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1. Re: Irrationally irritated - assumptions about last name change

   

   Reply by MairePoppy · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   You should give a pass to anyone who assumes you've changed your last name until you've corrected them. If you're sending out marriage announcements, you could enclose little cards printed with your correct names and address. You should tell the nursing home staff and your coworkers your correct name the first time they…

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   Reply by photokitty · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   Having not charged my name and dealing with similar situations, I think you are being a little irrational. Minus your SIL, someone who knows and refuses to call you by the proper name is just being an ass. Truth is, as you stated, most women still change their name - so the assumption you did is innocent, until you set…

3. Irrationally irritated - assumptions about last name change

   

   Discussion by spockforprez · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   Just need to vent... I've been pretty vocal on TK about not changing my name and I've actually been fairly vocal in my real life about it, too. Not in an annoying preachy way, but just talking about it when it comes up and never hesitating to share my thoughts and opinions on the topic. People in the hospital and at the…

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   Reply by SP29 · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   That's weird and annoying. I've never had anyone tell me how to change my name (I had to figure that out) or ask me. I would never assume. My mom still has her married name, even though she and my dad have been apart for 7+ years. I know lots of people who have kept their married name, or keep it for work purposes. I did…

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   Reply by thisismynickname2 · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   Auto-fill. The WORST for these kinds of cases. I e-mailed my boss from my personal account once to report a sick day and now I've gotten some calendar invites from her to my personal account. Sigh. When our e-mails change, IT makes sure that anything to the old address routes to the new. Now that I keep seeing my old name…

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   Reply by PrettyGirlLost · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   It was explained previously in this thread why congratuating the bride is actually rude. . .it's because it's sexist. "Congrats honey on actually snagging a man!" It's not that you can't say Congrats, but that best wishes is preferable based on previous explanations. And even so, ppl shouldn't really get their panties so…

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   Reply by PamBeesly524 · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   When I was on my honeymoon two of my coworkers went ahead and took the initiative to ask IT to change my email address to my new last name. I did take H's last name but I don't think they even knew I was going to at that time. I was super annoyed - first because it's MY email address, but also because I was planning on…

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   Reply by spockforprez · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   I do correct people - sorry, didn't mean to give the impression that I don't. (Except for the folks in the hospital as I mentioned.) It's just so many people making the assumption that it seems I have to do it multiple times per day, every day. If someone said, "I noticed you haven't changed your name on facebook," or even…

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   Reply by spatulahands · April 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

   FMIL is a doctor and didn't change her name. Whenever there are fancy work parties, his dad calls them "Mr. [FMIL's last name] Events." Whenever anyone used to say, "Oh, you must be Mr [FMIL's last name]," he would respond, "actually, I kept my maiden name," until she made him stop.

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    Reply by NavyBlue143 · March 2016 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Chit Chat

    I had a casual acquaintance on FB tell me it was time I changed my name on FB, since I had been married a few months. In his comment, he misspelled my first name. I not so politely responded that if he couldn't spell my first name right when it was right in front of him, he didn't have much room to tell me what to do with…