Sorry for the rushed post... I'm new and not exactly sure how this works.
So my wedding is in a month (Nov. 4). Although I love each of my bridesmaids to death, I'm the first one of our group to get married and I'm having a bit of an issue with what they think is my responsibility to pay for.
We're having a yacht wedding, which is looking like its going to cost around 500$ per person. Now, my husband and I are happy to pay for that, especially since a lot of people are coming from out of state to come to the wedding.
I bought the bridesmaids dresses. This was also not an issue for me, since I assumed I would get to pick the style I wanted for my wedding.
Wrong.
They've been disagreeing for months now about the style and color, length and fit of the dress. In my thought process, since I'm shelling out 250$ a dress, that I should be the one to choose. But apparently not. Everyone has a problem with everything I like.
Not only that. Suddenly now they want me to buy their shoes. I mean, who doesn't already own a black pair of heals?
I'm not finished.
They also all wanted to know how the (200$ an hour) hair and makeup team were going to style their hair and makeup! Unbelievable! They didn't even ASK me if I had booked the team for their benefit, they just assumed that I had. Not only that, they've been arguing about going up or down. Quite frankly I couldn't give a **** what their hair and makeup looks like, much less throw out another 1000$ so that they can look pretty for a day.
To top that off, they've all collectedly decided they want matching clutch purses and that somehow I'm supposed to pay for it.
And that's not all.
Since all but one of my bridesmaids is coming from at least 3 hours away, they just informed me (just today) that they thought that *I* was going to provide them with hotel lodging. They seriously thought I was going to pay for each and every one of them to have a separate hotel room with their boyfriends. When I told them that lodging was really up to them, one of my bridesmaids huffed and said *did you just want us to sleep in our cars at night?!?*
Again, not all.
My maid of honor sent me an email today asking *So what have you planned for the bachelorette party? Are you taking us somewhere nice or are we just going to go drinking?*
Maybe I'm crazy, but I thought it was the bridesmaids duty to plan the bachelorette party. Especially since she lives in the city where it's taking place (chicago) and I live in... oh lets see.... TOKYO.
I just don't know what to do anymore. Am I overreacting? Am I really supposed to pay for all of this stuff? The wedding and reception alone costs $30,000 not include the 7 plane tickets from Japan to the US we paid for so my husbands family could join.
I'm afraid if I just sit them down and explain that this isn't a shopping spree for them and that they'll have to take care of at least some of the expenses.... that I'll end up with no bridesmaids.
Am I being dramatic, or are they mooching off of me?