Would you quit your job?

lpstl · November 2009

Did you intern in college at all? Have you considered relocation?

I don't think it would necessaily be a bad idea to go from your current job to an intern position (if you haven't interned before). A degree just isn't good enough anymore, you have to have experience. Even if you can volunteer at one of the local TV stations for charity drives they do, I'd go for it. It could give you an opportunity to meet people who work there, and at the very least would look good on your resume.

vallyhoo · November 2009

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ac_in_dc · November 2009

Kiki, have you ever read "what color is your parachute?"

there are a lot of job-hunting books out there. This one really helped me when I was depressed and unemployed back in 2000, helps you identify your strengths and provides exercises to help you plan a course of action for changing your career path.

Good luck.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · November 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_would-quit-job?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b6741a48-68ef-42fa-9b1d-d678221f581aPost:bdbabf32-2667-4048-a082-7bf4e6c09133">Re: Would you quit your job?</a>:
[QUOTE]But merymac, you got lucky. What if you had been in a car accident or some other terrible thing with no health insurance? Just because you were blessed that nothing went wrong when you did it doesn't mean everyone else will be.
Posted by danieliza1127[/QUOTE]

Very true. Those 3 months were stressful specifically because of that, but not because of my job. The job situation was much better, even though I made less. If I had been able to afford COBRA, though, I would have.

I would also point out that I had no direction at that time. Eventually I went back to a job in the field I was working in, and I'm still here, 3.5 years later. It's boring as hell, but my boss is cool, and it's a decent work environment. I now have a plan to get out of it, though (getting an MA part time). At this point I know I have about 1.5 years before I can go back to school for my PhD full time, which is my goal.

Keep in mind, I was also barely 23 and used the whole "I'm figuring out my life" excuse when I did that.

Kiki - my degree is in broadcast journalism and I live in LA and there are still precious few spots. Good thing I don't even want to do that anymore.

Nebb · November 2009

Im curious what you would do should your job hunt not find anything in 4 months and you become desperate? Are you willing to work ANYWHERE to get by as long as youre not at the current place? I think that needs to be par tof your plan as well.

bbyckes · November 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_would-quit-job?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b6741a48-68ef-42fa-9b1d-d678221f581aPost:5ff3d2c6-eaea-42bd-ac4c-68034d681b14">Re: Would you quit your job?</a>:
[QUOTE]That would be changing how you feel about your job, would it not? I'm confused.
Posted by wadingmoose[/QUOTE]

While it is possible to still be unhappy with your job functions and working where you work, etc. By treating depression you discover tools which enable you to see beyond your present situation. Depression can be debilitating - you believe that things are hopeless and will never change.

Treatment can help you plan, your situations won't seem so hopeless, you believe yourself to be less helpless and you become more able to create and execute an escape.

I don't know if this made it any clearer.

TheSaltyPeanut · November 2009

I couldn't imagine being in that position, having that much saved! So, no.

wadingmoose · November 2009

I'm aware of what depression does and how it's treated. Treating it won't CHANGE your job. It won't make you actually like your job. I never said it would. I said it would change how you feel about it and an unbearable situation becomes bearable.

While depressed, people may feel as though they hate some things, even if they were things they previously really enjoyed. So dealing with the depression typically makes those experiences enjoyable again. This can include work and often does.

Also, dealing with depression could make a person more sociable at work, resulting in a positive work environment as you make friends and build relationships. It also helps with motivation at work and outside of work which can also result in a more pleasant and enjoyable work experience.

Or not. It could just give you tools to get through the awful, horrifying day.

kikibaby · November 2009

Sorry to disappear, I had to go to my mandated lunch time. Bleh.

Anyway, I didn't even say that I'm going to quit my job, moose. Yes, I WANT to, but I think it's unlikely that I would actually do it. I would hate to depend on FI for anything, even though he makes 4 x as much as I do. He has offered to put me on his insurance after we get married if i want to go back to school for anything at that time.

I do realize the best course is to suck it up for a while until the economy gets better. It's just very very hard some days (those days when continuing driving through the parking lot and in to the creek seem like a good option).

kikibaby · November 2009

And I'm definitely going to read some career books and try to really hone in on what it is that would make me happy. I may even try to find some sort of career counselor or life coach or something. I definitely need direction.

wadingmoose · November 2009

It's just very very hard some days (those days when continuing driving through the parking lot and in to the creek seem like a good option).

THIS makes me think that dealing with your depression will solve a lot of problems for you.

And I never said you were going to quit your job. I said you wanted to and appeared to be simply looking for validation to do so.

danieliza1127 · November 2009

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_would-quit-job?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:b6741a48-68ef-42fa-9b1d-d678221f581aPost:e14b8f2f-1004-4fed-8ad7-47e508f3f52d">Re: Would you quit your job?</a>:
[QUOTE]And I'm definitely going to read some career books and try to really hone in on what it is that would make me happy. I may even try to find some sort of career counselor or life coach or something. I definitely need direction.
Posted by kikibaby[/QUOTE]

I think that's the best start you can make, that and dealing with depression if that's really an issue for you.

squirrly · November 2009

If I could find another job that would make me happy and pay the bills, I would quit. I wouldn't care if it were in my field or not. Then again, I'm not dedicated to working in my field for the duration of my career. I'd prefer to be happy. But no, I wouldn't quit & sit at home living off of savings with no job. I'd just spend all my free time looking for a job I could tolerate with a sufficent pay check & go from there.

sapphirebaby926 · November 2009

I would and I actually just did this. My DH and I talked about this for months before making a final decision on what we were going to do. We are moving out of town (he's already got a job there) and I am going to go back to school and get a part-time job. If I can't get something part-time then we can manage on his salary although it wouldn't be the most ideal situation.

saschaduran · November 2009

I did it once. I didn't regret it. I like to take a couple months here and there just to enjoy life and regroup. Maybe it is not the best for my retirement accounts, but it has always helped me mentally. I am a person that needs lots of downtime.

ggmae · November 2009

I quit my job last year without something else lined up - DH was coming home from Iraq and had asked me to go live with him in TN for a while. There was no way I could pass that opp up, especially after being apart for 2 years! And having shittty coworkers definitely made the decision to leave an easy one. While it was stressful not having a job for a year, I'm happy that I made the decision that I did. It was what was best for me and for our relationship.

I can understand the tough situation that you are in and the conflict you are having. If I were in your situation, I wouldn't leave only because I know how crappy the overall job market is right now and how stressed out I was while job-hunting.

GL with your decision. I hope you are able to make a choice that is best for you.

meredithgardner · November 2009

Hi,

I'm mostly a lurker, but wanted to respond. I was in the same position a year ago. I worked at the company for about a year and everyday I would come home and cry. Some days I would come home at lunch to cry. Finally, one day, I snapped and called my FI and told him I couldn't do it anymore and I had some money in savings and asked if I should just quit.

I did and smiled the whole way home.

If you think you'll be ok and you think you may find a new job (anywhere...), then I would say go for it. You need to be happy and being miserable for so many hours a day is no way to live.

Good luck to you!

katiewhompus · November 2009

I wouldn't quit with nothing lined up but I have taken very large paycuts to be happy.
My last job made me miserable, to the point where if someone asked how work went I would start crying out of stress. I worked 14 hours a day, most times 6 days a week and was constantly yelled at by my bosses, customers, and dealt with animals dying that I couldn't fix. I worked so many close/open shifts (leave at midnight, get home at 1am, wake up at 5am to be there by 6am the next morning) that I had several close calls with traffic accidents and running my car off the road.
When my current job position became open at first I didn't want to go for it, soley because of the pay cut. The day after my interview a kitten died in our adoption center and I just sat in the vets office crying for about an hour. After a bit the vet came in, hugged me and said "Kristi, you need to get out of here. You need a job where nothing dies and you don't cry every day. You have too much kindness to be here, get out before it kills you".

So long story short, I know what it feels like to have a job where you really can't be there anymore. Start job hunting like crazy and take whatever opportunity you can.

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