How many of you are friends with your FMIL on Facebook?
I recently unfriended mine because it was something I needed to do for me and my self esteem. She "creeps" on my pictures then makes snarky comments online or to me in person. She basically called me a slut when she saw my Halloween costume last year (which is in my siggy). I just couldn't do it anymore. She tried to add me back and I haven't responded. I guess I'm wondering what should I do if she brings it up to me next time we talk? I don't want anymore problems but I just couldn't do it anymore. Thanks for the help.
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[QUOTE]I'm friends on fb with my FMIL and other future in-laws. But she's pretty cool, down to earth. If your FMIL is making comments like that, I agree with your choice to unfriend her and keep her in fb friend purgatory. If she brings it up, be honest. Just let her know that her comments hurt you, so you'd prefer to even be put in that situation by being friends on fb.
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FI has even tried talking to her but she makes a bunch of passive aggressive comments so she thinks she's not in the wrong. Then she's hurt that FI is taking my side but plenty of people have noticed her comments so it's not like FI is stepping out of line or anything. My mom's not a big fan of her either because of the way she treated me when FI got hurt
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I'm friends with my in-law son facebook, but they never ever use it, and I'm a grown up. I wouldn't let anyone make those kinds of comments towards me without me snipping back. It's out of line and inappropriate. Honestly, if I were in your situation, I would be honest to her about why I deleted her... But I am lucky enough to have in-laws that I can be blunt towards,and you may not be so lucky.
Don't stress it. It's the internet.. she'll get over it. If she can't play nicely, neither should you.
[QUOTE]If she makes any comment to you about not being "friends" on facebook anymore, just play dumb. Facebook has had so many new updates, that it's been all kinds of tweeky. It's a good excuse to blame the internet, and just continue to forget to add her back. whatever. fb is not for old people anyway :P I'm friends with my in-law son facebook, but they never ever use it, and I'm a grown up. I wouldn't let anyone make those kinds of comments towards me without me snipping back. It's out of line and inappropriate. Honestly, if I were in your situation, I would be honest to her about why I deleted her... But I am lucky enough to have in-laws that I can be blunt towards,and you may not be so lucky. Don't stress it. It's the internet.. she'll get over it. If she can't play nicely, neither should you.
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]<div>I tried to play nice but I just can't do it anymore. I went home a couple weekends ago and saw his 12 year olds sister binder had pictures on it from my facebook
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[QUOTE]Well.. I don't see a big deal about that... She's 12... She probably looks up to you and I remember when I was young I would put all my friends/family/pet pictures all over my school stuff.
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That's true but she doesn't have a Facebook so her mom did it...thus all the comments (that I went back and deleted because they were either stupid or rude). I just wish our relationship was like it was before. I feel like she doesn't value me as part of their family's lives when I have been for over 3 years and will for the rest of our lives<div>
</div><div>ETA there weren't any pics of me either, just our cats and one of FI in Afghanistan </div>
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[QUOTE]I deleted and blocked all my ILs. There was some drama, some not-nice emails to my husband about me, etc. We told them I deactivated my account. It's been a year and a half or so and life is better without them on my FB. They've asked me to get a new FB page, but I just play dumb and say I don't like spending so much time on the computer.
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I tempted to just block her but started with deleting her. I accidentally sent a text about her to her instead of a friend (I needed to vent when we were around each other so much when FI was in the hospital) She read it and asked me about it and I told her I felt like she thought I was more in the way than anything when I actually helped FI WAY more than her and she was supposed to be his non medical assistant. (She wouldn't even push his wheelchair when you could see him get tired! I always pushed and put the wheelchair away/set it up for him. I'm not complaining I was happy to do it I just hated that she wouldn't do a thing!) She then turned it around to make me feel bad saying she felt like she was only there to pay bills and give rides. I wish I could've told her how I really felt but it would've just exploded when it was already a really stressful situation. FI was snapping on her among others because he was injured and in the hospital and that was to be expected. But she brought all of it on herself. She would ask stupid questions to doctors that FI already knew the answers to and she'd do little things to nag at him.
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I am sorry you have to deal with this. I am pretty lucky to have great in laws.
FI's family is all up on the FB though, so that's mainly how he communicates with him. I'm not friends with his Mom, Dad, or bro, but I have ended up being friends with his Grandma (Mom's Mom). Considering that FMIL and I don't have a great relationship, my relationship with her mother is pretty good. FMIL cut her parents out of her and FI and his bro's life when they were six. Nothing bad happened, but her parents were out of their life until Facebook brought them back in. So I'm trying to mend fences for FI and his Grandma, and I like that she's able to see what's going on in his life now.
Trust me, I get in-law issues, but it sounds like you have way more issues than FB, just definitely try not to put your FI in the middle, it's a crappy place to be. And I agree with Crown, she sounds like a total drama-llama, I'd just try to keep her as uninvolved as possible.
I used to have it so only a few friends could see my pictures (like a group of 10 people total). I have since undone that, but I'll probably go back to it soon.
I'm friends on FB with FMIL, FFIL, and all 3 FSILs (and the former step-sister of FI, not sure how I'd call that but the acronym would probably be confusing!). I'm also friends on FB with my Mom and two of my grandmas. So I tend to keep things on FB pretty PG-rated anyway (heck, my life is pretty PG-rated).
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