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  • Re: Ugh, Wednesday

    kaos16 said:

    DH got a Peloton bike and I'm already obsessed.  I took a 45 minute class Monday night, and a 30 minute class yesterday on my lunch break.  I like that I can do it in the evenings after our son is asleep since DH often has evening meetings.  I hope I get used to the seat soon though, because even with the super sexy padded shorts, it's a bit tender.

    We also signed up for "Hunt a Killer."  It's a monthly subscription box where you get clues to solve a murder.  It's supposed to be similar to the concept of Escape Rooms.  The storylines are done by mystery/thriller writers or something.  I'm excited to try the first one tonight. . . . best takeout burgers in town/wine/hunting serial killers from the warmth and comfort of my own house?  Yes please!

    OMG I want one! Thanks for the good review.  I really want to replace my stationary bike in my gym!  I'd rather put $1,995 into a one time purchase for equipment than spend $1,200 ish a year for a gym membership I probably wouldn't use.

    I believe they have no interest financing right now too.  The monthly membership is $39.  I think we are paying $110 a month.  For that price, both of us can take as many classes as we want as often as we want, and could add users too, if someone else wanted to use it.  I know that in my area to go to a spin class would be $20-$25 per class.  I feel like for our purposes, this will end up being a pretty cost effective purchase.
    short+sassy
  • Re: Ugh, Wednesday

    DH got a Peloton bike and I'm already obsessed.  I took a 45 minute class Monday night, and a 30 minute class yesterday on my lunch break.  I like that I can do it in the evenings after our son is asleep since DH often has evening meetings.  I hope I get used to the seat soon though, because even with the super sexy padded shorts, it's a bit tender.

    We also signed up for "Hunt a Killer."  It's a monthly subscription box where you get clues to solve a murder.  It's supposed to be similar to the concept of Escape Rooms.  The storylines are done by mystery/thriller writers or something.  I'm excited to try the first one tonight. . . . best takeout burgers in town/wine/hunting serial killers from the warmth and comfort of my own house?  Yes please!

    short+sassy
  • Re: Halp!!!! Sil wants baby at bachelorette

    *Barbie* said:
    Ok I need to clarify.  I could care less about the baby at the bachelorette.  She wont remember.  I'm not sure about All that's going on but from what my friends said there involved some sort of blow up man shaped ring toss.  My fmil is extremely conservative.  The raunchiest of the activities are to be going on at my house.  We are in 3 days out.  She texted at 130am and didn't tell me.  Sorry for my misuse of words I should have used raunchy instead of real.  Honestly I didn't expect both of them to come.  I am mortified that we have to tell my fmil I'm embarrassed to have her around my house this weekend.  I want the raunchy silly bachelorette cuz I thought it would be fun.  And Like i said I would have understood if one of them dropped out of the wedding when they found out But it's like we have changed so many things about our day for this baby and it's always on the fly or never asked of us.  We are just told.

    The baby is ~4mo - so assuming that FSIL announced the pregnancy at the end of the first trimester, you've been aware of the baby for 10+ months. This isn't exactly unexpected.


    You mentioned that fSIL was not pregnant when she and fBIL were asked to be in the wedding party, which means that you asked them at least 13 months ago.

    Did you expect people to put their lives on hold (for more than a year!) until you got married? What would you have done if another WP member had a child?


    Maybe they're the only couple that's invited that had children, but when you plan a DW, you need to understand that it can be very difficult for parents to travel overnight without their kids - even with a good local support system. When you tell parents that their kids aren't invited to the DW, you're putting them in a difficult spot - they need to figure out extended childcare or decline. Like I said in my PP - if someone knowingly put me in that position, I'd be pissed off. I would assume they expected me to decline, and would be reevaluating my relationship with that person - why bother to "invite" me at all?

    It sounds like you were hoping that your fSIL and her H would quit the wedding party once she got pregnant, or decide they weren't going to attend the wedding - which is honestly pretty shitty. It sounds like they are trying to fulfill the commitment that they made to be in the WP.

    The only change that you really needed to make was agreeing to allow one exception to the "no kids" rule, and let your fSIL and her H bring their infant. They can sort out the logistics of what to do with the baby once they get there.

    Actually no they announced the baby within five minutes of us asking them to be bridesmaids.  We were ecstatic. But we had issues since day one.  We planned for the baby to stay in the hotel room.  I'm sorry.  I did everything in my power at their wedding to do exactly what they wanted.  Including finding seating for uninvited guests, set up, getting screamed at a wedding coordinator for the husbands family brining in 50 pies, and stopping 2 kids from knocking over the wedding cake for fun (i didn't grab them I grabbed their parents from the bar).  

    It's not about the wedding So much. We have talked with his family about constantly getting thrown under the bus at the drop of a hat.  What I am upset about is that she continues to do this.  That she and her husband make snide comments to us about the right way to buy and house and be married first. Or about my religion. Or about 500 other things that show how they are better than us because they did/do x y z according to gods law.  I'm tired of being tried to be made to feel ashamed of myself.  Im tired of constantly having to be polite.  At what point can I say enough is enough without being a bitch. Because not even telling me my fmil was coming to my house to stay with your child who was gonna be a surprise at a bachelorette party doesn't seem very courteous to me. 

    Please stop with this.  If your FI is having a conversation with them it needs to be about the problems you are having with your upcoming wedding and what you both feel needs to change.  Holding onto the past isn't healthy, and bringing up old stuff like this over and over is damaging to the relationship in its entirety.  People do sucky things sometimes. . . . . if you let them do sucky things to you, you need to deal with the consequences.  You didn't have to do any of those things at her wedding, you chose to, and now you're throwing it back in their face.  Not fair!

    With that being said. . . . I do think that they are treating you poorly currently as it relates to your wedding

    OliveOilsMom
  • Re: How to honor single friends at your wedding?

    Shine4Him said:
    Nearly 1/3 to 1/2 of my wedding guests will be single. My singles' group has been among my biggest friends and supporters over the years, and I want to do something to honor them at my reception. But I am not finding many ideas anywhere - most wedding traditions do things to honor long-married couples, and the bouquet/garter toss is usually hated by singles. I'm not trying to point out how single they are, but I wanted to do something for them special, just like we honor our married couples. Any ideas?

    Play good music you can all dance to, provide good booze and food, laugh and enjoy their company.
    southernbelle0915InLoveInQueensmissfrodoSTARMOON44eileenrobahoyweddingPrettyGirlLost
  • Re: Lonely Tuesday

    Anyone around?

    I am.  Our company gave us Friday and Monday off.  I have 2 doctor appointments today so came in early, expecting to have something in my inbox to keep my busy that I was expecting Thursday.  Nope.  Nada.  

    Hopefully everyone's Christmas was good? My parents came into town.  We opened gifts Sunday because H worked all day yesterday (up till 4 a.m. today actually) and then visited my nephew and SIL/brother yesterday.

    One of my friends got engaged yesterday too! So excited for her.  Now, I have 4 wedding to attend in 2018 (she said it would be a 2018 wedding).  I was a person who went to one wedding every 4 years to now 4 in one year!

    I always get so excited for Christmas proposals, they seem so romantic and sweet. . . . then the lawyer in me cringes!  One of my lawyer coworkers got engaged this Christmas, come on!
    OliveOilsMom