My older sister is my MOH and just found out she's prego and due about 10 days after the wedding. I'm really concerned for her health and safety and I don't want her to be stressed out and go into an early labor. It's already stressing me out that she's pregnant and due so close to the wedding and I don't want her to have any problems. She still seems confident about being in the wedding party and being able to stand up, but at almost 9 months (at the time of the wedding) I don't think it's necessarily a great idea. It's a summer wedding and will be hot and she has expressed a little concern in needing to be able to use the bathroom whenever during the ceremony. I'm concerned that since this is her first baby she doesn't quite understand how taxing it is to be pregnant and thinks she will be Wonder Woman.
I've talked with her about this and she understands that I am concerned, but doesn't think it will be a big deal.
So...ladies in a similar situation - pregnant bridesmaids, MOHs, or if you were pregnant yourself when you got married. How did you do it? What would you have done differently? I know everyone is different, but I need to talk to real people about this.
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Re: HELP! MOH is pregnant and due 10 days after the wedding!
If she can attend the wedding, it would be a kindness to keep her off her feet as much as possible.
Stop stressing, the only thing you need to worry about is having a chair available for her in case she feels like she needs to sit instead stand during your ceremony. If it's going to be hot, maybe have a little hand fan & a bottle of water handy for her. Also just be mentally prepared that if she delivers early, she obviously won't be able to be there.
Enjoy your wedding planning process and let her enjoy the preganancy. Since this is her first, no one knows how she will be. She could be sick and miserable a lot, she could end up delivering early or late or even bed rest. Or on the more positive side, this could be one of the easiest pregancies to be seen. Only time will tell what will happen.
The less stress you are about the situation, the less stressed she will be.
Your sister can judge for herself whether it will be too much for her to be up front with you or not.
As PPs have suggested, follow your sister's lead, but understand she may not be able to attend your wedding. And if she can't, you don't find a sub for her - just means you don't have a MOH.