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1. What are you changing your name to?

   

   Discussion by SMTreadway · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   So my FI got his panties in a budge the other day when the topic came up of me changing my maiden name to my middle name and taking his last name. He claims it's untraditional, and only what independent feminists do and that I may as well just hyphenate my last name since I don't want to take just his. Of course, he's…

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   Reply by mandi921vh · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I plan to keep my last name, I understand many woman take their husbands last name, but I feel like if I change my last name to his last name I am losing my identity in a way. My FI and I have realized that although we have traditional ideas about the wedding and such we have a lot of nontraditional ideas. I was surprised…

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   Reply by happygirl38 · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I'm very lucky in that my FI is ok with whatever I do with my name. So I think I'll add his name to mine with no hyphen. I've never been fond of my first name and love my middle name so maybe now's the time to change that up!!! :) I'm very glad he came around, that "independent feminist" thing really had me worried for…

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   Reply by acrichie · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I've always thought that changing your existing last name to your middle name and taking your husband's last name is traditional. It's what my mother did. I am in the interesting predicament of going by my middle name. Four names seems like too much for me, and I am definitely taking my fiance's name once we're married.…

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   Reply by Heckulia · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I've struggled with this quite a bit since getting engaged - there *is* a feminist part of me that thinks it's silly to change my name. I especially don't like being asked to do something that my man is not willing to do... but as it turns out, my man is willing to change his. He thinks the name change is important - so…

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   Reply by littlemisssara · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   IMO I think it's disrespectful to your husband to NOT take his last name, BUT I don't see an issue with changing your name to: First name, Maiden Name, His last name. If it's important to you to keep your maiden name as part of your name, he should try to see it from your perspective. It's not like you're getting married…

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   Reply by nychriss · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   Independent feminist here. I'm not changing my name at all, so you should tell your fiancé that's what some terrible independent feminists do, and he should count his lucky stars you're rearranging your name for him at all. That being said, it's all about choice. You can be a feminist and not change your name, or change it…

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   Reply by fianceekathryn · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   We just got engaged and haven't set a date yet, but I'm 90% sure I'm going to go with FirstName MiddleName HisLast. My first name and middle name are my paternal and maternal grandmother's middle names, respectively, and I'd hate to lose that connection to my maternal grandmother. I've considered not changing at all- my…

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   Reply by mysticl · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

   I know lots of people who make their maiden name their middle name. Just make sure you are doing it legally. In some states the marriage license only serves to change your last name, any other changes have to be done through the courts. Personally, I'm not making my last name my middle name because I am called by both my…

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    Reply by becgrose · August 2010 · Home› Wedding Discussion Boards› Wedding Customs & Traditions Forum

    My mom also dropped her middle name and her maiden name became her middle name. I won't do that because my maiden name and new last name will sound funny together. But the older I have gotten the more I have considered it; also the older I have gotten the more I have considered not changing it at all. I could understand if…