I have the Knot 911 app and spend a good amount of time on there. It's pretty similar to the boards as there are a group of us that knows the correct etiquette for many situations and are just realistic and honest when people ask questions. Then there are the special snowflakes. A question came up within the past few days and many of us from the 1st group were horrified. But I'd love to know if this is a common and okay thing to ask of people. Because it sure doesn't seem so to me!
The post was a vent about how her hostess bought a dress in the wrong color and now she'd match the bridesmaids. Many of us were confused so we asked what she meant by hosting. The reply said, (and I quote), "....nor are they honorary bridesmaid with duties. nor am I requiring them to buy a specific dress. for my wedding a hostess that is attending to the grooms and groomsman making sure they are there, dressed, and ready to go at 5:45 sharp. I have someone who will be attending to the bridesmaids ensuring the same thing. then I have someone at the door who will yes manage the guest book, hand out the programs, and most importantly close the door at 5:45 so we can start the wedding. regarding this fuchsia dress, the same color as the bridesmaid's dresses. I told her I wanted them in yellow prior to her getting the dress. now she will really stand out b/c the other hostesses will be in yellow. I want my hostess to stand out from my bridesmaids but she is going to look like a last minute fill in for something...."
Some of us replied in horror, saying that this sounded like being a coordinator without getting paid or receiving the honor of a bridesmaid. I was also shaking my head at the fact that adults needed someone to babysit them while they got dressed, because god forbid they didn't remember their socks! I mean, my girls and I helped eachother get ready the day of. The guys did the same.
She got really mad at us and stooped to calling our (my?) wedding a mess and ass backwards (and said it was a courthouse wedding..what?? um no). Because she wouldn't get married at a courthouse or a barn so her day would be perfect and I needed a lesson in being in a wedding because those people have to wear WHAT I TELL THEM TO WEAR! ITS MY DAY AND IT WILL BE PERFECT! ahh. gag me.
alright, so tell me, were we wrong in our feeling this was a shit job that they were pretending is an "honor"? And is this a common thing, to have "hostesses?" Because last I checked a hostess or host was the one who hosted the event, not babysat the guests/wedding party.
ETA to fix terrible spelling
After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!