Why doesn't anyone seem to like my ring? Please be honest!

rajahmd

Holy fuck man. You looked at rings together, forced him to propose to you, and now you aren't happy with your ring. Are you happy with anything? You hate your ring, your proposal, your wedding. Sheesh. How do you have the energy to hate everything in your life?

rajahmd

Damn fucking double post.

southernbelle0915

What do y'all say about letting this ridiculous thread work its way down until it disappears from the front page....?

climbingsingle

southernbelle0915 said:

What do y'all say about letting this ridiculous thread work its way down until it disappears from the front page....?

Boo! I was just about to get my pitchfork! 

PrettyGirlLost

snljunkie said:

Okay, so I wear both of my rings daily (engagement and wedding band), and oddly enough, only my wedding band gets the occasional compliment, and not my engagement ring.  My husband and I did order my engagement ring through blue nile, and he likes it, and I just thought it was okay.  It IS different, since the norm is one round diamond set high.  Basically, we just never sent it back, when maybe we should have if I was unsure about it.  Ever since, I've been thinking of getting the diamonds reset in another ring for one of our anniversaries.  What are everyone's thoughts?  My husband says I can do what I wish, but that if it were him, he would rather keep the first ring no matter what, since it's got sentimental value - and although I see his viewpoint, I'm not sure I agree since I will be keeping the original diamonds.

Also, what are the honest thoughts on my rings?  No one will tell me in person what their thoughts are!  Thanks ahead of time!

I think both your rings are lovely.  However, I wouldn't just come up to you off the street and tell you I like your rings. . . I wouldn't want to come off as a creeper or that I was sizing you up to mug you. 

I discreetly check out people's rings and watches- and shoes, and purses, and clothes- all the time in public because I like jewelry and fashion.

PolarBearFitz

You are so full of fail and materialism that I...just...can't...even.

PrettyGirlLost

snljunkie said:

To all who commented on not getting complimented on their ring - I didn't know that was so common.  I have heard others in person get complimented on their rings, but it seems from PP's that it's rarer than I thought.

To all who commented on "external validation," well yes, that's correct if I'm totally honest.  I did grow up with no money in a very rich town and I was made fun of for my parents jobs and always was the kid with the crappy no-name brand clothes and 20 year old rusted and holes in the seats POSs.  I was never popular or even really understood, and I don't think I was very accepted.  I guess I was kind of a loner.  Anyway, yes, my husband and I are now doing well financially, and I do find myself trying to have a nicer status purse, car, or ring.  Otherwise, I'm the same person I always was.    In my experience, a lot of times the young,  nouveau riche are overly concerned with everyone knowing how much money they have, and it comes across as tacky and classless.  Don't be preoccupied with your social status as it pertains to money and worrying about other people knowing that you have now "made it" in life.  Wear the clothes and jewelry you like, buy the fancy purses, but don't expect people to compliment you on those things or be impressed by them.

When I get time tonight, I'll look at the links, TiaTea provided, thanks!  And thanks to others who were honest about whether they liked the rings or not.  I already was aware that the single stone is preferred, so I half expected the comments of it not being people's style.  

Does anyone prefer the three stone ring?  Absolutely I do.  I think solitaire settings are lovely too, but I am drawn to three stone settings for some reason.  Also, frankly ladies, my husband and I spent a lot of money on the rings, and if people don't like it, and I don't really like it, that sucks!  It sucks more if YOU don't like it.  One of the things I do like about it is that it does shine very nice since there are multiple good quality diamonds on it.  I also like that it's a good carat weight, but due to the setting, it's not too gaudy.  It's lower profile.  It doesn't scream it's carat weight.   

smalfrie19

Ok, I am chiming in here. I love three stone rings, as you can see by my sig, mine is a 3 stone but its not diamond.. but I think the fact that you FORCED your H to propose gives you NO ROOM to bitch...I will be honest I picked out my ring...but I picked it BECAUSE I LIKE IT.

PolarBearFitz

smalfrie19 said:

Ok, I am chiming in here. I love three stone rings, as you can see by my sig, mine is a 3 stone but its not diamond.. but I think the fact that you FORCED your H to propose gives you NO ROOM to bitch...I will be honest I picked out my ring...but I picked it BECAUSE I LIKE IT.

True that.

AddieCake

Something is rotten in Denmark. 

doeydo

I think you missed my point.  I personally dislike solitaire settings, but in your OP it sounded like you want one therefor I suggested making your ring into a solitaire setting.  The important thing is whether or not you like your ring.

winelover123

I personally don't like it. It's not ugly, but it's not my style. Why do you care what other people think? People compliment my ring because it's different (it garnet). I've found people tend to compliment or comment on jewelry that is out of the norm.

hlvonb

southernbelle0915 said:

Why do you care so much about what other people think of your ring? You're the one who has to wear it.

This. You got these rings because your husband committed his life to you and you wear them because you committed the same. Who fucking cares what anyone else thinks?

I could not have said this better myself.

hlvonb

Maggie0829 said:

It seems like the only way for you to be happy is to find a ring that people will constantly ooh and ahh over for years and years. Good look with that.

After reading through the last post you made right before @Maggie0829 commented, I have to say I agree and also good luck. You will waste money "upgrading" rings for that to happen and pretty soon the meaning behind the ring will be long gone and it will be just another ring.

Nikita2013

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

thejucheidea

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

JCbride2015

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

It sort of looks like she didn't read the thread... I hope.

FutureMr&MrsG

Swazzle said:

Why do you care so much about what other people think of your ring? You're the one who has to wear it.

This. Nobody elses opinion should matter. If you like it then great, if not, change it.

I am getting a heart shaped diamond, I'm sure not many people will like it but I love hearts and can not imagine myself with any other shape.

Fran1985

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

Didn't that poster do the same thing? I think she is the one that told her BF to go on a monthly payment plan to get her a ring. Not really a surprise that she agrees....

JCbride2015

Fran1985 said:

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

Didn't that poster do the same thing? I think she is the one that told her BF to go on a monthly payment plan to get her a ring. Not really a surprise that she agrees....

Oh yeah, I remember that thread.  I think the budget was like $50 or something, and the consensus was that if $25-$50 is stretching your ring budget.... maybe you need to figure out your personal finances before getting married.

thejucheidea

Fran1985 said:

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

Didn't that poster do the same thing? I think she is the one that told her BF to go on a monthly payment plan to get her a ring. Not really a surprise that she agrees....

I just looked back at her other posts, and yeah, she sounds like a joy.

PolarBearFitz

JCBride2014 said:

Fran1985 said:

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

Didn't that poster do the same thing? I think she is the one that told her BF to go on a monthly payment plan to get her a ring. Not really a surprise that she agrees....

Oh yeah, I remember that thread.  I think the budget was like $50 or something, and the consensus was that if $25-$50 is stretching your ring budget.... maybe you need to figure out your personal finances before getting married.

I believe they split up over the ring, fought, and then got back together. So he proposed twice...

Nikita2013

Fran1985 said:

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

Didn't that poster do the same thing? I think she is the one that told her BF to go on a monthly payment plan to get her a ring. Not really a surprise that she agrees....

Actually I had told him about it, but we both agreed not to. and so what if I do agree I do think its a very pretty ring and that's my opinion.

Nikita2013

JCBride2014 said:

Fran1985 said:

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

Didn't that poster do the same thing? I think she is the one that told her BF to go on a monthly payment plan to get her a ring. Not really a surprise that she agrees....

Oh yeah, I remember that thread.  I think the budget was like $50 or something, and the consensus was that if $25-$50 is stretching your ring budget.... maybe you need to figure out your personal finances before getting married.

 

Isn't this someone else's post, how did this turn out to be about me? And that's not even what the situation was about in the first place.

hellohkb

I like it a lot, but I also love it when rings and wedding bands don't match. What matters is that you like, not anyone else. From the sounds of your posts, it doesn't seem like you are happy with the ring, proposal, whatever. 

Get expectations that you read about on the internet or in magazines out of your head. What makes your ring, proposal, wedding, or whatever special, is that it happened between you and the person you love. This is about the commitment you and your partner are making, not trying to validate your past, you know?

Viczaesar

snljunkie said:

To all who commented on not getting complimented on their ring - I didn't know that was so common.  I have heard others in person get complimented on their rings, but it seems from PP's that it's rarer than I thought.

To all who commented on "external validation," well yes, that's correct if I'm totally honest.  I did grow up with no money in a very rich town and I was made fun of for my parents jobs and always was the kid with the crappy no-name brand clothes and 20 year old rusted and holes in the seats POSs.  I was never popular or even really understood, and I don't think I was very accepted.  I guess I was kind of a loner.  Anyway, yes, my husband and I are now doing well financially, and I do find myself trying to have a nicer status purse, car, or ring.  Otherwise, I'm the same person I always was.    

When I get time tonight, I'll look at the links, TiaTea provided, thanks!  And thanks to others who were honest about whether they liked the rings or not.  I already was aware that the single stone is preferred, so I half expected the comments of it not being people's style.  

Does anyone prefer the three stone ring?  Also, frankly ladies, my husband and I spent a lot of money on the rings, and if people don't like it, and I don't really like it, that sucks!  One of the things I do like about it is that it does shine very nice since there are multiple good quality diamonds on it.  I also like that it's a good carat weight, but due to the setting, it's not too gaudy.  It's lower profile.  It doesn't scream it's carat weight.   

Why on earth would it matter in the slightest if people don't like your engagement ring?

CLI242009

southernbelle0915 said:

What do y'all say about letting this ridiculous thread work its way down until it disappears from the front page....?

Totally off topic but where is this scene from?!?! I KNOW i know this movie/show...but I can't place it o.O!!

aefitz29 - thank you for the gif LMAO i was laughing so much, my co workers are looking at me like I'm crazy.

MyNameIsNot

CLI242009 said:

southernbelle0915 said:

What do y'all say about letting this ridiculous thread work its way down until it disappears from the front page....?

Totally off topic but where is this scene from?!?! I KNOW i know this movie/show...but I can't place it o.O!!

aefitz29 - thank you for the gif LMAO i was laughing so much, my co workers are looking at me like I'm crazy.

Now and Then.

huskypuppy14

OP, don't worry what other people think about your ring. If you don't like it, than maybe you should change it. I like 3 stone rings, I have a 3 stone engagement ring, but I think your ring looks way to big, and a little gaudy. It also doesn't go with your wedding band. I don't think the engagement and wedding band need to match exactly, but they should go together somewhat. Your rings are completely different styles, so it looks a little weird. 

Also, this isn't middle school anymore. People don't care if you have tons of money and can afford an expensive ring, car, house, etc.  And yes, people think those that flaunt it are tacky.

Nikita2013

JCBride2014 said:

thejucheidea said:

Nikita2013 said:

i really like both your engagement ring and wedding ring. who cares how you got it or whatever. and if you don't like it, i would say change it but that's just my opinion but i think its great that your husband agrees with you. you do what's best for you and your husband and don't mind anyone else.

'Who cares how you got it?' So you think it's cool to pressure a guy into proposing by buying the ring yourself, making reservations for the restaurant and telling him what not to do when proposing? Because that's what happened here, and if you think that's kosher, bless your heart.

It sort of looks like she didn't read the thread... I hope.

Sure the way she got proposed to is unusual, but what I meant was that this person and her husband seem happy and it shouldn't matter what other people think about the rings. But if SHE doesn't like it then i would say sure change it. As long as they have the financial means and everything there is nothing wrong with doing that. And as far as I go, my fiancee and I have worked it out and we decided that we are going to wait to get a new ring.