How to incorporate my step father

samanthasyph

I am struggling with this decision. My real father left our family and moved to CO with his new family. We speak maybe once every couple months. I am his only daughter but we have lost our father daughter connection. My step father has been more of a father to me in the last 5-6 years than my father has. I feel I have to have my real father walk me down the isle since I am his only daughter but I want my step father to be part of this day too.

HELP!!!!

Jen4948

This is me, but I would have my stepfather walk me down the aisle (note the spelling, please) if he is the one who has been the most like a father to you and has the "father-daughter" connection.

You don't have to choose your biological father to walk you down the aisle if you have a stronger such connection with your stepfather or someone else.

If you still prefer your biological father to walk you down the aisle, he could perhaps do it with your stepfather, or you can walk part of the way with one father and the rest with the other, or you could have a special dance with each.

manateehugger

Woah, first of all, you should not feel like you have to have your bio father walk you down unless you want him to. Many brides don't have their fathers walk them down the aisle. 

It is 100% the bride's decision on who her escort will be. If you want your stepfather, use your stepfather. If you want your dad, use your dad. 

You could also have more than one escort or have one light unity candle (or any other unity ceremonyyou may be doing)