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   Reply by Blergbot · January 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I didn't change my last name. I'm very attached to it as part of my identity. It's been my name my whole life, so why would I change that? My H was totally in agreement and it never even came up as an issue. But we were undecided on having kids. Hypothetically, I was cool with our hypothetical child having my H's last…

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   Reply by phira · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I'm not changing my last name, which surprises AND doesn't surprise a lot of people (and a lot of the same people). I'm a pretty vocal progressive feminism, and I'm a scientist, so a lot of people have assumed that I won't change my last name to either prove a point about feminism, or because I'm published professionally.…

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   Reply by LadyMillil · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I feel you on this. It is very important to my DH that I take his last name. I have started to establish a career using my maiden name so I don't want to give it up completely. I was planning on either moving maiden to middle or having 2 last names (I don't like hyphenated names) but the province I live in doesn't accept…

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   Reply by wandajune6 · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I planned to change my name. DH said he didn't care one way or another, though he assumed I would change it. When I told him that I planned to change my mind, he seemed apathetic. I love the idea of sharing his name. I love the idea of the tradition, having the same name as his son, etc. But I realized I can't do it. I…

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   Reply by JaniV123 · January 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   We have had this discussion and so far no one is changing of hyphenating the names. Its not traditional here in Puerto Rico to change your name, just socially you can be called "Mary Jane Martinez of Lopez" instead of using both last names. We considered both cnaging our last name to a hyphenated one to have the same last…

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   Reply by luckya23 · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I never intended to take his name, which was one of my requirements that he be fine with (ex was not)! However as it gets closer he seems a little sad about it. Our compromise was supposed to be that I don't go over the top correcting anyone who addresses me by his name. Maybe some day it will feel right to change it, but…

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   Reply by JennyColada · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I felt a bit sad about it, so I decided to move my maiden name to my middle name and change my middle name. Now that I've actually changed my name, I really feel indifferent about it. I almost feel odd that I made such an effort to keep my maiden name, and now sort of wish that I would have just kept my middle name and…

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   Reply by flutteringinfl · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I struggle with this as well. I like my FI's last name and for me personally, taking his last name appeals to me because it helps solidify that unit. But I also have plenty of friends who didn't take their husband's last name and they are no less members of the same family than someone who did do this. There's also the…

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   Reply by anjemon · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I know some people who have kept their maiden name for business. Mostly in the sciences where you publish an article and it's linked to your name. Then when you get married and change your name your article "disappears". Not literally of course, but you stop being associated with your published works. So they kept using…

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    Discussion by marg1046 · November 2014 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

    I hope I'm posting this in the correct forum. :) I don't know what it is, but as of late, I have had moments of sadness thinking about changing my last name. I am one of those that is very proud of my family and who I am. I love my last name and my last name also carries weight in my community as we have an established…