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  • Re: Etiquette rules that aren't my preference

    I'm also totally fine with a cash bar. Like you said, I'd rather be able to buy a drink than not have one at all. And if like a PP mentioned, if I'm thinking your wedding is going to be dry, I'm bringing a flask just in case.

    I also don't mind HoneyFund registries, which I know is a big no-no here. It's definitely frustrating that the websites take X percent, but I like giving to them and think it's a fun, unique way to help the couple have a great honeymoon. It's not the end of the world to me that a business is going to take 3 percent of my gift.
  • Re: RSVP Stamps

    In addition to what PPs have said, I think you will receive a lot less RSVPs and be forced to make a lot more follow-up phone calls if you don't put stamps on your envelopes. Personally, I don't have stamps at my house. The only time I need them are for mailing things at work, where we have stamps. If there was no stamp on an RSVP envelope, I would probably just call/text, but considering not even everyone RSVPs when IT is convenient for them, I think most of your guests are going to let that RSVP card sit around at their house until they remember to go buy a stamp (which could likely be never).
  • Re: Vegetarian wedding part 2

    lnixon8 said:
    So ironic how many herbivores would see no problem with vegetarians just eating side dishes if they were to serve meat.

    Your menu sounds great, it's not like your serving "fake" meat.
    100 percent agree with this. I eat meat daily, but I also love vegetables, fruit, pasta and plenty of foods that are not meat. I would be turned off by any fake meat, but not by a meal that happened to not include it.
  • Re: Divorced parents vs. Married parents?

     Our wedding is December 2nd, 2017 and my parent's anniversary is on december 21st. They will have be married for 43 years but my fiancé's parents got divorced over 7 years ago. I saw a video online of a couple honoring both parents at their wedding with a surprise vowel renewal and it just broke my heart. I'd love to do something like this for my parents but I don't want to offend or hurt his parents, namely his Mom. (She made comments this weekend during planning that his Dad "better not bring his girlfriend to this personal family affair".) So, I know she's already bracing for the uncomfortable moments. Do you guys have any idea of how I can honor all the parents, or at least honor our parents in different ways (like mine being married for that long, I'd love to surprise them with a vowel renewal) so as to not offend his parents or hurt anyone's feelings? Thank you so much!
    Is this something your parents would even want to do? Some people may not be comfortable with a surprise vow renewal. I would stick to a celebration of your wedding, not others. 

    If you want to "honor" long standing relationships you can display wedding photos or do an "anniversary dance" (the ones where the longest married couples are the last on the dance floor). But I'd definitely stay away from any large, surprise, events. 
    We did the anniversary dance and I've seen it done at many weddings. I think it's a cute way to recognize couples who have been married a long time without putting a huge spotlight on them.
  • Re: Lounge Reception

    Ok so I'm the token person here who did unassigned seating, so I'll tell you what works and what doesn't. It worked at our wedding, but I wouldn't recommend it for everyone. Unassigned seating only works if: 1) your crowd "gets it" and 2) if you have 15-20% MORE seating than you have guests. 

    Point 1 - If your crowd is used to walking into social events and being told where to sit, they're going to walk into an unassigned seating situation like a deer in the headlights. It just throws off the "good vibe". On the flip side, if they're used to this, you're good.

    Point 2 - People leave chairs between them and don't fill tables. For this reason, you need MORE seating than you would if you assigned tables. People need a place to set their stuff and eat dinner. If you can afford the extra space and cost to provide that, you're good. If not, assign tables.

    You can encourage mingling by maintaining your high top tables and lounge areas, absolutely! Just add actual tables and chairs for everyone.

    DO NOT SKIMP ON SEATING. I went to a wedding that did this a few years ago. Literally every single person complained how rude it was. The crowd thinned out much earlier than expected. Very, very nice couple, but they just made a bad choice. Don't be that couple.
    I also did not have assigned seating and was surprised to hear the majority of people hear recommend it. I guess it is a know-your-crowd thing, because I've also never been to a wedding with assigned seating or tables. It worked fine for us, but we had seating for 200 and probably only had 160-180 show up, which allowed room for people to sit with friends and not completely fill tables.

    A different venue tried to sell me on "80 percent seating" (their capacity was 180, which I think would have been crammed with a dance floor and buffet) and I'm glad I didn't listen after hearing horror stories on TK. Your setup sounds different from a traditional venue, but I'd still think you'd want more than enough seating since people will be in different areas throughout the night.

    And for what it's worth, if I saw a carving station I would assume that was dinner.