...and this is why I'm here.

kmj500

southernbelle0915 said:

Technically it IS against etiquette to use labels, but IMO it's not hurting anyone. I printed directly on the envelope. Guilty, I guess.

As far as the bar goes, just host what you (general you) can afford. If you can't afford to host alcohol, don't have it. Dry weddings are totally cool etiquette wise. If you can but can't afford the full open bar, beer and wine and/or signature drink is totally within etiquette.

I agree with Maggie - switching from open to cash bar isn't only rude, it's confusing for guests. I'd be totally confused and embarrassed if the bartender was like, "that'll be $6" and I'd be all "but... 5 minutes ago..? uh, hold on (fumbles back to seat to look for cash)" If there was a sign that said they'd switch to cash bar, I'd just order double drinks and keep them at my table.

I have received numerous invitations and thank you cards that have either been sent through a printer or have clear labels. It honestly doesn't offend me in the least because you toss it away as soon as you get it anyway. I'm more concerned about what's inside. I do agree that writing your own or getting a calligrapher is a nice touch, but for those of us with ugly/messy writing and budget restraints, I don't think it's the end of the world, or that anyone genuinely cares.

ohannabelle

No, it doesn't bother me. And I don't mind a printed envelope. I appreciate and enjoy the extra effort when it's there, and appreciate the lovely invitation either way.

APDSS22

Amyzen83 said:

So I've been designing the invitations for my sisters wedding and throughout her planning there were many points in which etiquette was being breached and these were in areas that matter most I discovered wedding wire is where her site is being hosted and I was thinking "figures" they practically encourage and pander to the princessy snowflake bridezillas

My SIL just got engaged (as in, a week ago) and she's already found TK.  Made me so happy.

PolarBearFitz

Wow...some of those girls responses sound so selfish and uncaring. Glad I found TK so I can make my guests comfortable and happy! Nothing like a happy guest who feels honored at your wedding rather than bothered by it.

CaliMel11

cowgirl8238 said:

KatWAG said:

JustNicki said:

It just rankled me that it quickly escalated into people complaining about TK. It's like, they got all butthurt and left, but they have to be so vocal about it everywhere else.

I only saw one person make a reference to TK.

On the second page there were three more references. In a nut shell they think we are all bitches over here because we don't blow sunshine up their asses and break all the "rules" becuase they're special. I think my favorite post was the one where the woman wrote:

"I disagree with the the whole plus one idea. The only people who are getting a date are those who are married or engaged. A few of our friends get a date, but thats only because we are also friends with their gf/bf. But if we don't know your S/o, sorry no date.
Also only one invite per household- not going to waste the money to send 4 invites to family just because their adult children failed to launch.
We are doing a dollar dance.
We are doing a honeyfund.
We are doing an online RSVP
We are allowing the bartender to put out a tip jar.
Also no one under 21 is getting an invite and any who responds with an extra person on the RSVP will be told no (not that these are against etiquette)"

Just can't even think about how horrible her wedding will be.

I don't even get why people wouldn't allow a plus one? That just seems so so rude to me. I guess I'm crazy because I included peoples children and gave every single person a plus one even if they aren't "with anyone".
Like sure I'm not a fan of screaming kids at weddings, but I don't think it's right to not invite children. They need to be included at events, imho, and part of growing up is learning to act correctly at those. Plus I loved going to weddings as a child. It was fun to me.
I can see what they mean about the 1 invite per household, but at the same time, it's nice for everyone to get their "own" invitation instead of having it grouped together like it's a potluck or something.

I've seen some threads on here get a little...touchy, but that's every message board on the whole internet. It's not specific to this one!

winnipegwriter

@phira I actually much prefer WW, but to each her own.

jenniferurs

CaliMel11 said:

cowgirl8238 said:

KatWAG said:

JustNicki said:

It just rankled me that it quickly escalated into people complaining about TK. It's like, they got all butthurt and left, but they have to be so vocal about it everywhere else.

I only saw one person make a reference to TK.

On the second page there were three more references. In a nut shell they think we are all bitches over here because we don't blow sunshine up their asses and break all the "rules" becuase they're special. I think my favorite post was the one where the woman wrote:

"I disagree with the the whole plus one idea. The only people who are getting a date are those who are married or engaged. A few of our friends get a date, but thats only because we are also friends with their gf/bf. But if we don't know your S/o, sorry no date.
Also only one invite per household- not going to waste the money to send 4 invites to family just because their adult children failed to launch.
We are doing a dollar dance.
We are doing a honeyfund.
We are doing an online RSVP
We are allowing the bartender to put out a tip jar.
Also no one under 21 is getting an invite and any who responds with an extra person on the RSVP will be told no (not that these are against etiquette)"

Just can't even think about how horrible her wedding will be.

I don't even get why people wouldn't allow a plus one? That just seems so so rude to me. I guess I'm crazy because I included peoples children and gave every single person a plus one even if they aren't "with anyone".
Like sure I'm not a fan of screaming kids at weddings, but I don't think it's right to not invite children. They need to be included at events, imho, and part of growing up is learning to act correctly at those. Plus I loved going to weddings as a child. It was fun to me.
I can see what they mean about the 1 invite per household, but at the same time, it's nice for everyone to get their "own" invitation instead of having it grouped together like it's a potluck or something.

I've seen some threads on here get a little...touchy, but that's every message board on the whole internet. It's not specific to this one!



To answer your first question: budget, space, and/or not wanting a bunch of strangers at your wedding.

Dreamergirl8812

The most intelligent post on that thread was: "Etiquette, schmettiquette."

Yeah, I think I'll pass on Wedding Wire.