I will be 35, my fiance 38 by our October wedding. It will be my first marriage and my fiance's second. His first marriage was a courthouse ceremony when he was very young. In the wedding party, he wants his son (who will be 15 at the wedding), his 2 brothers, and his best friend. I have an identical twin sister who will be my MOH (I was hers, we're usually very close, and I just can't imagine her not being in that role), my fiance's sister, and a group of close girlfriends.
My fiance wants 4 people on his side. I think he'd actually like a 5th but keeps going back and forth on that. I can happily find the same number of girls. My sister keeps telling me that because we're so old, it's
inappropriate/pathetic. She's got this idea that it should be smaller,
less formal, etc. She got married at 30, had 175 people, and did
the big hotel wedding. Most of the girls I've been friends with for decades got married in their late 20's/early 30's but my friends from later years (grad school and after) are either single or got married in the last year.
So all of that said: are we too old for such large bridal parties? I know my sister gets bitter and bitchy when I'm happy (yeah, identical twins aren't always best friends) but I'm also second-guessing myself now and worrying about looking pathetic. My instinct is to say f*** it, but I want more opinions!