My future Mother in law has been driving me up the wall. We are having a more informal wedding and have tried to convey that to her but she went out and bough a RED satin ball gown for the wedding. No one is wearing satin. The bridesmaids are in silk taffeta as is my mother. Red was my accent color of the day. I had picked out an all red bouquet and red accents. She bought the dress without telling anyone which made me furious and now she is arguing about how she wants to have her hair done. I had wanted to be the only one with an up-do but she is being insistent on putting her hair up as well. When we tell her we tell her we don't think that she'll fit in she gets all offended.
She invited double the amount of people we wanted her to and is pouting about the fact that her brothers are not invited to the rehearsal dinner. For budget reasons we are keeping the rehearsal dinner to only the immediate bridal party.
How can I not get angry about her and not take it out on my fiance. I feel like she is ruining my wedding because she wishes it were one of her daughters...
Re: Difficult Mother of the Groom
[QUOTE]My future Mother in law has been driving me up the wall. We are having a more informal wedding and have tried to convey that to her but she went out and bough a RED satin ball gown for the wedding. No one is wearing satin. The bridesmaids are in silk taffeta as is my mother. Red was my accent color of the day. I had picked out an all red bouquet and red accents. She bought the dress without telling anyone which made me furious and now she is arguing about how she wants to have her hair done. I had wanted to be the only one with an up-do but she is being insistent on putting her hair up as well. When we tell her we tell her we don't think that she'll fit in she gets all offended. She invited double the amount of people we wanted her to and is pouting about the fact that her brothers are not invited to the rehearsal dinner. For budget reasons we are keeping the rehearsal dinner to only the immediate bridal party. How can I not get angry about her and not take it out on my fiance. I feel like she is ruining my wedding because she wishes it were one of her daughters...
Posted by clmchugh[/QUOTE]
<div>your fMIL is a grown woman and can wear whatever the hell she wants. ditto her hair. </div><div>
</div><div>whoever pays for the rehearsal dinner/wedding gets to determine the guest list. if you are paying 100% you decide, if FMIL is paying, then she gets to decide. </div><div>
</div><div>you need to chill out and stop making assumptions. </div><div>
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OP, you're a brat. Just because your FMIL has more fashion sense than you do does not mean you can take your anger out on your FI.
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As for the number of guests - who is paying? Is she paying? Are you / your parents paying? If you or your parents are paying cut her off. Actually, your fiance needs to step up and tell his mother to calm down and stop trying to turn HIS wedding into HER event.
[QUOTE] I had wanted to be the only one with an up-do but she is being insistent on putting her hair up as well. Posted by clmchugh[/QUOTE]
I bet you're not the only one there with an updo of some sort
I just a friendly gal looking for options.
FTR, FMIL is wearing a black dress to my wedding, which I think people would find way more objectionable than red. My mother's dress/hair/makeup is costing way more than mine because she's a prima donna. Her ensemble will be ridiculously over the top. MOH is wearing her hair exactly how I'm wearing mine, possibly even with the sparkly headband. None of these things bother me.
Get over it. Everyone will know you're the bride. If your FMIL is ridiculous, they'll just laugh at her.
Keep yourself in the calm, and be at peace!
"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart." ~ Miss K ~
But I'm sure they'll be lovely. I do think some taffetta is pretty, it just seems so uncomfortable that I would never wear it.
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Oh, and what made you think not a single person would show up with an up-do besides you? Did you include hairstyle guidelines in your invitations? Is someone going to be assigned the task of asking anyone arriving with an up-do to let their hair down before they're allowed in? Maybe that person will have clippers and will shave the heads of all non-compliant guests...
[QUOTE]My future Mother in law has been driving me up the wall. We are having a more informal wedding and have tried to convey that to her but she went out and bough a RED satin ball gown for the wedding. No one is wearing satin. The bridesmaids are in silk taffeta as is my mother. Red was my accent color of the day. I had picked out an all red bouquet and red accents. She bought the dress without telling anyone which made me furious and now she is arguing about how she wants to have her hair done. I had wanted to be the only one with an up-do but she is being insistent on putting her hair up as well. When we tell her we tell her we don't think that she'll fit in she gets all offended. She invited double the amount of people we wanted her to and is pouting about the fact that her brothers are not invited to the rehearsal dinner. For budget reasons we are keeping the rehearsal dinner to only the immediate bridal party. How can I not get angry about her and not take it out on my fiance. I feel like she is ruining my wedding because she wishes it were one of her daughters...
Posted by clmchugh[/QUOTE] dearie,we ALL of us on this post have a FMIL situation and ALL of us deal with it and got on with our lives,maybe YOU need to learn to GET OVER IT!<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
[QUOTE]Really? She'll look like an idiot in a red satin dress? I think the ones in taffeta are going to look like idiots. Who in their right mind would choose to wear a dress of that material? OP, you're a brat. Just because your FMIL has more fashion sense than you do does not mean you can take your anger out on your FI.
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE] she's not only a brat,but a whiny BITCH!<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
[QUOTE]Really? She'll look like an idiot in a red satin dress? I think the ones in taffeta are going to look like idiots. Who in their right mind would choose to wear a dress of that material? OP, you're a brat. Just because your FMIL has more fashion sense than you do does not mean you can take your anger out on your FI.
Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE] she's not only a brat, but a whiny BRAT!