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lesalyric
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Confessions!
Julie and I started OL Tuesday at the same time this morning, so let's make this one a confessions post. 
What do you want to confess? No judgement, just getting it out there to vent or let it go.
Mine - two zilla-ish thoughts:
1. I get a little angry when people send us a $10 gift and add two people to the RSVP card.
2. I wish my family was more excited about the wedding. We have had a lot of crazy drama pop up the last few months and FI and I have been completely overshadowed.
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Re: Confessions!
Why does there have to be so much drama associated with weddings? I really didn't care if Bill's vest exactly matched my dress.
Even though we just went to Disney and I'm taking my brother in a few short months, Bill and I are already talking about when we're going to go again AND we've even looked into a cruise. I think we are turning into Mousejunkies.
Ever since Mom was sick and then passed away, I've been thinking that I don't want to work. I feel like I just want to wallow in pity or spend as much time as possible with my dad and brother (and husband too).
After watching "The Social Network" the other night, I have decided that Bill's parents are exactly like Mark Zuckerberg (or however you spell his name). They all have no social skills and don't know when to shut up.
And Tiffany too.
Well, all of you really.
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I am generally a blunt person but I know its a major no-no to kick some one out of your wedding party but MAN am I considering it!
It sucks realizing your friends aren't they great of friends...weddings bring out the worst in people. I know it is MY wedding and no one cares about it as much as I do but try to understand how the bride feels......oh well pay back is a b*tch since Im in her wedding party next year!
Sometimes I wonder if I rely too much on message boards and if I should even be on them anymore since I'm not even planning a wedding anymore but then I realize that I wouldn't have anything to do during the day when I'm not working
I forgot my one of my grandmothers birthdays last week. I did call her the next morning though when I reazlied what I did because I couldn't remember when it was. So I tried asking sneaky questions and found out it was the day before. For some reason I just cannot remember when it is and google calendar sucks. I didn't send anything and I don't really feel bad because I'm lucky if I get a phone call from her.
1. Also, I get excited by office supplies... yes.. I bought new pens and a calendar last night and I'm elated. Nerd tendencies
2. I can't wait to AW my engagement. I know it's wrong, but I can't wait.
3. I confess I want to still strangle people who invite themselves to my wedding. If I don't hang out with you outside of work that does not make us friends, thus you can not come.
sorry done
[QUOTE] I am generally a blunt person but I know its a major no-no to kick some one out of your wedding party but MAN am I considering it! Posted by cfibelkorn[/QUOTE]
After this weekend FI told me to kick his sister out of the wedding and I had to explain to him that I just couldnt that its not right and he said he would do it then. I wont let him but I confess the thought of it makes me a little happy because he rarely stands up to his family, back to reality I realize its a horrible thing and would never actually be happy about it.
I'm tired of my BMs, too. They are not very good at communicating. It's very frustrating. My MOH's wedding is this weekend and I have no idea what the plans are. I've asked her, too. Like - what time are we getting ready? Do I need to be there on Friday? Etc. Her response - oh, I don't know.
Sorry that's really more of a B&M than a confession.
It's a long drawn out ordeal, but it boils down to, she has a child by a man who couldn't care less about being a dad. He was deployed (and he's not on the birth certificate) and doesn't support either of them, but - she's "in love". Her job isn't great and she's trying to make it on her own... well, I find out in conversation with her that she wasn't paying her utilities and her excuse? She was "saving for my wedding". She had to get help from a local church to eventually pay her bills.
Now, I know that it's not my place to tell people how to pay their own bills or live their life... and I went home and got so upset over the situation. I couldn't stand the idea of someone taking away from their child to pay to be in my wedding.
I had a talk with her and asked her to step down for all of the reasons above. She was angry and still is, but I just couldn't do it. I asked her to be in my wedding before I knew her circumstances, she has just been a friend for many years, and I thought that it was a good choice.
Word to the wise - think all the way through your BM decisions before making them. Being a BM is an investment, both in money and time.... make sure your girls can handle it.
OK - Judge me too for airing all of the dirty laundry out there. But MAN, that felt good to finally type.
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I definately agree with choosing wisely I only have 2 my bestfriend and my FSIL and I thought I would be good but its been hard even with that. I asked my best friend if she wanted out after we moved to TX because it was a bigger investment than she originally committed to but she said no. My FSIL is going through a hard time because FFIL and FMIL are possibly getting a divorce so there is added stress and on top of it I have learned she is holding things against me that I had NO control over so I am pretty much doomed. She has asked me to pay for her dress bc she cannot afford it and I am going to and I just cant bring myself to kick her out because she is family.
I don't know that I could have looked at you the same way if you hadn't kicked her out.
I definitely agree about being careful with your wedding party. I asked my closest friend and that was it. I didn't ask my FSIL, I didn't ask someone that I went to college with (even though we had both said we would be in each other's weddings). I kept it simple and drama-free. You can't always predict who's going to cause drama but I'm glad that I didn't have that going on at the same time. I feel for you girls who do/did.
My wedding shouldn't cause anyone to have to sacrifice like that. It literally had me so upset for several days because I thought that kicking a BM out was a huge no-no and I felt horrible.. but in the long run, I would have felt worse if I had left her in knowing what she was doing. My FI didn't even need all of the details, once I told him about the not-bill-paying issue, he told me to kick her out immediately.
The last thing I EVER want to do is hurt someone's feelings, but I just felt like it really was the most sound decision for everyone involved. I know that she's incredibly mad, but hopefully she'll understand my reasoning one day.
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Also I have a hotel block for them because they all said they needed a room and now none of them are booking rooms. I got them a really good discount and the shuttle to take them to the venue so they don't get lost and they have decided that if they do come they will just drive in Saturday morning and leave after the wedding. That's fine and I understand not wanting to spend the money but you could have told me when I had enough time to cancel the block.
I'm also very concerned FI's sister will start some drama at the wedding. She already started at the shower and I'm sure it will continue. She is never on time to anything and I'm sure she will waltz in about 25 minutes after the ceremony starts. I love FI and his family but they need to get with the program!
[QUOTE]I confess that, between interviews and the wedding, I cannot concentrate at work. If it's this bad now, how bad will it be in another two or three weeks?
Posted by BanannaP[/QUOTE]
It gets worse! :) And I am SWAMPED at work. Yet here I am. On TK.
Brianna, I would have kicked her out to0. I know that had to have been very hard and stressful, but it really is the best thing to do.
...but STILL... even with my cousin (who is like a sister to me) and my 2 closest friends since childhood but we still hang out all the time...... I had ISSUE AFTER ISSUE AFTER ISSUE.
I know someone that went to Hawaii and got married on the beach. Paid a witness. I'm telling you that is the way to go, LOL.
But this one just is horrible at communicating with me...I don't think that is worth kicking her out...just a little annoying to me.
But I agree, think VERY long and hard when choosing your wedding party; several times I have wanted to kick everyone out and just not have any wedding party haha
I confess to extreme registry stalking! I want to stop, but I can't! I need AA for registry addicts.
It upsets me just a little that my MOH will not be at my bachelorette party. We are best friends. And yes she lives out of town. But, when we were first discussing my wedding and the 'events' surrounding it, she said she wanted to throw my Lubbock shower and come to Dallas shower to help out. She also said she wanted to come to my bachelorette party. Well, she is getting married this weekend. So, she didn't come to my Dallas shower and now says she cannot come to my bachelorette party. I completely understand why, really I do. But, I can't help that my feelings are a teeny bit hurt. She's my best friend. I really wanted to share all my events with her.
I just got the link for my b-pics and I'm so nervous to see them! I want to leave work right now so I can go look at them on my computer at home!