Which would YOU rather get?

lehc723 · July 2012

I'm going to a friend's shower this weekend. Her shower was mostly a honeyfund (is that the term? if not, it's cute, I'm using it, ha ha), and so we're doing that for their wedding present, but since I can't BRING that, I didn't really know what to do for the shower. The other big chunk of stuff she registered for was Container Store gift cards, because they're going to have an Elfa expert come and do their closets. So I could just do that, but I was also thinking a nice bottle of wine. Should I just go with the gift card, or do something a bit more creative?

snuff9861 · July 2012

I'm personally against honeyfunds and registering for giftcards so I would not have done either. Not to say I would mind receiving giftcards but I would never flat out ask/register for them. I think you should get them some new hangers or something since they are re-doing their closets. But I'm spiteful like that haha.

AG2AF=2012 · July 2012

I saw this on Pinterest the other day and thought it was adorable.

https://pinterest.com/pin/141300507029235130/

I'm sure you could change it to meet your price point.

shoebie · July 2012

You can print the Honefund gift page out and put it with the $ in a card or if you paid cc or paypal you can still print the sheet into a card

achiduck · July 2012

I guess the simplest answer is this: we're all brides and most of us are having showers. Do YOU really want to get a whole bunch of stuff you didn't register for? I know I don't. Buy her what she registered for.

goatlady12 · July 2012

Your going to contribute to her honeyfund. Do you know where they plan on going for their honeymoon? You could maybe get her a botlle of sunscreen with a note to enjoy her honeymoon.

shoebie · July 2012

Honeyfund.com is a site where people register specifically for amounts to use toward things.

cbear215 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I guess the simplest answer is this: we're all brides and most of us are having showers. Do YOU really want to get a whole bunch of stuff you didn't register for? I know I don't. Buy her what she registered for.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

I agree with this! My mom told me the other day about how all my aunts will probably buy off registry because they want to do something special etc. Umm, the things on my registry ARE special, and there's a reason they are there. I'm personally not a fan of any of my aunt's taste either. Anyway, point being, I would buy off her registry. And I like shoebie's ideas for ways to physically open a gift from honeyfund--maybe even a picture of what you bought them or something cute like that.

Heath66 · July 2012

Do you know where she is going on her honeymoon? If you do I would give to her honeymoon and print out that you gave X to her honeymoon. I would wrap it up in something very cute. Say she is going to the beach I would get something like two beach towels and wrap it up very nicely with the paper that says the part about the gift card.

For the shower I sort of agree with Achiduck, I wouldn't want to stray too far from the registry. But in the case it sounds like she didn't register for anything other than giftcards. If you really want to stick to the registry you can get her a giftcard to the container store, but I would also add something fun that she can open up. Maybe some nice hangers like another poster said, or some organizing items.

achiduck · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : I agree with this! <strong>My mom told me the other day about how all my aunts will probably buy off registry because they want to do something special etc. Umm, the things on my registry ARE special, and there's a reason they are there.</strong> I'm personally not a fan of any of my aunt's taste either. Anyway, point being, I would buy off her registry. And I like shoebie's ideas for ways to physically open a gift from honeyfund--maybe even a picture of what you bought them or something cute like that.
Posted by cbear215[/QUOTE]

Exactly. I put a lot of time and effort into researching and picking out things for my registry that we will use and that will stand up for a long time. I didn't just walk around the store for 30 minuets scanning anything shiney. I probably spent a total of around 10 hours doing this so buy the stuff dammit!

minionlover · July 2012

I think that you should just do the Container Store. Like the others said, you could get something small from there too or I was thinking you could attach the gift card to a bottle of wine.

CarolineandDean · July 2012

This bride is the one who registered for dull and boring gift cards, so I personally wouldn't spend too much time making it creative. I'd get her a gift card, and call it a day.

lehc723 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]You can print the Honefund gift page out and put it with the $ in a card or if you paid cc or paypal you can still print the sheet into a card
Posted by shoebie420[/QUOTE]
Thanks-- what a good idea! I'm doing this. I made up a cute little thing saying she's getting drinks, and I'll frame it, so that way at least there's a tangible thing to give her Saturday.

cbear215 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : Thanks-- what a good idea! I'm doing this. I made up a cute little thing saying she's getting drinks, and I'll frame it, so that way at least there's a tangible thing to give her Saturday.
Posted by lehc723[/QUOTE]

I think that's a great idea!

cbear215 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : Exactly. I put a lot of time and effort into researching and picking out things for my registry that we will use and that will stand up for a long time.<strong> I didn't just walk around the store for 30 minuets scanning anything shiney.</strong> I probably spent a total of around 10 hours doing this so buy the stuff dammit!
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

This made me laugh out loud. But yes, registering took a lot of time/work (who would have known?)!

lehc723 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : Thanks-- what a good idea! I'm doing this. I made up a cute little thing saying she's getting drinks, and I'll frame it, so that way at least there's a tangible thing to give her Saturday.
Posted by lehc723[/QUOTE]
To clarify myself, ha, her honeyfund isn't just "Give us money", it's "Buy us drinks at the pool, buy us this, that, blah blah" so I picked drinks. I'm always the friend who will buy the boozey option on a registry. ;)

lehc723 · July 2012

And good point to all of you stressing that we all spent time on our registry, and so people should pay attention to it! I guess in this case because it was hard to think of something to BRING to a shower, based on her registry, I was kind of at a loss!

snuff9861 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : To clarify myself, ha, her honeyfund isn't just "Give us money", it's "<strong>Buy us drinks at the pool,</strong> buy us this, that, blah blah" so I picked drinks. I'm always the friend who will buy the boozey option on a registry. ;)
Posted by lehc723[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>So you think. Honeyfund takes a cut of every transaction. And it's usually between 15-20%. Then your friend gets cut a cheque for the remainder. </div>

lehc723 · July 2012

Interesting! This is if you register specifially through a company called Honeyfund? I thought that was just a term-- they're actually set up through Simple Registry?

fishinflagrl · July 2012

In Response to Re:Which would YOU rather get?:[QUOTE]I guess the simplest answer is this: we're all brides and most of us are having showers. Do YOU really want to get a whole bunch of stuff you didn't register for?nbsp;I know I don't. Buy her what she registered for. Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]

Well said. I definitely would not want a bottle of wine. I only like one kind of wine. Unless you know exactly what he wants I would stick to the registry.

snuff9861 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Interesting! This is if you register specifially through a company called Honeyfund? I thought that was just a term-- they're actually set up through Simple Registry?
Posted by lehc723[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>They are all the same concept. Your friend will stil only get a portion of the money you gave.

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lehc723 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : They are all the same concept. Your friend will stil only get a portion of the money you gave.
Posted by snuff9861[/QUOTE]
What a bummer! Wish I'd known that before I went ahead and purchased it. Hope they like cheap drinks. ;)

TheSlowskys · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : So you think. Honeyfund takes a cut of every transaction. And it's usually between 15-20%. Then your friend gets cut a cheque for the remainder.
Posted by snuff9861[/QUOTE]

This...

Oh dear... I always buy from the registry but I would not give a gift card or a honeymoon contribution. Whats the point of a shower then? Not that watching someone open a mixer and sheets is thrilling, but its at least more entertaining than "Jane gave me $50 to the Container Store, Suzy gave me $25, oh look, Martha gave me this coupon to swim with dolphins." The whole thing just rubs me as being in poor taste. Buy your friend an apron or some mixing bowls.

ericaandtom2012 · July 2012

I'd rather give neither. I like giving physical gifts at a shower, so I'd probably buy a few bottles of wine and assign each bottle a certain life milestone (like 1st anniversary, 5th anniversary, birth of first child, etc). Or a bottle of wine and some nice wine glasses.

I can't imagine people will be doing too many gift cards for a shower, since the bride should be opening the gifts with everyone there (thanks for the $100 gift card aunt Em. oh, another gift card - $50 from aunt Jane). Awkward, especially if your budget is lower than other people's.

mrshall1027 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Which would YOU rather get? : So you think. Honeyfund takes a cut of every transaction. And it's usually between 15-20%. Then your friend gets cut a cheque for the remainder.
Posted by snuff9861[/QUOTE]

<div>That's not true for Honeyfund.com. I know because we are using them. They have an option for an upgraded website that you can pay for or you can use the plain regular website for free. The only fees that are taken from the gift are the paypal fees if you decide to pay for the gift that way. If you decide to mail a check or bring a check/cash to the wedding, there is no fee at all.</div><div>
</div><div>There are other honeymoon registries that do charge a per transaction fee, but honeyfund.com isn't one of them.</div>

lehc723 · July 2012

Well, also, to the ladies pointing out the need to unwrap something, FWIW, it's one of those showers where we were told to NOT wrap things, so I don't know what all we're actually doing there, ha.

brainybrunette · July 2012

I ALWAYS buy off the registry for the shower and give cash for the wedding. I figure that I don't want random gifts that I will never use for my shower, so I woudln't do that to someone else.

I know people mean well when they buy off the registry, they think they are being more thoughtful and creative. But brides have spent a lot of time picking out things on their registry that best meet their needs.

ericaandtom2012 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I ALWAYS buy off the registry for the shower and give cash for the wedding. I figure that I don't want random gifts that I will never use for my shower, so I woudln't do that to someone else. I know people mean well when they buy off the registry, they think they are being more thoughtful and creative. But brides have spent a lot of time picking out things on their registry that best meet their needs.
Posted by Nic12184[/QUOTE]

<div>But this bride didn't spend a lot of time on her registry - she is asking for cash and gift cards. I usually buy from the registry for the shower and do cash for the wedding, but not if it's just gift cards and a honeymoon fund. </div>

brainybrunette · July 2012

But maybe she doesn't know specifically what she needs for her closet yet, so that's why she just registered for the gift cards.

I'm not a fan of registering for honeymoon funds or gift cards either...but I still wouldn't get someone something off registry if that's what they chose to do for their registries.

Stina2012 · July 2012

Sorry, not cool that she's doing a shower and has $$$ registries.

Also, I just don't understand Honeyfund. So, you pick the option that avoids fees which means people put a check in the mail....wouldn't they do that anyways if they wanted to give you money? Eh, I just don't get it.

lehc723 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]Sorry, not cool that she's doing a shower and has $$$ registries. Also, I just don't understand Honeyfund. So, you pick the option that avoids fees which means people put a check in the mail....wouldn't they do that anyways if they wanted to give you money? Eh, I just don't get it.
Posted by Stina2012[/QUOTE]
She did, FWIW, have a few odds-and-ends and normal house things on the registry. They're just all purchased already! I snoozed, I lose.

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