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   Discussion by aliciag2015 · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   ladies I need some advice.. Choosing bridesmaids was tough for me as I don't have a lot of close girlfriends (always enjoyed solo pursuits and have a low tolerance for girly backstabby bs) so I decided to keep it all in the family - chose my cousin for my MoH, and my step sister and my finances cousin for the other spots.…

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   Reply by jenijoyk · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   In my 35 years, I have definitely learned that the women who love to drop any iteration of the "I do not get along with women" statement are BYYYY FAAAAAR the most backstabby. 

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   Reply by artbyallie · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   Why would you even quantify 'backstabby bs' as 'girly,' though? I mean, you are a woman, are you not? Yet you clearly think yourself above such behavior (whether that's accurate or not). Why insult a specific half of humanity like that? As I said before, that's sexist. Men can be backstabby too. And frankly, no one as…

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   Reply by esstee33 · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   Did you actually ask them each, PRIVATELY, what they would be able to spend? Because the way you're phrasing this suggests otherwise. If I was the one person in a group of people who all said, in a group, "Yeah, $100 is fine!" that couldn't afford that much, it would feel SO shitty and humiliating to be like "actually, I…

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   Reply by southernbelle0915 · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   Hm... So did you ask their budgets before you picked something? What are you expecting of your MOH? All I know of you is this post but it really sounds like you need to take a deep breath, hop down from that wedding princess pedestal and get some perspective. Treat your friends like the guests of honor they are and don't…

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   Reply by PrettyGirlLost · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   I don't mean to harsh, but your issues seem to be that you aren't very skilled at dealing with relationships, period- gender has nothing to do with it. You asked your cousin, who is supposedly in a bad relationship that magnifies and worsens latent self esteem and mental health issues, to be your BM and then you are…

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   Reply by aliciag2015 · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   Hey ladies! First off - thanks for your feedback! Next I'd like to dispel the budget issue - I absolutely consulted with the girls about their budgets and came in under our agreed $100 budget. Erinlin made a good point about H cousin probably wanting to save up at her own pace.. And I'd also like to clarify what I meant…

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   Reply by TrixieJess · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

   Firstly, did you ask each BM what their budget was for the dresses before you bought them? Secondly, what sorts of things do you think your BMs are "supposed" to do? They need to show up for the wedding, relatively sober, in a dress. One thing that stood out in your description was that you had to "fill the spots"...no you…

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    Reply by QOTC2016 · May 2015 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Moms and Maids

    I'm sorry I threatened your unique identities by saying I wasn't into the girly backstabby bs.. It obviously struck a chord with you.. drunkenwitch I didn't understand your statement bc I think you were missing a word or 2 in your sentence to make it comprehensible. I did catch the knife comments though .. I'm pretty…