My fiance asked if I was having a bachelorette party... I guess it's technically called that, but it's joined in with my bridal shower and we're doing it at a steakhouse. No strippers. No out-of-line, inappropriate games I wouldn't want him to see, etc. He said that counted enough and was basically the green light for him to have his raging bachelor's party.
I've been to the strip club with him before, and it absolutely disgusted me to see him with the girls then (and they weren't even being excessively vulgar to him because they knew I was sitting right next to him). I've seen the other guys in there with their buddies though and the things that they do... I could barely look, let alone touch my fiance after we went with our buddy to the strip club. The idea of him being one of the guys there having all the other things done to him - I wouldn't be able to stand at the altar.
I don't know what to do. I emailed him everything (he's military, so it's out way of communication) and don't want to be over controlling, or ruin his fun. He is such a gentleman though and has always been respectful, I don't want to ruin the way I see him.
Insight? Help? Words of wisdom?