I asked a friend of mine to be a bridesmaid over 2 months ago and after consideration, she said no due to financial reasons. She lives out of state and the trip would have been expensive for her. I understood and didn't pressure her in any way. Fast forward to this past weekend, and she asked if she could still be a bridesmaid, because she had airline miles she could use. (why she didn't want to use them when I asked her is beyond me.)
A I wrong, or is this incredibly presumptive on her part? The wedding is in two months and it's too late to get the dress as they're coming from another country and the shipping time is long. Not to mention that when she said no, I asked someone else and certain arrangements have already been made to accommodate the group of peole who said yes when I asked. I know it will kill her to tell her no, but I really have no choice. I am dreading this conversation because I care about her and do not want to hurt her, but the answer has to be no.
Advice, please?