DW = OBNOXIOUS!

luv626kee · June 2010

Can someone please explain to me what the purpose of having a destination wedding is other than you feel like having your parents pay for a glorified vacation and/or hoping that people don't come because you're too selfish to pay that much more??? Honestly, this whole DW thing stumps me everyday. And if you do have one of these and are obnoxious enough to be like "please no gifts," I'm sorry, but I call your BS because you know people aren't rude like you and will bring gifts regardless. Seriously...someone please explain this obscurity to me!

MarriedInAFever · June 2010

This is going to be awesome.

FutureMrsTR · June 2010

I would like you to explain the point of your post. Aaaaaand go.

Pirata13 · June 2010

FFS

shellydiane820 · June 2010

I don't even know if I want to attempt to tackle this.

LauraT25 · June 2010

You really like drama, don't you?

aragx6 · June 2010

Seems like you're just whining because you're poor.

emilyinchile · June 2010

You want to get married in a place other than where you live because you think it's purty? Is that not a possibility?

ohwhynot · June 2010

Please explain your use of the word "obscurity."

JenGin74 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]This is going to be awesome.
Posted by MarriedInAFever[/QUOTE]

I was thinking the same

shellydiane820 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Seems like you're just whining because you're poor.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

bwahaha!

temerityjane · June 2010

I hate when people want to have the wedding of their dreams. What d-bags. Acting like their wants and desires and opinions matter.

pinkpinot · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Can someone please explain to me what the purpose of having a destination wedding is other than you feel like having your parents pay for a glorified vacation and/or hoping that people don't come because you're too selfish to pay that much more??? Honestly, this whole DW thing stumps me everyday. And if you do have one of these and are obnoxious enough to be like "please no gifts," I'm sorry, but I call your BS because you know people aren't rude like you and will bring gifts regardless. Seriously...someone please explain this obscurity to me!
Posted by luv626kee[/QUOTE]

Hi there. You seem really angry. I'm having a DW and my parents are <em><strong>not</strong></em> paying for my glorified vacation, I am.

I bet you're more rude than most people. Just a hunch.

Sing2phins · June 2010

Where is the wedding you've clearly been invited to? Staten Island?

danieliza1127 · June 2010

People choose DWs for lots of different reasons.

LauraT25 · June 2010

Oh, guys, she's not poor. Here is what she posted on my club board in a thread about how much we spend on wedding gifts:

I think callalilly was on target. For a typical wedding I'd say $100 if you're alone and $200 if you're a couple. That should cover MOST of your plate, which, btw ladies, is considered standard and proper etiquette. For the shower I'd say you spend about $50. If you, however, are strapped for cash in this economy or it's a destination wedding, I think couples are a bit more understanding of smaller gifts, but I think for a couple you shouldn't give less than $150 for the wedding. If you can't afford a proper gift you shouldn't go.
Posted by luv626kee

and:
I agree you should give what you can afford, but if it's not a decent amount it's insulting!!

salt78 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Can someone please explain to me what the purpose of having a destination wedding is other than you feel like having your parents pay for a glorified vacation and/or hoping that people don't come because you're too selfish to pay that much more??? Honestly, this whole DW thing stumps me everyday. And if you do have one of these and are obnoxious enough to be like "please no gifts," I'm sorry, but I call your BS because you know people aren't rude like you and will bring gifts regardless. Seriously...someone please explain this obscurity to me!
Posted by luv626kee[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh aren't you cute!</div><div>The people that have destination weddings do not expect gifts or for anyone to come with them. The reason I had one is because I wanted to elope and my mom had a cow and said she was coming with me. So then I let everyone know where we were going and they could come if they wanted or whatever and make a vacation out of it. We did throw an incredibly nice party for everyone that came with us. And we did not expect gifts. </div><div>
</div><div>Call my BS all you want, but at least I'm not a narrowminded bitch. </div>

missy68 · June 2010

Niiicceee. All judgey and stuff.

shellydiane820 · June 2010

I like people who brag about money. I find them entertaining.

LD1970 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Can someone please explain to me what the purpose of having a destination wedding is other than <strong>you feel like having your parents pay for a glorified vacation</strong> and/or hoping that people don't come because you're too selfish to pay that much more??? Honestly, this whole DW thing stumps me everyday. And if you do have one of these and are obnoxious enough to be like "please no gifts," I'm sorry, but I call your BS because you know people aren't rude like you and will bring gifts regardless. Seriously...someone please explain this obscurity to me!
Posted by luv626kee[/QUOTE]
Why would the parents be paying?

LauraT25 · June 2010

almost forgot about:

All you ladies should like people like me becasue I'm apparently one of the only ones who would actually give you a respectable gift if I attended your weddings. never ONCE did I say I'd be unappreciative. I'm simply saying that my values and manners dictate gift giving. I'm no rich b*tch, I make a modest income, own modest property, and live in the most expensive state in the country...yet I still would never give less than $100/person as a gift at a wedding, it's just inappropriate. PERIOD. And any of you that are saying otherwise, I can see right through those fake angel eyes! Good luck with your hoe-downs!!!

PS Don't worry callalilly...i'll send ya a nice gift ;-)

BeachMuffin · June 2010

LUV can I tell you I've thought the same thing for YEARS?! I don't understand it... I think it's really tacky and selfish.

I think this post makes perfect sense because it's an etiquette board and to force guests to travel 3,000 miles for YOUR wedding is just plain awful.

pinkpinot · June 2010

UGH she is just giving Jersey girls a bad name. I swear we are not all like her.

aragx6 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Oh, guys, she's not poor. Here is what she posted on my club board in a thread about how much we spend on wedding gifts: I think callalilly was on target. For a typical wedding I'd say $100 if you're alone and $200 if you're a couple. That should cover MOST of your plate, which, btw ladies, is considered standard and proper etiquette. For the shower I'd say you spend about $50. If you, however, are strapped for cash in this economy or it's a destination wedding, I think couples are a bit more understanding of smaller gifts, but I think for a couple you shouldn't give less than $150 for the wedding. If you can't afford a proper gift you shouldn't go. Posted by luv626kee and: I agree you should give what you can afford, but if it's not a decent amount it's insulting!!
Posted by LauraT25[/QUOTE]

Oh FFS. The thought of a dear friend or family member not coming to my wedding because they couldn't afford a "proper" gift makes me really sad. I typically give very nice presents for weddings, because I can and I want to. I would never judge someone who couldn't do the same.

That said, I do tend to judge wealthy folks who are just cheap bastards.

LauraT25 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: DW = OBNOXIOUS! : *Gasps* Shiit, I don't think I covered my lobster and filet mignon plate at that one wedding! I'm cursed to Hedes!
Posted by Champagne Supernova[/QUOTE]

Yep, you're doomed.

pinkpinot · June 2010

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[QUOTE]LUV can I tell you I've thought the same thing for YEARS?! I don't understand it... I think it's really tacky and selfish. I think this post makes perfect sense because it's an etiquette board and to force guests to travel 3,000 miles for YOUR wedding is just plain awful.
Posted by BeachMuffin[/QUOTE]

lol awww you made an AE to agree with yourself.

squirrly · June 2010

OP, this would be a lot more entertaining if you'd come back.

LD1970 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]UGH she is just giving Jersey girls a bad name. I swear we are not all like her.
Posted by pinkpinot[/QUOTE]
Agreed.

salt78 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]LUV can I tell you I've thought the same thing for YEARS?! I don't understand it... I think it's really tacky and selfish. I think this post makes perfect sense because it's an etiquette board and to force guests to travel 3,000 miles for YOUR wedding is just plain awful.
Posted by BeachMuffin[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh no you aren't a troll at all. </div>

Sing2phins · June 2010

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[QUOTE]LUV can I tell you I've thought the same thing for YEARS?! I don't understand it... I think it's really tacky and selfish. I think this post makes perfect sense because it's an etiquette board and to force guests to travel 3,000 miles for YOUR wedding is just plain awful.
Posted by BeachMuffin[/QUOTE]
BeachMuffin = Luv, right?

shellydiane820 · June 2010

I like the name "beach muffin" it sounds like a bad porno flick.

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