My fiancee and I just recently got engaged, and as we were telling our news we already asked the people we want to be in our wedding party. I know this is kind of soon, but it was gut instinct. We're each having 6, which is a lot--but these are the girls (high school & college friends and my cousin) I feel closest to, and I've always felt that I wanted them in my wedding.
The problem is that I'm in a wedding for another friend in July. When she found out I was engaged, she was super excited and has started saying all over the internet and to everyone she meets how lucky and excited she is to be engaged at the same time as one of her best girlfriends. I'm really excited about the circumstances too...except that I don't think I want her in my wedding party. She is a good friend of mine, but I just don't feel as close to her as I do to these other girls, and if I ask her to be in it I feel like I'm going to end up with an army of bridesmaids. Is it enough for me to tell her no for bridesmaid, but find another way for her to be involved on my wedding day?