To cut the story short, I am no longer friends with an ex bridesmaid. I didn't want to cut her out but after very hurtful things her and her mom said to me, I decided that there was no way in heck that I wanted someone like her in my wedding. She's 5 years younger than me (18) so I am going to blame it on rudeness and immaturity at this point. When we went BM dress shopping, she paid for her 200 dollar dress herself. Months later, here we are, she's not in my wedding anymore. I didn't want it to come to that but she was one of the meanest people I have ever come across in my life and I had no choice. Now, my mom is saying I need to give her money for her dress. Is that fair? I own up to my faults but she was a flat out terrible person to me so why should I pay her for the dress? Would you?
Her being my 19 year old brothers gf isn't helping any of this. I have always been respectful to her and will continue to do so (especially for my brothers sake) but I just don't see how I should have to pay her for the dress when she is the one who said such horrible things to me and also let her mom (who doesn't know me) say horrible things as well. It was a bad situation. It was the most drama I have ever been in. I was being the adult in the situation, because not only should I be because of my age but because I was taught to! I couldn't believe the level she went down to after all that I have done for her.
My brother has asked me to try to be friends with her again and I just can't. I have forgiven friends in the past but she is not one I want in my life as a friend, ever.
Should I buy her dress back?
I am not trying to be rude or selfish but to me, I don't think I should have to. I am still hurt by it and just want to move on. I need advice.