Future Mother in Law offered to throw me a Bridal shower...but

mooresavage · February 2010

(my FMIL is also gettting re-married later this year) She asked her son, my fiance if I would like a bridal shower, then she sent me a text message asking me, I told her that I wasn't planning on having one (this is #2 for my fiance & I) & I didn't want to take away from her wedding plans either. She said that if it was she wouldn't do it. So I said ok if you really want to. (all via texting) last thing I said was let me know what day and time and how many people I should invite (she said we'll have a small shower at her house and that we would talk about it when I get back in town. A couple days later I get another text from my FMIL "I need colors" I assume she means she wants to know what our wedding colors are so I tell her, and for her to give me an email address so I can send her a picture of the cake b/c it has all the colors on it. She didn't respond. Later that day my fiance tells me that she (FMIL) has already invited 15 of HER friends to my bridal shower! But she hasn't even told me what day we are doing it! If it's supposed to be a small shower 15 people is already a "small" party & I haven't even invited any of my friends! I just don't understand. Besides, her sister is already throwing her a bridal shower which I'm sure her friends are invited too. So why would she do that?
What am I supposed to do? Help!

HappyTummy613 · February 2010

Don't have these conversations via text message, for one thing.

amandajean36 · February 2010

i think if she's hosting, she can invite her friends.

and you should be talking to her on the phone or in person.

buddhagouda · February 2010

I'm imagining texts along the lines of

Y u do dat MIL?

fiddle14 · February 2010

If she's hosting, she can invite who she wants, but... she shouldn't be inviting anyone who isn't also invited to your wedding.

And everyone else is right. Call her on the phone or go visit her and figure all this out. Lost of things can get "lost in translation" when texting.

mooresavage · February 2010

Fiance rocks. Problem resolved. Thank you for your nice thoughts and your snotty ones. Obviously, if talking in person or on the phone was an option here it would have been done. It is extremely bad etiquette to invite people to a bridal shower that the bride does not know, (unless it was a wedding shower for both bride & groom) taking the place of her friends, and what is more people not invited to the wedding. Also, not consulting the bride (who is the CEO of her own company, and the CFO for her church) on what day/time she has free before inviting people is another issue. I have a thrown a few parties for friends, baby showers, bachelorettes, etc and I never once, picked a day w/out their input or invited people not on their personal guest list. It's just rude.
Have great weddings and more importantly good marriages. I know I will.

mrs.mims · February 2010

well screw all of you because me and FMIL text all the time. we have that special qwerty keyboard and use complete sentences. we have never had a problem with things being lost in translation. the reason we text is because i cant stand the sound of her voice, nor the sight of her face, but she takes great care of me and kisses my ass all the time so it works out well for me. plus her son is loaded, so thats why i'm marrying him in the first place.

vanessa7889 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_future-mother-law-offered-throw-bridal-showerbut?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:acd7cd42-f547-4b5a-9adb-6b24936cbb5bPost:a1714669-0143-4566-9c29-4aca42b63cfd">Re: Future Mother in Law offered to throw me a Bridal shower...but</a>:
[QUOTE]well screw all of you because me and FMIL text all the time. we have that special qwerty keyboard and use complete sentences. we have never had a problem with things being lost in translation. the reason we text is because i cant stand the sound of her voice, nor the sight of her face, but she takes great care of me and kisses my ass all the time so it works out well for me. plus her son is loaded, so thats why i'm marrying him in the first place.
Posted by mrs.mims[/QUOTE]

anyone else catch this? im confused and hoping its just the sarcasim...

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