element of surprise?

jesslovespete · January 2010

Hi Everyone,

This is my first post...just feel like I need to vent a bit!
I am patiently awaiting a proposal from my boyfriend of over 4 years, but I feel like I know too much! We went to try rings on and I showed him what I liked and he showed me what he liked on me as well. He had me narrow it down to 2 and he said he was going to pick which one. Thats fine and all, I know I'll like whatever he picks but it sorta takes the surprise element out of it you know? Thats not the part that bothers me though...He told me when he ordered it. He told me when it came in. He told me it'll be a few more weeks to set it and then it'll be ready. Stop already!! I want SOMETHING to be a surprise here! I probably shouldn't be complaining but I feel like he should stop telling me things at this point if he wants it to be a surprise! I guess he's just as excited as I am?

paintgirl · January 2010

That's actually kind of cool. I laughed reading your post. I can understand wanted to be surprised, but maybe the proposal will be a fun surprise. Two really good things here: 1. He is obviously super-excited about asking you to marry him. That's awesome! and 2. Clearly he is incapable of keeping a secret from you. In the long run, that's probably a very good thing.

I know it's hard to do (Hi Pot, I'm Kettle) but try to relax and enjoy tne moment when it comes.

Ana_2985 · January 2010

Did you say this to him? If not, you should.

jesslovespete · January 2010

Thanks ladies! I have told him "OK NO MORE! Don't tell me anything else!"

He'll also be talking to my Dad before he asks me...we'll see how well the 2 of them can keep that conversation under wraps!

Acrosthec · January 2010

My dad totally called FI (then BF) out about talking to him at lunch one day. It was *so* embarassing, for me and FI. I practically ran away from the conversation so they could have some privacy.

My parents were more than a little anxious for us to get married so we'd stop living in sin, though. Gotta love those Southern, conservative, Christian values! ::sigh::

Button5807 · January 2010

Did he stop as soon as you told him to or did he give you more info and make you repeat yourself?

If it's the first giggle b/c he's excited and wasn't thinking if it's the 2nd bop him on the nose with a newspaper and video tape it for us.

PaigeMcC · January 2010

Welcome to the board! I came in kinda late...but yeah welcome!

And talking to him and telling him to stop teasing is probably a good idea. But he's obviouslly excited so just wait - it will def. still be a surprise

babybchbum · January 2010

I'm glad you want that element of surprise and I'm glad you aren't BSC like some of the newer women who have come on this board. I wish you the best in waiting patiently since he is having issues not telling you about every detail.

jesslovespete · January 2010

Thanks again ladies! I think he'll stay tight lipped til he finally pops the question!

I'll let ya know! haha

Norway_T · January 2010

Hehe, I enjoyed reading your post. I am in the opposite boat. I know my bf has the ring. And its my job to just forget about it, and let him plan a proposal. But I somehow manage to slip out some comment about the ring everyday. (Telling him my fingers lonely, or singing the Beyonce song). I agree being surprised is nice. But I am not helping at all.

I have to go to South Africa for work in April and we are trying to tag on a vacation together afterwards. He told me that if we went to SA he would have to propose there because it would be too cool not to. UG. I was so hoping an engagement would come before then...and that he was planning something in Norway!

Oh well. I am enjoying the whole waiting game, for now at least.

desertsun · January 2010

I think your BF sounds like a cutie pie. I wish my FI would have let drop hints about the ring...but no, he kept me almost completely in the dark for over a year, the bastard.

Enjoy the anticipation -- you'll never have this pre-proposal time again, so enjoy it while it lasts. You will look back fondly, believe me. Welcome to the board!

jeanacorina · January 2010

Norway, singing Beyonce and saying your finger is lonely is pretty much BSC.

Especially the Beyonce part.

kismo · January 2010

i hate that song. obnoxious.

**Mutley** · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_element-of-surprise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2ed16993-3a74-494d-aa55-bdee39fbc48dPost:1b51e8df-9b9c-4c66-a9e4-3ae4c4fa0fcc">Re: element of surprise?</a>:
[QUOTE]Norway, singing Beyonce and saying your finger is lonely is pretty much BSC. Especially the Beyonce part.
Posted by jeanacorina[/QUOTE]

Jeanna, I might have to do harm to your FI so that I can have you all to myself. Just saying.

lzimm13 · January 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_element-of-surprise?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:2ed16993-3a74-494d-aa55-bdee39fbc48dPost:3c14eda1-7fd1-4438-bcee-ad85249be2f2">element of surprise?</a>:
[QUOTE]Hi Everyone, This is my first post...just feel like I need to vent a bit! I am patiently awaiting a proposal from my boyfriend of over 4 years, but I feel like I know too much! We went to try rings on and I showed him what I liked and he showed me what he liked on me as well. He had me narrow it down to 2 and he said he was going to pick which one. Thats fine and all, I know I'll like whatever he picks but it sorta takes the surprise element out of it you know? Thats not the part that bothers me though...He told me when he ordered it. He told me when it came in. He told me it'll be a few more weeks to set it and then it'll be ready. Stop already!! I want SOMETHING to be a surprise here! I probably shouldn't be complaining but I feel like he should stop telling me things at this point if he wants it to be a surprise! I guess he's just as excited as I am?
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</div><div>Dude! SO annoying! right!? My Bf is doing the same thing! I found out he sent pictures of the ring to a ton of people so that basically the only people I get to show are my parents! I told him he's not allowed to show anyone else until its a picture of me with the ring on! We also went to Disney with my family over the holidays and originally he wasn't supposed to have the ring until after we got home. Well we were standing in line for a ride one night and he goes "good thing I didn't bring the ring with me. Its way too crowded here. I never would have had the chance or space to get down on one knee!" I just stared at him slack jawed and he says "oh, I didn't tell you it came in on friday...did I?" I just slapped him and told him that he is not to talk to me about the ring until its on my hand! lol He hates surprises so he doesn't get why I want to be surprised.

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skichica622 · January 2010

I laughed out loud at this post, too! We're like twins but not at the same time! I'm also past the 4 year mark, BF asked me to narrow it down to my top 3 and he would pick. But since then he won't tell me ANYTHING! He won't tell me if he bought it, how long it'll take to be made, nothing! It's driving me crazy because I was so involved in the process in the beginning and now I'm TOTALLY in the dark. I just hope that I don't do something stupid like blurt out "FINALLY!" if/when he asks. hahahaha, not really I'm not that BSC yet! Anyways, your BF sounds like he's just really excited, which is cute. Good luck and hope he manages to surprise you!

jesslovespete · January 2010

You all are so sweet! Now I don't feel so bad since some of you are going through the same thing! hahaha Thanks for the welcome wishes. I need to figure out the board lingo though...I don't know what BSC is! LOL

skichica622 · January 2010

There's a dictionary/by law thread one of the other ladies can give you a heads up about where it is, I forget. BSC = bat sht crazy. You'll see it a lot on this board! Usually refers to when someone plans out their wedding without telling their boyfriend who has not proposed yet!

Button5807 · January 2010

click on the buttons in my sig to get to the by laws and the dictionary

jesslovespete · January 2010

hahah ok thanks!

jesslovespete · June 2010

UPDATE! I'M ENGAGED AS OF LAST NIGHT! YAAAAAAAY!

PaigeMcC · June 2010

Congratulations, hun

Gamette · June 2010

Late to the party, but congrats!

sapphirebaby926 · June 2010

Congrats

Question though - since this thread is 5 months old why didn't you just make a new post?

Goldlie11 · June 2010

Congrats

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