I really try not to ever discuss the wedding with anyone that's not my FI, parent or future in-law. If a friend asks me a question, I'll answer. But I don't go into much detail. What's really irritating is that when people forget that this is my second wedding - this isn't my first rodeo. One of my good friends is guilty of this. I know she's trying to be helpful, but it just annoys me!
So this weekend we hung out with my FI's good friends and their 3 year old son. The wife badgered me with questions all day. When we first got into their car, she said to her son, "Matty, are you excited to go to ClimbingBride and FI's wedding?" Uh. We're only inviting FI's step-sister's kids who are 12 and 13. That's it. No other kids!
I then spent the rest of the day defending my decisions.
"What does your cake look like?"
"We're not having a traditional wedding cake. I'm bringing in layer cakes and cheesecakes from my job."
"Oh. Why?"
"What kind of flower centerpieces are you getting?"
"I'm not doing floral centerpieces."
"Oh."
"What kind of discount is the hotel giving? Are you doing an after party? You're going to have a shuttle bus, right?"
And then she went on and on about how delicate my ring is (it's an opal, I know!) and how I have to be super careful with it - this is something she lectures me about every time I see her. Lady, I'm 33, not 5. Fucking stop it!