'll re-post here since everyone is here. I think it would be totally weird, but you can't stop them or get offended. Can you secretly get on another ship after the reception? lol

vexie · December 2011

My brother-in-law got married on a cruise ship. 40 of us attended and went on the cruise with them. Honestly, if we hadn't purposely planned to meet at a certain time on the deck or arranged to have dinner seating at the same table at the same we could easily have gone the entire week without seeing them.

Let people come if they want, but I'd suggest that you have discussions ahead of time re: how much time you want to be with them on the boat. You can arrange for a different dinner seating than them, do different excursions, even ensure your suite is on a different floor etc. I'm guessing, though, that you'd find it fun to spend some time with them too!

Having family/friends along on the cruise won't take away from your honeymoon if you plan it out ahead of time and make sure everyone understands your boundaries.

graysquirrel · December 2011

I think that you are expecting too much of people. You get one day to have your wedding. ONE. Expecting people to travel and take a mini vacation with you, go to theme parks, restaurants, and nature shows is kind of ridiculous. I don't blame people for wanting to extend a trip that you are asking them to take time off for and spend a lot of money on.

finesse910 · December 2011

It's unfortunate. I can completely agree with what you're saying, but disagree at the same time. I would absolutely HATE having my family along with me on my honeymoon... which is why I'm not having a destination wedding.

I think you either need to choose a new reception hall (unfortunately, I know how one can just absolutely fall in love with their reception hall) or allow people to come with you. I think them coming to send you off or something like that could be sweet, but ushering them off the cruise for you to leave is just giving me bad vibes. I personally would not do it.

Here's a thing though, if my parents were on that cruise with me.... I KNOW that they would be around me all the time. You know your parents better than I do, if you think that your mother will be hovering over you or stopping by or what have you, sit her down and say that if she does come....

Ugh. Even if she does come and promises not to bother you, you're still going to be looking over your shoulder.

I don't know what to tell you. Change the venue if you're that worried about it.

amys325 · December 2011

We got married in St. Thomas and 43 of our friends and family were there with us AND they even stayed right by us and we saw them everyday. We knew this would happen. So we stayed in St. Thomas for a week and then planned our Honeymoon for a few months later. Then we got to spend 2 weeks in Italy and Greece with no friends or family.

You can't ask your friends and family to come to your wedding on a cruise ship and then just expect them to leave.

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