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Am I being unreasonable? *Vent*
So hubby tells me this morning that he wants to go to New Jersey with a friend the weekend of our first anniversary. I got a bit ticked and told him that I wasn't really okay with it because 1) We STILL haven't had a honeymoon and have been talking about an anniversary trip instead and 2) It's fucking New Jersey, it's not like anything will be different any other time, so why on Earth can't they go another weekend? DH was still like, "I just don't think it should be that big a deal."
We hardly get to see each other these days, our schedules are so off, so I didn't want to start a fight. But now that he's gone and I'm home alone, again, I'm really pissed off that he didn't even consider our anniversary whilst making his plans. Maybe it isn't that big a deal, maybe we can celebrate another time, but come on!
So, ladies- Am I being unreasonable to think he should postpone this trip and be with me on our first anniversary???
We hardly get to see each other these days, our schedules are so off, so I didn't want to start a fight. But now that he's gone and I'm home alone, again, I'm really pissed off that he didn't even consider our anniversary whilst making his plans. Maybe it isn't that big a deal, maybe we can celebrate another time, but come on!
So, ladies- Am I being unreasonable to think he should postpone this trip and be with me on our first anniversary???
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Re: Am I being unreasonable? *Vent*
[QUOTE]So hubby tells me this morning that he wants to go to New Jersey with a friend the weekend of our<strong> first anniversary</strong>. I got a bit ticked and told him that I wasn't really okay with it because 1) <strong>We STILL haven't had a honeymoon</strong> and have been talking about an anniversary trip instead and 2) It's fucking New Jersey, it's not like anything will be different any other time, so why on Earth can't they go another weekend? DH was still like, "I just don't think it should be that big a deal." We hardly get to see each other these days, our schedules are so off, so I didn't want to start a fight. But now that he's gone and I'm home alone, again, I'm really pissed off that he didn't even consider our anniversary whilst making his plans. Maybe it isn't that big a deal, maybe we can celebrate another time, but come on! So, ladies- Am I being unreasonable to think he should postpone this trip and be with me on our first anniversary???
Posted by nefariousmango[/QUOTE]
<div>Based on the two statements I've bolded, HE is being unreasonable. It's your first anniversary, that's kind of a big deal. And if you haven't had your honeymoon, that makes it twice a big deal.</div><div>
</div><div>Men=dense. I asked FI the other day why he's never gotten me a birthday card, and he was like "Oh, I never thought about it..." I wanted to smack him. Duh you moron, it's my BIRTHDAY. Sorry, *hugs* I'd tell him that it means a ton to you for him to be there that weekend, and you'd like him to be able to go, but maybe another weekend. </div>
[QUOTE]No you arn't. I'd be really upset too. How many years have you been married? This seems like a really jerky move from him. I'm so sorry. I understand not wanting ti fight... I don't see my FI often either and want to make the best of it... but just explain to him why you are hurt. I mean, he should get this. Your anniversary should be about you two and is off limits for anything else. Duh. Men can be so dense sometimes. Sorry sweetheart.
Posted by theluckiest555[/QUOTE]
I just saw your wedding ticker. Haha. Talk about being dense.....<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />
I know he's a bit dense about this stuff, and to be fair I'm usually all for traveling whenever we can regardless of holidays or birthdays because I don't mind celebrating, say, Christmas, a few days early or late. For example, we celebrated Christmas at a really odd time this last year because my sister was undergoing radiation for her thyroid cancer and we wanted to do it when she was well enough to have a tree. But in this case there's no reason he can't go another weekend!
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Shoes: We want kids, so I'm letting him keep his balls for now... Plus he's usually a really sweet, understanding guy! Sometimes he just forgets that I'm actually a woman and I care about these traditions.
Talk to him and tell him how you feel. It's your FIRST anniversary as a married couple FFS.<3