My MOH just sent me a list of who she plans to invite to the bachelorette party and shower. The shower list is easy, since it's just my closest friends and family that will all be at the wedding. She wasn't sure about the bachelorette party list though. For background, I live in DC, my MOH and the shower are in NYC. There are 5 girls that she sent that are question marks that live in NYC that I'm pretty good friends with and often see when I visit. However, they are not invited to the DC wedding and reception. They are invited to a hometown honeymoon send off party (my mom named it that b/c I refused to let her have a "second reception") near NYC a few weeks after the wedding. Should I tell her to include them or not?