Alright....I may have had a semi blow-up at a friend. I know I was probably in the wrong and have since apologized, but what I thought had been addressed clearly didn't sink in and I'm at that tipping point again. I don't want another repeat of this past weekend so I need some helpful ways to bring this up or ways to politely change topics without coming across as a huge bitch.
I have a friend that got engaged last May (I am the MOH) and is getting married two weeks before me in July. No problem there. I thought it would be cool to be able to bounce ideas off of eachother and have someone in the same boat timeline wise......Oh My Goodness.....Since the day she got engaged, we have NOT had a single conversation about anything other than her wedding. I am in no way exagerating. All she talks about is her wedding, her wedding, her wedding....It's never ending and I am starting to really reach the end of my rope. I thought it would settle down a bit once she got a few months into the engagement but NOPE. If anything, it's become more and more prevelant. In the last two months she has started texting me bridesmaid shoe color ideas at 6:00am. At 11:30pm on a weeknight, my phone light goes off with texts about new hair clip ideas for her flowergirl. (I have already had to silence her text alerts to vibrate becasuse they are so frequent) At 7:00am on a Sunday, my phone is going off about a possible change in her cake flavors. I get off of work and I have 5+ texts on why I havent answered about her picture she sent me of wedding favor ideas. Any time we talk, no matter what I say, everything is right back to her wedding. I am ok not talking about mine often, I don't expect everyone to be thrilled at hearing details of my wedding, but it's hurtful that she has NOT once asked about how planning is going for me or even how things are going in my life, i.e work, school, upcoming vacations, life in general, etc.
It finally came to head this last weekend when she was texing me at 10:00pm on Valentie's Day wanting to know what I thought about adding glitter to the bridesmaid boquets. I sent her a text and told her I was busy with homework and would talk to her the next day about the boquets...five minutes later it was text after text of pictures and questions if I had gotten them....I called FI to say goodnight and turned my phone off so I could finish homework in peace. The next night FI and I ended up going to a last minute concert and around 11:00pm the texts come pouring in...She was asking about the boquets again and now about changing bridesmaid shoes. Told her I was at a concert and shut my phone off....7:00am the next morning my phone starts blowing up again with questions about shoes. I told her that it was too early to be worried about bridesmaid shoes and that I was still in bed...."I am sorry I seemed to have bothered you and btw, it is never too early to talk about weddings" (Ok here is where my mini meltdown came in. It was a late night and an even earlier morning so I was, well, crabby and had had enough) I picked up my phone, called her, and went all sorts of off on her. Needless to say she hung up on me and didnt talk to me the rest of the day. By the next day, I felt bad for going off and called to apologize. I told her I loved her and was happy for her but I really was burned out on anything wedding related. I don't want to talk about her wedding 24/7, hell I dont want to talk about mine a fraction of that time. I told her I was really hurt that she hasn't even asked how my day is going in over 9months. I hated to admit it but I was to the point where I didn't care what she picked. She could put me in a mustard yellow, zebra printed, hoopskirt BM dress and I wouldn't care. I was burned out and I needed a break. She said she understood and wanted to be a good friend.......three days later and WE'RE RIGHT BACK WHERE WE WERE BEFORE!!! Gaaaaaaaahhhh I really am at the end of this rope. It's calls at 11pm to discuss hairstyles and 6am texts to ask cupcake toppers that I am really getting tired of. It's just being inconsiderate and I'm just getting burned out.
What do I do ladies? Have any of you been through this? How did you handle it? I don't want to snap on her again but I'm honestly sick of hearing about anything freaking related to her wedding. Am I just being selfish? I don't mind it every now and then But I NEED a break. should I just ignore her for a week (I feel that is really rude though) Should, I bean dip my way through the next week or two and not engage in any wedding talk? I have tried mentioning that I think we both need a break and need to unwind a bit. I've told her I miss my pre-wedding friend and hate that we never talk about anything except the wedding. What are your thoughts?? I am getting to the point where I don't even want to talk about mine or look at anything remotely wedding realted. I don't eat, breathe, and sleep weddding 24/7. It's not my thing. If she called and wanted to spend an hour talking about a cloud she saw that day, I would be beyond extactic.