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Donation to a Charity in Leui of favors?
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I saw somewhere on a wedding website that someone did this. I was thinking it would be really cool to give a card with a list (2-4) charities on it that I would donate money to instead of getting wedding favors. What are your opinions? Do you think it's lame or a neat idea?
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Re: Donation to a Charity in Leui of favors?
And as we always say, go ahead and make your donation. Just don't do it as a favor to your guests and don't relate it to your wedding.
I just thought it would be a better idea of a favor/money spent since 90% of the time people forget or throw away their wedding favors. Of all the weddings I've been too, I've only kept favors from 1 and that was because it was chapstick.
I appreciate the thoughts and opinions and will take them into consideration, however, as that was the reason I posted.
You have a charity you love? Awesome, I hope you make regular donations to it. If you don't have a charity that you regularly support, I totally don't get the point of a donation favor.
Anyway, I think making a donation in lieu of favors is lame. Why not a donation in lieu of that awesome photographer or viennese hour? I don't think you should be telling your guests what you aren't giving them.
Also, there are a number of charities that can be suprisingly controversial - often for the way they are run.
[QUOTE]Here's my take: You have a charity you love? Awesome, I hope you make regular donations to it. If you don't have a charity that you regularly support, I totally don't get the point of a donation favor. Anyway, I think making a donation in lieu of favors is lame. Why not a donation in lieu of that awesome photographer or viennese hour? I don't think you should be telling your guests what you aren't giving them. <strong>Also, there are a number of charities that can be suprisingly controversial - often for the way they are run.
</strong>Posted by kristinanddan[/QUOTE]
This is why I absolutely refuse to have anything to do with Susan G. Komen.
[QUOTE]I think charitable donations are a great idea, i hate wedding favors. they are cheesy and cheap and end up in the trash anyway. Do what YOU want, don't listen to all these people on here that don't like it (they wont be at your wedding!).. the day is about you and your new husband and celebrating your marriage!!<strong> If people are so concerned with $1 favor then they shouldn't be there.</strong> Don't forget what that day is really about.. Its not about the flowers, the DJ, the food, the favors, its about you and him.. <strong> P.S. My fiance and I are also doing charitable donations.</strong>
Posted by jesa262[/QUOTE]
#1) Did you even read the part on the sticky that said "I don't need favors. I don't want favors." I won't be offended if I don't get a favor. But telling me that you're giving something to someone else is NOT a favor to ME. That's all we're saying here.
#2) Was I surprised at your P.S.? Of course not.
[QUOTE]#1) first of all... what is the sticky? #2) I didn't think you would be surprised. #3) we are donating to a cause for a disease that has affected NUMEROUS people in our family... you are telling me that our guests will be pissed about that and rather we did nothing at all??? we aren't giving a "something to someone else" we are donating to help the cause for our family members who are very sick. I'm simply voicing my opinion just like you all did.. there is no reason to get nasty. you just need to get a life.. this whole issue is so small in terms of the whole wedding that this discussion is so pointless.. and yeah your wedding was in 2009?? 14,000 posts?? find a new hobby!! the only reason i felt the need to respond to this post was b/c you were all being so rude to the poor girl who was simply asking a question... no need for the nastiness.
Posted by jesa262[/QUOTE]
[QUOTE]<strong>why is your wedding date 2014??</strong>I think you are on here just like that trix person... to be mean to brides. what's up with the berinstein bear and the carebear pictures?? why does it matter if this discussion has been brought up before? The girl posted a question.. get over it.
Posted by jesa262[/QUOTE]
Because that's when I'm getting married. As to your comment about Trix, she got married a few decades ago. She joined TK when her daughter got married and she was a MOB. Many regulars like having Trix around and she has the Berenstein bear avatar because the old WP regs used to refer to her as their denmother. I loved Carebears when I was a kid and I though it would be a cute screen name. Just out of curiosity, what time frame should brides be allowed on here? I'm really curious. Also, please show me where Trix and I were mean in this post. Honesty and not agreeing with you =/= mean.
Question: I'm thinking of doing donations to a charity instead of giving guests a favor. What do you think?
RUDE: I think you're brains are in your butt. That's the stupidest thing I've ever heard and I've heard plenty. You are a sorry excuse for a human being if you think that making a donation to charity instead of giving your guests m&ms is a good idea. I'll bet your FI is a moron too.
NOT RUDE: Favors are typically a small gesture given to your guests as a thank you (in addition to the dinner and drinks that they're getting!). It's not appropriate to tell guests what they're NOT getting. It also doesn't make sense to tell your guests that you've taken the money you'd use to buy them a little something, and given it to someone else, and expect them to not scratch their heads and say "HUH?"
Actually, the only person on this thread who was unbearably (little pun there from Mama Bear) rude was......you.
As for this part: I don't agree.. you can state your reasons why you don't agree with it but you don't need to push your ideas on other people.
I'm quite sure that's what I did: stated my reasons for disagreeing with it. As for pushing your ideas on other people: Pot, meet Kettle.
But a heartfelt good luck to you in your planning.
Please calm yourself.
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As for Jesa's reasoning for donations, this proves a point. It depends on the guests, and what they know about the bride and groom. Her donation hits home.
Although I do respect the opinions, as it was why I posted in the first place, everyone who considers it lame/rude/poor ettiqute, and you regularly post those same opinions to others (granted, they are asking for your help), you also should keep in mind that times change, people live different lives, and have their reasonings for choosing to do something. If it is REALLY poor etiquette, such as having your bridal shower guest write their own thank you notes, then of course, you need to speak up to help that bride not make herself look like a idiot. But if it's something in this manner, your opinion is good, but you don't have to use the terms of "lame" and "you arent doing me a favor by giving to charity".
I'm not doing anyone a "favor" by giving them a little gift they will throw away. A wedding favor isnt a "favor" to anyone, but a simple gift.