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Rehersal Dinner Question

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So, I am having a small wedding a glass chapel in AK and I do not plan on having sing/read-- but simply my minster saying a few words, candle lighting, and vows. Because of this, I have decided against having a rehersal for the wedding-- my wedding party is also very small. However, should I have a rehersal dinner so that everyone can meet? My dad and his fiancee live in FL and the likelyhood of everyone getting to meet beforehand is slim. Also, who should pay for this. My parents are each giving me and equal portion, and my fiance and I can come up with the rest-- if we go over. His family is going through some finacial hardtimes, and three years ago paid for his sister's wedding. Thoughts are appreciated!
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Re: Rehersal Dinner Question

  • september's brideseptember's bride member
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    You're not obligated to host anything, especially since you're not having an actual rehearsal. If you can swing it, though, I think it would be really nice to host a small dinner somewhere so that everyone can meet. I know I've appreciated that as a member of a bridal party where I knew almost nobody!
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    A rehearsal dinner isn't required if you aren't doing a rehearsal.

    My in-laws graciously hosted one for us (they offered) otherwise we were probably going to do something on our own, but we were in the same situation.  We didn't do a rehearsal.

    It was nice to get people together the night before for food and drinks though.

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  • srkropfsrkropf member
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    Moose-- I love that picture. My FI makes fun of me for putting our cat in a Santa outfit-- but he looks really cute!
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  • tlv204tlv204 member
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    Ditto, it's not necessary but would be nice for everyone to meet. It doesn't need to be fancy though. It could just be a picnic or something.

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  • quotequeenquotequeen member
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    As for who should pay for it, it sounds like your families have already offered their contributions and it's up to you how to spend it.  So if you have money left over, you can spend it on this party, and if not, you can choose to pay for it yourselves or not have one.
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  • Catwoman708Catwoman708 member
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    The rehearsal dinner is not just to feed those that must be at the rehearsal.  It's also a way to thank your wedding party, and a nice time to get the parents together.  Also a chance to have one last dinner wth your parents, or a nice time to chill before the big, hectic day.

    So while you are not required to host a dinner if you aren't having a rehearsal, it would be very nice and considerate if you can afford to take your parents and small wedding party out to eat.
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