People don't compliment my ring

lettiebird · May 2012

I definitely get what you're saying... My engagement ring is lab created alexandrite with diamond chips on either side in a simple silver band. It's gorgeous, significant (alexandrite is my birthstone/favorite stone + I know it's not a conflict stone), and fits me to a tee, but the only people who have commented on it are my family and two friends. No one from school or work noticed, and it does sting a bit, but don't worry about them. If you love it, your fiance loves you, you love him... Who cares what others think? Congrats and happy planning!

PS: I think we'd all love to see a pic

then we could assure you it's as lovely as you think!

MrsKisstobe · May 2012

I get what your saying but as most other posters have said, as long as you & your fi love your ring & your looking forward to getting married, who cares what anyone else thinks. I love the comment about having a friendship ring just like Kate Middleton. I too have a sapphire as my main stone, effectively it's a solitaire but I have 3 small diamonds set in the band on either side. My sapphire is rather large but I am lucky enough that both my father & late grandfather were jewelers & we were able to purchase my sapphire from a few that my grandparents bought years ago so my ring has even more sentimental value. When people notice my ring, the comments are usually either 'oh, it's not a diamond' or 'wow! A sapphire' it takes all sorts I guess. Having grown up in my families jewellery store I know what I do & don't like so thankfully my fi had the sense to let me design my ring, together we organized for it to be made & he picked it up, making me wait several weeks before proposing

The best comment I got was from a friends husband (while my ring was being made, before the proposal) 'C didn't even know I was going to propose, I chose her ring' my reply 'She didn't grow up in a jewellery store thou'. So many people are going with non-traditional e-rings these days, diamonds aren't for everyone & why should you have to have something you don't like?

LaurenJ790 · May 2012

I know how you feel. My ring is a sapphire and has 4 smaller diamonds on each side. It suits me perfectly and I love it, and everyone who knows me well thinks it's perfect for me. Comments I've received: "It's so cute!" (My response: Did I put my puppy on instead of my ring this morning?) "Aww, how sweet, a promise ring!" (Ma'am, I am 31 years old. It's an engagement ring.) You just have to have a sense of humor about it - different people have different tastes, no doubt, but if you love your ring, you can't worry about what other people say. You love your ring and your fiance loves your ring, and it's about the two of you, not anybody else. I mean, you wouldn't love him any less if your friends didn't think he was good looking, right?

helenewedding · May 2012

Don't fuss over it ! When I was back in France people loved my ring - very simple, modern design, like a wedding band with a simple diamond. I got a lot of compliments.

Here in the US, it seems too simple or too small for the standard. People think it's a promise ring or a wedding band. They don't believe it's an engagement ring because it's so discreet.
But I don't care at all. I did not want a big stone, I chose it with my fiancé, I love it, and I know I'll wear it forever. We had very simple wedding bands in the same design custom-made to match it.
I really feel that here many people are looking for sparkly, extravagant rings. Certainly not my cup of tea, and I see that a lot of you gals would agree !

tbalesdent · May 2012

My ring is pretty small but I picked it out (my fiance later told me he would have preferred one we looked at that was a bit bigger). My comments range not much further than the range of "congradulations" to "that's sweet/cute". I tend to find myself feeling the need to tell them that I picked it and he wanted bigger and that I wanted it small an unobtrusive so I could wear it all the time and not get in my way, especially for my job (I care for the elderly, wouldn't want the diamond to cut their delicate skin when trying to help move them). I hate justifying it's size but I do it no matter how hard I know they've tried to be polite about it.

It's YOUR ring and as long as it feels good to YOU for whatever your reason. Besides it's not about the ring it's about the relationship that is important and special enough that you want to commit to it forever. We both need to work on our cultural materialism and just be happy that we found "The One".

REThomps · May 2012

People didn't say much about mine, either. I didn't want a ring that would catch on stuff, so my ring is flush with my hand, it has 55 itty bitty tiny diamonds and when the sun hits it, it really sparkles but if it's not got any light to reflect it kinda looks like snake scales, lol! But I don't care! We spent what we could afford, and my fiance put all of his love into it when he gave it to me... when I look at it, I think of him

reneecmartin · May 2012

I'm so sorry you feel this way, but it's kind of immature. I'm not trying to be mean to you, but you love your fiance and he gave you something really meaningful, so that you're upset enough to ask a bunch of strangers to prop you up about it is weird. I'm sure you are a lovely person and he's a wonderful guy and you're going to have a wonderful marriage, so don't get all high school over your ring, girl! Suck it up, move on, and plan your perfect day

samantha24p · May 2012

Your ring sounds gorgeous

arie2012 · May 2012

Other than the few people who knew I was engaged "with a ring" I dont think anyone has really commented on my ring. Because mine is not a traditional stone, "diamond", I still have guys hitting on me. My ring is an emerald with diamonds on either side. I have always worn emeralds similar to that and my fiancee picked up on that and got my ring in a style he knew I would love.

I love my ring because HE chose it based on me. I had no idea what I was getting, until it was on my finger. My wedding band will be similar. All of my cousins have a "contest" of sorts to see whos ring will be the biggest. Thats great they their husbands could afford a HUGE diamond. Diamonds are not my thing. I do believe that carat weight my ring may be the smallest. But its what matters to you and your fiancee that should count!

Dont let it get to you! Be happy and plan a wonderful life together!

MelissaD3179 · May 2012

The main thing is if YOU are happy with the ring. I know getting compliments are nice, but at the end of the day it's you who matters. If you love the ring than who cares what others think. I was worried how people would react to my ring as the main diamonds are black diamonds (not the typical choice) but at the same time I realized as long as I loved the ring that was all that mattered.

katica1209 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_people-dont-compliment-my-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:bd270482-2ca9-4cb3-9471-b4de34047c06Post:63ffb3f6-6aab-465e-a5e5-5ccba8a22201">People don't compliment my ring</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm happily newly engaged, but I'm starting to get depressed. When people see my ring, they say "ohhh congrats!" and then sometimes ask "Did you get to help pick it out?". Nobody has said it is pretty. When my other friends got a ring, the same people gushed over how beautiful their rings were. I was also hoping that people at work and in class would notice and say something. Nobody did. My ring just under 1 carat for the stone, and then there is a delicate halo around it and then has the same size diamonds in the band. IDK if they just think it is small or ugly or if I'm just overanalyzing it. Either way, I'm about ready to cry.
Posted by steph96[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Are you for real? Cry, over a piece of metal and a stone; and more importantly, what people think of it? You've been on this site since 2009, got a man to ask you to marry him and you're depressed about people paying attention to you you you and some ring? My gawd woman, get a grip. There are real life things happening in this world and you are a downer over that? Get over yourself, be thankful someone cares about you. While there are people making tomato soup out of ketcup packets from a gas station you are worried about your almost 1 carat ring.

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katica1209 · May 2012

Geez this whole site is full of memememe princesses. Thank goodness I don't give my boyfriend the grief I see on these boards. Wow. Team Low Maintenance

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