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Memorial Day Weekend Wedding ~ When should I sent out my invites?

daflamingadaflaminga member
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They're just about ready to go!  All I have to do is put stamps on the envelopes and seal them!  Is it too early though?  I sent out save-the-dates in September.  My r.s.v.p. date is April 12th because we sorta have a "b" list (I know, it's horrible) and we need extra time in case we get enough 'no's to give invites to the "b" list people.  I can wait until mid March I guess...what do you guys think?
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Re: Memorial Day Weekend Wedding ~ When should I sent out my invites?

  • eleven29eleven29
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think it's too early!  I plan on sending my invites out about 3 months before my wedding because I'll also have a "b-list."  It's not horrible (at least IMO) -- a lot of people do it!  You'll need that time to see who RSVPs before sending out the 2nd round of invites, so I say send them now if you want.
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    I would wait till closer to the end of March.

    The problem with an early RSVP date is people wind up changing their RSVP.  I had mine 2 weeks before my wedding and still wound up with a ton of changes (both add ons and deletes).
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  • daflamingadaflaminga member
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    edited December 2011
    Well I can't change my RSVP date since the response cards are already printed out and in the envelopes...All I can do is just wait a week or two to mail out my invitations, but I can't wait longer than that because I need to give guests at least a month to respond...Are they gonna get the invitation and be like, "Why are they making us respond so early???"
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    If you send out now then yes people will know why you are doing that.  Send them out in 2 weeks especially since you already did a std
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  • njbrowneyedgrl74njbrowneyedgrl74 member
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    edited December 2011

    Give a month, so send them out on March 10th or so.

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  • melissa82melissa82 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ditto, send mid March.
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  • Reilly626Reilly626 member
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    edited December 2011
    I say do what works best for you! Who cares what the "yes" people think, you need to do for you!  Mine are going out early too because its a summer wedding and people live far.
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  • LolyalyssaLolyalyssa member
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    edited December 2011
    Send them the Ides of March (the 15th)
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  • ecg129ecg129
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    edited December 2011
    I'm getting married the same weekend! Yeyey :)

    I'm shooting for March 15th exactly.  My RSVP is April 30th though, one month prior.
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  • melissa_leavittmelissa_leavitt member
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    edited December 2011

    I agree I would send them out March 15th. That way you have time for the "B" list invites.

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  • goaliegirlgoaliegirl member
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    edited December 2011
    Honestly, it doesn't matter when you send them out because a lot of people will send them back late anyhow!  All the ones I got in the beginning were the yes responses.  A lot of the No's came in right under the wire or late.   Personally, I would wait until mid-march because if you send them out too early, they sit on somebody's desk and they never get sent back because you give them too much time.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_memorial-day-weekend-wedding-should-sent-out-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:90Discussion:8caa2824-642e-4d15-bebd-5d28c3ad6691Post:ab7d2197-1fa5-4271-a0d3-347610f74d90">Re: Memorial Day Weekend Wedding ~ When should I sent out my invites?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I say do what works best for you! Who cares what the "yes" people think, you need to do for you!  Mine are going out early too because its a summer wedding and people live far.
    Posted by Reilly626[/QUOTE]

    I totally care about what my guests think....

    That being said, I agree with the March 15 girls, only because your RSVP is early...as you get no's send out B list...
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  • daflamingadaflaminga member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone!  I think I'll wait closer to mid-March like most of you suggested.  I did send out save the dates after all so everyone knows when the wedding is anyway.
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